I think part of your problem, since you are taking this action, is that you are putting this behavior up on a mighty pedestal. Giving it a euphemism, asking for advice, telling yourself that the thoughts and words of others are going to have any effect whatsoever. This is not the way to go about controlling your dreams.
You need to approach this through the understanding that what is going to be happening is going to be based on your own worries and concerns, and harping on a lack of dream control and the fear of it all turning into sex is going to make you immediately think of these things, materialize what's necessary for them to happen, and cause you to go with the flow of the dream.
Instead, you need to start working on your dream stabilization, dream control, and dream motivation. What are these situations you're finding yourself lucid in? Are you pausing the dream to really just focus and become absolutely lucid so that you can have full control of your faculties and behavior and recall what your goals are?
What ARE you goals? Do you have exciting dream goals? Do you have things that you look so forward to doing that you truly understand that the sex would be a waste of time? You can jerk off while awake, but what can you do while you can do the impossible? Understand (since this appears to be your stance) that sex in dreams is a waste, that there are better things to do, and that you are going to do those better things. Have a list of goals, think of them every time you reality check. Remind yourself every night how incredible they are going to be, and think about how yet another orgasm pales in comparison to the impossible becoming possible.
Stabilize the dream. Once your lucidity is clear and stable, think of your goals. Don't think of your worries, focus on your goals. Just GET OVER sex, and challenge yourself with ways to accomplish other things in your dreams.
Yes, lucid sex is nice. Almost like real sex. But, I don't put in all of this effort, time, and work just to get off. For me, it's more than that. I don't LET myself get these instinctual distractions because to me, there are much better things to spend my lucids doing. Things where, at the end of the night, I won't have some simple memory of some simple pleasure my body experienced but I'll have a memory to be cherished that my mind accomplished.
(ps., if you want respect, you need to stop trolling the forums and thus earn respect. I'm going to keep an eye on this thread and lock it again if you can't behave yourself again. Maybe learning to control all your behavior will lead you to control your sexual behavior as well.)
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