It certainly sounds like he reflects on her a lot in waking life. This could be that he's not over her, or that he is but is still very hurt and trying to deal with why it happened. He could also be reflecting on what went wrong with her because he doesn't want the same things to go wrong in his relationship with you.
As for the dreams, he has a lot of dreams about her. However, I did have dreams a while back about my first boyfriend when I was in another relationship. They concerned me because they were affectionate and I was confused why suddenly he would turn up in my dreams. Well, I read that they can be more symbolic - of something you used to have with that person/in that relationship which you might not have so much now, rather than of the person. So, this could be something he did with her, or simply the feelings he had with her, such as feelings of security. Regardless of whether he's over his ex or not, he really seems to be disturbed by what happened with her, that could have knocked his comfort or security in dating and relationships. A four year relationship (or three happy years) would make you feel quite secure in it, so she might represent a secure relationship to him.
The funeral dream is interesting. It could represent getting over her, a desire to get over her, feeling like he should get over her, or something more symbolic again such as losing faith in the idea of a comfortable, secure relationship.
I hope my thoughts can help. Possibly you can see something in this by thinking how he acts toward you. If he is very loving and affectionate, he probably is in love with you and over her, just struggling with the hurt it caused. If he's less affectionate to you than he could be, or less than how he was with his ex, he could still not be over his ex or just struggling with being very hurt by his last relationship.
Good luck, please post how things go.
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