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Congrats Irishcream! You taking the time and anaylzing the dream for you and seeing how it relates to your feelings and life is the number one way to gaining understanding and insight toward yourself. I bet you feel a lot better talking about your dream and figuring out your feelings since now you are becoming more aware of your self, needs, wants and fears. And this will definitely make you a better person =^_^=
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Yes, all my life, i've done what other people say is best for me, mainly my mother. Simply because i'd rather see her happy, than start a fight, which is what used to happen when i was a teenager and tried to rebel!
So, i guess i got used to 'doing as i was told'.
And i don't like to appear selfish, not when i consider the things people have given me in my life, mainly down to mum, she's taught me so much.
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I just want to put this out in the open for you to ponder. I thought it was cool when I learned about it in Philosophy class. Have you ever considered that maybe you are selfish. This is called the 'Pleasure Principle'. Think about it--you chose to make your mom happy so you don't start a fight. You don't want the fight--your pleasure. So you make your mom happy. In general, you behaved selfish for your want of avoiding a fight.
I never thought of that before...next time, i'll just have to fight with her, and have done! lol.
Just wanted to throw that out there for fun :D
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Interesting how America now ties in with regards to your family emigrated there. Did you feel resentment--Being left suddenly on your own? Anyway, I wonder if that has any connection to your dreams. You say you are dealing with it now on a personal level. This does definitely show that you want someone close in your life since you lost that very important closeness of your family ties. We all need to feel needed, wanted and not alone. Is this the challenge you are facing in life?
I didn't feel resentful at all, i was glad of the challenge at the time, the fact that my parents were leaving me on my own totally for the first time in my life, it gave me a chance to prove that i could look after myself, that i was a fully fledged adult.
And i guess i do want someone close to me, but the key thing is that it's someone who is not tied to my family.
I guess i'm looking for a different kind of closeness, one that's not automatic. One that has to be worked at.
Family love is automatic, it's unconditional.
Another challenge, then...
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Definitely! I am looking for adventure, i want to feel and try new things. I've been on this mindset for a while now, and it sees no let up. I do want challenging, in all areas of my life, including work. I've worked at the same place for three years, and although i still love what i do, it's feeling short on challenges, or they don't come at me like they used to...
I feel like i have to make a different journey, one where my parents aren't necessarily there to hold my hand...although someone might be..
Interesting again...this personal level...this other someone.
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I feel like i have two choices: Both are right for me, but in different ways. However, in terms of these choices, one is made at sacrifice of the other.
Ack! That does sound like a challenge! And it sounds like you waited the advantages and disadvantages too. Can you reach a compromise, somehow? There is one thing someone said to me if this would help--try to live life without having regrets. I don't know if this would help, but I just wanted to throw that other possiblity out there.
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The colour white...its okay, but i've always found it bland...when i was small, i wanted a white wedding dress, who didn't? But now i'm older, i don't. It seems so...plain. I'd have to jazz it up with some piece of coloured ribbon, or maybe not wear white at all! White symbolises purity for most people, but i associate blue with that colour, because blue is water, and water is pure, the PH of water is 7, which is balance.
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I am happy to see that you questioned yourself about white. Interesting how you view it bland. I wonder what that has to do now with your dreams...
Maybe, maybe it's a symbol that i feel life has gone a bit stale, off the boil...being as i find the colour white very uninteresting.
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Kinda what i was saying above...because i have a fear of the unknown, i'm sometimes guilty of 'reverting to type' if you will, in that i stick my head back under the sand, if only to give myself a break!
My inner self is giving me the answers, sure...but it's a question of timing of 'when' i tell the people that matter most to me what it is i'm thinking of doing...and i haven't even told the one person this decision might concern yet, because i'm not sure myself if it feels right...no, that's wrong, it feels right, it's the concept of a thing i can't begin to get used to, no matter how i try.
I can see how this relates to your dream. Apparently, your inner self sees all of this and is trying to reach out to you. You are definitely learning more about yourself it seems.
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Church and religion are antipathy to me. They make me feel like i'm being held back...(why do i feel like i answered my own question?)
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That might explain why going to the Church was back in the same direction-- away from stepping into the unknown and adventure.
I never could see the point in going backwards...'the only way forward is forward'
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And in many ways, the challenge i have, i see it as life changing..my final decision is going to change my life, and my family's life, in that something may happen, that sees me not joining them, which would upset them maybe, because up until about six to eight weeks ago, my heart was set on it...or was it? Maybe even three months ago, something was germinating in the back of my mind, but it was too small to see it, and then coming home, something has happened, which may turn all my plans upside down...
Well, this is definitely a challenge. I see you are facing this dilemma and the dream showed that this is something important to you. Too many decisions. Too chaotic. Should you leap forward and take chances. Is yourself laughing at you because you are uncertain and the answer is there. Your dream shows your response to the stress--you reverting back. And then the dream shows what you feel if you did revert back. Should you?
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I'll know i've made the wrong decision if i ask myself all these questions. But by then, i could be four and a half thousand miles from my second choice, and it'll be too late to go back...
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Are you sure this is permanent?
in my mind right now it feels like it is...like i really do have a choice, one or the other, but never both.[/quote]
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I remember sitting there listening to her, and struggling not to laugh...i remember thinking 'now liz, don't be so cynical!' because that's how i react to things that i don't believe to be true, with great cynicsm, and a fair dose of acerbic wit...
I'm no sinner...i'm a great believer in Consequence. I make my decisions. I then have to live with what happens, good or bad. If it goes wrong, it's cos I made a bad choice, no one else. Especially not some preacher who told-me-to-do-it.
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I believe in that too with what you said above.
Anyway, and I am glad you considered more of what the preacher said. If you disagree with it and even mocking it then your dream is showing that you view the choice of chosing of reverting back and not facing the unknown as a joke, not feeling right about it. Apparently, reverting back might show you don't want to be told what you are or what to do. You want to make your own decisions about yourself and in life. Again--can you jump out in front of traffic and go for the unknown instead of turning back and having that run your life.
I'm wondering, if this has to do with the fact that for so many years, someone else has indeed run my life, to an extent. And now i'm having to run it, but not on a physical level, i know how to do that, it's an emotional level...
Something i've never encountered before, it's like 'oh.'
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discovering they have an infinite connection with each other, an affinity that goes far beyond the personal,
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And you are doing this with an Indian? You should question what is fascinating about the Indian. What do you think he represents? Maybe a part of the unknown you want to explore?
No, he's not an indian, he's English...But i'd say i felt a connection to him for definite, a connection i don't understand and can't explain...But i still need to know more, before i'm really certain. Where that part of it is concerned, now is definitely not the time to make a decision.
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So i'd like the emotional one...but to do that, may risk me losing my folks...in a big way...in that, America is a long way to come, and no matter whether you fall in love and marry someone, they will never, ever, replace your family...
It's like a massive sacrifice.
Ah, I finally see the whole challenge. So being with the one you love looks like it is representing the unknown adventure--diving into that traffic. But leaving something else so dear to you behind--your family--and should you go back to them. I admit, you have a lot of thinking to do.
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I know what it's telling me, but it seems improbable, because there seem to be so many other factors to it...
It is very, very complicated...either that, or i think too much, and have made it complicated!
LOL
I wish I could help you further, but you have to do what you think is right for you, of course and I know you know that.
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Great interpretation by the way! Especially of the first one!
I was mentally exhausted by the time I got to Dream 2 :-P
I wish you luck!![/quote]
It did feel good to break those dreams down and really look at all the symbols, very rarely do i have to do that with a dream...although it's happening more often lately...the way i look at it is, if these dreams didn't have some kind of meaning, they wouldn't have bugged me so much...
I've had 'big' dreams before, and i've ignored them, and something disastrous has always happened!