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      How not to have sex?

      Help! I'm a monster, I can't stop myself.

      I keep ruining my LDs by trying to have sex. Every time I try it wakes me up. My libido is too powerful, even last night when I decided if I went lucid I would go flying and avoid sex, I did it anyway and woke myself up.

      Maybe if I had more sex in real life, but girls don't seem to appreciate Star Wars based chat up lines. Girls are weird.

      Anyone else any experience, and overcome this?

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      Unfortunately, I don't know how to overcome this. The only thing I can think of to do is to try and remember what it is that you want to do in an LD instead of having sex.

      Quote Originally Posted by PaddyMcNasty View Post
      Maybe if I had more sex in real life, but girls don't seem to appreciate Star Wars based chat up lines. Girls are weird.
      LOL

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      When you your falling asleep, either repeat one of these lines
      "I will lucid dream about [whatever]"
      Or
      "I will not have lucid sex"
      Though that may induce it.

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      Quote Originally Posted by PaddyMcNasty View Post
      Help! I'm a monster, I can't stop myself.
      Lol

      I agree with guitarboy. Set intentions before you go to sleep by way of mantras or autosuggestion.

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      Thanks for the feedback. I've been doing WBTB so I will try the mantra thing when I get up tomorrow morning and report back.
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      yeah I have the same issue. one of my dreamgoals is
      "talk to (female) DC's without molesting them [ ] "
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      Quote Originally Posted by guitarboy
      "I will not have lucid sex"
      Yeah, that will actually cause him to think about it more. The subconscious doesn't hear negatives, because "not" doing something isn't an action. It is the implied absence of an action, but the subconscious doesn't understand implications, therefore what it hears is "I will have lucid sex."

      How about saying something like "I really love to fly. I can't wait to fly. Flying is so fun. I can't wait to have superpowers, superpowers are so fun." etc. Or you could just learn how to control your dreams better so you can have so much sex you'll get bored of it.

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      if you can read this then you are about to be punched

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      Simple. Don't put your dream penis in her dream vagina. Avoid the dream vagina at all costs. Keep your dream penis in your dream pants at all costs.

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      Yeah I'm the same way. However, I don't try very hard to stop, I just learned how to do it without waking up as the result of a lot of practice.

      Personally, if having sex is what you want to do most during your LD, then go for it. I mean, doing what you want is what LDs are all about. However, I understand how they tend to end your lucidity so that's not good. You shouldn't feel like you're wasting your LDs if you always spend them having sex, that's what the majority of my LDs are all about. Personally, out of all the fun things I have done in LDs, sex is still the best thing.

      So you can either sacrifice a lot of your LDs to get your practice in, or you work around the extreme desire and try to focus on other things. I don't know how frequently you have LDs, but if you don't have them very often, I would suggest not trying to master LD sex yet since it ruin a lot of your LDs.

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      Sex is boring. When can you fly to other planets and destroy shit using fire from your fingers?

      Or detonate a nuclear bomb and live through it?

      These are the types of things I want to do when I become lucid. Forget sex, how boring.

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      I don't really know how much I can help here, but have you tried, doing you-know-what before bed?

      As for in the dream, you're probably just not getting lucid enough. With more practice, you'll be able to avoid the distractions. Also look at the "avoiding sexual distractions" Tut on here.

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      Whatever you do, don't imagine, or even consider, the possibility of razor sharp teeth or other sharp metal pointy bits nestled inside her vagina! It could end in horrible and grotesque lacerations of your dream penis. On the other hand, an experience like that could solve your problem forever.

      I love doing that. ^.^
      Last edited by Mzzkc; 04-22-2009 at 06:30 AM.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Mzzkc View Post
      Whatever you do, don't imagine, or even consider, the possibility of razor sharp teeth or other sharp metal pointy bits nestled inside her vagina! It could end in horrible and grotesque lacerations of your dream penis. On the other hand, an experience like that could solve your problem forever.

      I love doing that. ^.^
      Oh my goodness, that mental image was so full of win. Thank you...

      Now you can definitely use this in your lucids to stop having sex.
      if you can read this then you are about to be punched

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      Quote Originally Posted by Mzzkc View Post
      Whatever you do, don't imagine, or even consider, the possibility of razor sharp teeth or other sharp metal pointy bits nestled inside her vagina! It could end in horrible and grotesque lacerations of your dream penis. On the other hand, an experience like that could solve your problem forever.

      I love doing that. ^.^
      It's a risk

      I'll have to take.

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      Masta-bait before bed n tingz blad.

      Probably about right cause then you wouldn't be so charged before you sleep.
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      Sorry if you're awaiting the outcome of this, but no lucids so far. Might try a WILD after breakfast but I've not mastered it yet so no promises.

      Quote Originally Posted by Silox View Post
      So you can either sacrifice a lot of your LDs to get your practice in, or you work around the extreme desire and try to focus on other things. I don't know how frequently you have LDs, but if you don't have them very often, I would suggest not trying to master LD sex yet since it ruin a lot of your LDs.
      About once a week just now. Don't get me wrong, I certainly intend to use my LDs for it at some point, but I want to put it off for a bit and concentrate on doing some things I can do.

      Quote Originally Posted by hellohihello View Post
      Good shout.

      Quote Originally Posted by Mzzkc View Post
      Whatever you do, don't imagine, or even consider, the possibility of razor sharp teeth or other sharp metal pointy bits nestled inside her vagina! It could end in horrible and grotesque lacerations of your dream penis. On the other hand, an experience like that could solve your problem forever.

      I love doing that. ^.^
      Could be a bad Matrix moment.

      "I thought it wasn't real"

      "Your brain makes it real."



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      As for in the dream, you're probably just not getting lucid enough.
      May be right. I'll also try to ground myself more in the dream next time.

      Quote Originally Posted by Dash View Post
      I don't really know how much I can help here, but have you tried, doing you-know-what before bed?
      Quote Originally Posted by Jimmehboi View Post
      Masta-bait before bed n tingz blad.
      Most people to try to convince me to masturbate at once in my life so far.

      Anyone else?
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      Simply turn all the female DC's into your mom or your sister. Problem solved!
      "Reject common sense to make the impossible possible." -Kamina

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      Quote Originally Posted by ChaybaChayba View Post
      Simply turn all the female DC's into your mom or your sister. Problem solved!
      Or Grandma!
      if you can read this then you are about to be punched

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      Quote Originally Posted by PaddyMcNasty View Post
      Help! I'm a monster, I

      Maybe if I had more sex in real life, but girls don't seem to appreciate Star Wars based chat up lines. Girls are weird.
      Hahaha!


      Anyways, you must set you intentions before you fall asleep and make them very clear. Repeat in your head something like.
      'I will not have sex in my Lucid Dream, I will ___'

      I am sure you can overcome this eventually.

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      WILLPOWER. And fap irl.

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      Quote Originally Posted by mrdeano View Post
      Hahaha!


      Anyways, you must set you intentions before you fall asleep and make them very clear. Repeat in your head something like.
      'I will not have sex in my Lucid Dream, I will ___'

      I am sure you can overcome this eventually.
      That first part of that phrase won't work. I think we've been over this. I even posted a disgustingly exaggerated example to drive the point home. ^.^

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      All the other suggestions may work, but they would take will power and hard-er work. It seems pointless when all you have to do is masturbate before bed. Its easy, lol.

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      Well, if most suggestions use willpower, then just use raw willpower for not to, that has worked for me so far.
      Creating a new persistent realm, claiming it and breaking the last seal I made back in the beggining of my journey are my goals right now

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      Quote Originally Posted by Walms View Post
      Well, if most suggestions use willpower, then just use raw willpower for not to, that has worked for me so far.
      Wait. . .

      Which one inherits the other?

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