Lucid Dream keeps fading

So i'm finally starting to have some success at lucid dreaming again and I've managed for have 1 lucid a few nights in a row. Once I get lucid I immediately rub my hands together which I guess is supposed to help solidify the dream. I even said "Clarity Now" last night which people recommend, but ironically the image got dimmer. I then said "remove that setting" and it got brighter again :)

Here's the problem. As soon as I get in a dream, sex is immediately on my mind so I seek out the first woman i find. Upon intiating it, I wake up (after only dreaming 2 mins). It happens in the same place everytime. So two questions, how do I get my mind focused on other things (if such an answer exists), and why the heck do I keep waking up right before. Has anyone had this problem?? I'm married, so maybe my mind feels guilty, I have no idea. Very frustrating. I want to have longer than a 2 min lucid.

The only thing I can think of is to make very detailed goals for yourself so that you will think of them when you realize you're dreaming.

This will be probably helpful: http://www.dreamviews.com/community/...void+lucid+sex

As far as fading goes, try to shift your attention to other senses than vision when you feel the dream starts to fade.

I agree with John and Hot Chocolate.

To stop the fading, there are two things I suggest.

1. Use other senses than sight. To my opinion, touch is the sense you really want to focus on. When a dream starts fading, grab an object/put your hands on wall/etc and keep moving in the dreamland while your hands are touching something. Then, your sight should come back. It has always worked with me. I heard it worked with other people.

PS. Touching the air is also possible.

2. To get sex of your priority list when you dream, you should create yourself a list of goals and decide which one you want the most (not sex in your case) then before going to sleep, keep repeating to yourself "I will lucid dream, I will [insert goal], I will be lucid, I will [insert goal]...

Yeah, I would put off on the sex until your dream is completely stable. When you go lucid, take a minute or two to full submerge your senses in the dream. Touch things, smell things, taste things, listen for any noises that may be present. After doing that, take a second to walk around just to make sure that you're fully in the dream. Once you feel like you have complete control, then find someone for sex.

Thanks for the advice. I'm going to give it another try tonight.

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Originally Posted by kingofhypocrites

Thanks for the advice. I'm going to give it another try tonight.

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Good luck! :goodjob2:

For me rubbing my hands together never really helped too much until I started really grinding my hands together. Then it worked really well. So if you don't feel it working I recommend you just do it harder. When I wake up sometimes my hands are clasped really tightly.

I've never been able to mantain sex in a lucid. I always wake up.