Thread: Is it bad to do this?

Morally, I don't think it's wrong because they don't even exist. They are not real people, they don't have feelings, bodies, etc.

Mentally, I don't think it's a good idea to get into an intimate relationship with an imaginary person.

it wouldnt be healthy to have an actual relationship with a dc.


just plain sex is perfectly fine though

As long as you dont think its all real. or anything. i think its better than just using them for sex though then there just hookers cept minus the money part....wait did that even make sense? haha but yea.

As long as you know they are not the real person, it is fine. It is pretty much the same as fantasizing about someone while you masturbate.

If you consider that you are actually having a relationship with an aspect of yourself, it can start to sound pretty healthy.

Why bother with the boring part before sex if you can control everything and everyone?

Well from a Biblical standpoint intent is everything. It says when you lust and have a firey passion for say committing adultery or rape and you give in to those temptations through even lusting or masturbation you have already committed the sin in your heart and this is where repenting comes in to play. But say if you have those desires, but you do not give in to them through lust or action this is ok. God has given us challenges on purpose according to the bible and he never gives us anything we don't have the power to handle.

So yes, if you are religious and believe in morality then doing this is morally wrong. It's lust. Yes everyone lusts at some point but that in no way is a justification.

Giving in to lust can lead to sexual addiction. I've been studying sexual habits and how your brain responds. The most informative site I've found is actually a pron addiction recovery site that has pod casts. It's called candeocan.com.The guy who speaks has some awesome information about sexual things the bible would probably describe as sinful and the difference between healthy love filled sex and how both kinds have different impacts on your brain. It's crazy.

It seems to me to be a grey area. I definitely don't feel that it's right if you feel that you hurt the person in real life. But sometimes I even have sex with an enemy. I feel a bit like, well I feel better about this person and they don't even know it.

I dont think its bad, but maybe dangerous in some way.
As long as you enjoy the dreams without getting depressed after waking up it is ok.
But I probably WOULD get depressed if you´re longing for a relationship you do not have in real life...I mean seriously depressed.

I've got to agree with the general consensus, if it's just sex it's not bad. But having a deep, emotional relationship with someone in a dream might lead to some problems.

I love getting really emotional in my dreams. I fall in love, fight, have sex. I feel loss, joy, fear, and anger. I think it is a very healthy way to express emotions you may not even know you have. Everyone and everything you meet in your dream is an aspect of yourself. Develop a relationship with someone in your dream, and you are really just improving your relationship with yourself.

The above statement makes sense, in my opinion.

Yes, emotions are great and definitely amplify the intensity of dreams (plus they can carry over when you wake up which is great), but I still don't think a "long-term" dream relationship is a good idea, and if you do have one definitely don't view it the same way as a relationship in the waking world.

I think there's only one way to answer this question, and that is by asking yourself how you feel about it. By asking on here, all you're really going to get is a lot of answers that reflect the personal morals of each individual person who posted a responce. None of us can answer it for you because we all have a different view of okay and not okay.

I have to say though, that it is in NO WAY rape. The dream character you have a dream relationship with is just that --- a dream character. They are a representation created by your subconscious to imitate the real person, and your dream has no effect on, for example, Angelina Jolie.

Of course, there are probably some people on here who believe in shared dreams, and perhaps you are one of them. So hypothetically speaking, lets say that you had a joint dream with Angelina Jolie where the two of you were in a relationship. If its a consentual relationship in the dream, its still not rape.

I suppose the easiest way to look at it is from the stand point of non-lucid dreamers. Many people have dreams about people they have know in real life all the time, and it is beyond their conscious control. Do you think that is in any way wrong? Even if you are consciously creating your dream world, it still all takes place in the bounds of a dream, so I wouldn't worry about it.

However, I think that if you posted this question on here, its probably because you feel it is wrong, and you were hoping enough people would tell you its okay that you could justify it to yourself. I maintain that it is nothing like rape, but perhaps there is some other reason why you feel uneasy about the situation, and you should probably at least figure out what that is before going ahead, or you might just end up feeling ashamed of yourself illogically, and that's never pleasant.

sweet dreams. ^_^

If this dream relationship doesn't effect any relationships you have in waking life negatively, than I say have a ball.