Boyfriend Keeps Having Dreams About His Ex
My boyfriend and I took to telling each other our dreams from the night before. It's generally not something most couples like to do and perhaps for the reason that I'm here.
A bit of background before I explain his dreams. Him and his ex were together for roughly 4 years. They shared quite a bit, having been high school sweet hearts. She was his first girlfriend and they were quite inseparable until about a year before the break up. Around then she started spending less time with him and more time around her guy friends. Her and him started arguing a lot more, and a break up ensued due to her admitting to having sex with a few of her guy friends. However, after the break up, she would still talk to him and tell him that she loved him and that the break up hurt her and so on. I got with my boyfriend about 5 months after they broke up and we've been together for a year now. I get the feeling that he's still not over her though. He brings her up at least once a day, usually a 'yea my ex did this...' or a 'my ex was like that'. I've tolerated it the best I can because I really do love him. Though recently I've found papers where's he's written down tidbits of things like what he did to make his ex leave him, things he's read that have reminded him of her[not necessarily in a good light], and pictures on his computer that say things like "I want someone like you", "I still love you", "I'm still not over you" and such. Anyway onto the dreams.
He usually dreams about her a few times a month, from what he's told me though. He's had:
*Multiple sex dreams about her
*Scattered dreams of them kissing/making out/hugging. One dream he had claimed that he kissed her but shoved her away because he felt guilty
*Dreams where they're still together but but she breaks up with him later in the dream. An example being they were walking hand in hand around town and then another guy drives by and tells her to get into the car and she leaves with the other guy and he's sad through out the dream. Most of those dreams were similar to that one, either another guy taking her away or her leaving him and then being sad during the dream.
*One dream about her funeral. This one wasn't recent, this was about halfway into our relationship.
I know with dreams you can't be too literal, but is he just not over his ex? Does he want her back? I read that a dream about a funeral can represent getting over something/someone, but that was mid-relationship and he's had lots of others about her. I love him so much but this is worrying me. I'd appreciate any information anyone could give.