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      Loved and Kisses?

      My best friend and I. (He's male, I'm female) have been friends for over 8 years . Recently he told me he'd been having...stonger feelings for me and had been trying to hide them for over a year but couldnt take it any longer he had to let me know.

      Now this alone convused me but that night i had ldream i was standing above him on a higer steep in the stairs in his house and i lean down and kiss him then. I stand straight again and he begins to speak but i can't make out the words. I wake up.

      I don't get what to make of the dream. It's just convused me futher. I don't know what to do about him. I don't know how i feel...Help.
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      if he's been having feelings for you, but waited over a year to tell you, he's obviously intimidated by you, or you were just out of his reach. In your dream, you were a step higher then him, showing you ruling over him. You may be finding that you have feelings for him too, so that's why you kissed him in your dream. As for him, when he starts talking, maybe it's not that you can't hear him, it's just that you're not listening. I think this dream was just processing the situation itself into your unconsciousness. I think that this boy will like you, but you won't like him back as much as he likes you.
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      You know ... Love is a very good feeling and for him to have feelings like that for over a year. well thats serious. i know recently and im a 19 male so i dont really know if i should feel like this aobut someone but i have fell so deeply in love with this girl its incredible and i would do anything to keep her mine. i am truly in love and have never been truly in love befor. ive thought i was but i was wrong. like this girl makes my heart burn inside just thinking about her. god do i love talking about her , well sorry ... i dont know i think you should give him a chance though i mean if yall are good friends a good relationship could come from it. give it a shot

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      Originally posted by catrina
      if he's been having feelings for you, but waited over a year to tell you, he's obviously intimidated by you, or you were just out of his reach. In your dream, you were a step higher then him, showing you ruling over him. You may be finding that you have feelings for him too, so that's why you kissed him in your dream. As for him, when he starts talking, maybe it's not that you can't hear him, it's just that you're not listening. I think this dream was just processing the situation itself into your unconsciousness. I think that this boy will like you, but you won't like him back as much as he likes you.
      I must say, I don't think I can give a better interpretation than this. I agree with Catrina.

      “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.”
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      Re: Loved and Kisses?

      Originally posted by JC_21
      My best friend and I. (He's male, I'm female) have been friends for over 8 years . Recently he told me he'd been having...stonger feelings for me and had been trying to hide them for over a year but couldnt take it any longer he had to let me know.

      Now this alone convused me but that night i had ldream i was standing above him on a higer steep in the stairs in his house and i lean down and kiss him then. I stand straight again and he begins to speak but i can't make out the words. I wake up.

      I don't get what to make of the dream. It's just convused me futher. I don't know what to do about him. I don't know how i feel...Help.
      Thanks in advance
      JC
      You're on a Higher Step. You can do better. He knows that too. He's been your friend for 8 years and all that time he had the good sense not to hit on you. He knows you are out of his league. You should tell him you are very flattered, but 'Thanks and No Thanks' -- he should find a woman who will appreciate him as much as he appreciates her (more of an equal arrangement, which you don't have to say directly for him to understand what you mean, if he is at all intelligent). Give him a "You are so Sweet" kiss from above, and then don't pay attention to a single word he says, just like your dream.

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      Hello there JC ^_^ First of all welcome to dreamviews

      Now, let me tell you what I think.

      I should say though, that you dont say whether or not you have had any sort of feelings for your friend in the past or not, but perhaps this is what you are so confused about?

      I think it is most of all important that you should look inside yourself, within your heart. When you think about him, what do you feel? How close would you want to be with him? Imagine you two cuddling in bed (no sex), kissing eachother, imagine a passionate kiss, or possible love making. How do these images make you feel?

      Ask yourself what he really means to you. Can you see you and him in romantic activities? (Candle light dinner, massages, flowers ^_~) I know it might be hard, and one might be tempted to say 'I dont know' , but if you look deep inside its there, Im sure! There is always this small sparkle that says 'I want this' or 'I dont want this'.

      Remember, you have to listen to your heart. Not only (or even mostly) your dream. Even though I respect our dreams and believe they might carry a message, the true answers are always within yourself, and dreams can aid you to find them..or confuse you greatly =P That's why I didnt give an interpretation.

      What Leo said seems like nonsense to me, but of course you have to decide about that yourself, as you might find wisdom in his words. (sorry Leo, but that's how I feel). Its hard to say that 'somebody is not good enough for you', that would be called arrogance ^_~ But seriously, you'll have to make up your mind yourself. What do you look for in a boyfriend? Does he have it? Are you perhaps afraid of losing your friendship? Talk to him about that if you are

      Just remember that you should not do anything against your will, if you love him in such a way, do not let anything stop you. Certainly not a dream. If you don't, be honest about it and tell him. But remember, love comes in so many different ways, and you will always love him of course

      I hope it will work out for you both in the best way possible! Who knows, maybe a beautiful relationship will come from it. Or maybe not..who knows? I dont..but, all the above is just what I think ^_^
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      Dear JC_21

      Regarding what Lucius adviced... he is second guessing the content of your dream... he is ignoring it. He is taking the side of the poor miserable love-sick boy. One thing he is not doing is thinking about your best interests or the content of the dream.

      So just think about this... if the Dream WANTED YOU to be with this boy, would it not have been a whole lot different.

      Just look at it literally. YOU ARE ABOVE HIM, and NOTHING HE SAYS MATTERS.

      And, honestly, I never met a woman in my life who didn't have some idea of where she ranked on the scale of 1 to 10. This dream tells me that YOU ARE better than this boy. I don't know what has shaken your confidence momentarily, but splash some cold water in your face and look into that mirror and look into your own eyes and you will KNOW you can do better. Don't sell yourself short to boys just because they cry and beg. As I've said before, just laugh as though they must have been half-joking, say that you are extremely flattered, and ask them to stop being so silly. You can treat them like men as soon as they start acting like men.

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      Leo who is better than who?
      I dont think thats the most mature way to look at it.

      You being up a step could also mean you are looking down on him. Or are in the higher position. The kiss could represent the friendship or whatever you have with him. When he speaks you cannot hear what he is saying. So they may have something to do with a miss communication between u. Maybe the dream is saying you both need to get on the same level and work things out with each other through honesty with each other and respect for the friendship. (hence the kiss)

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      Originally posted by NirvanaStarseed
      Leo who is better than who?
      I dont think thats the most mature way to look at it.

      You being up a step could also mean you are looking down on him. Or are in the higher position. The kiss could represent the friendship or whatever you have with him. When he speaks you cannot hear what he is saying. So they may have something to do with a miss communication between u. Maybe the dream is saying you both need to get on the same level and work things out with each other through honesty with each other and respect for the friendship. (hence the kiss)
      You guys really need to grow up and face reality. People are ranked. There are dominance pecking orders among humans just as between most other animals. That Lady's Dream was quite literal and straight forward enough, and so far every boy has whined and cried about it, putting forward a defense of the first boy who was so indiscreet as to break the trust he had with that Major League girl with whom she had a tacit agreement that he would only be her friend. I don't know what had suddenly made her feel weak and vulnerable, but this miserable lower level predator decided he would jump in and try to take advantage of her during her moment of weakness. It is truly reprehensible behavior and he should be horsewhipped for it.

      And you boys should learn to respect this Lady's Position. Is it fair to ask her to dominish herself and her reasonable expectations so that for the rest of her life all of her friends can be asking behind her back, "What the hell is a Lady like that doing with a schmuck like him?"

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      miserable lower level predator, should be horsewhipped for it.[/b]
      That's a bit harsh Leo

      LOL

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      It might seem like I'm taking sides with her friend on this matter, but I'm not really..at least, it is not my intention to make it seem as such. What I really want to try and say, is that you should not draw conclusions from a dream to quickly, as dreams can be very deceptive and I wouldn't want her to give up on something just because she had such a dream.

      so that for the rest of her life all of her friends can be asking behind her back, \"What the hell is a Lady like that doing with a schmuck like him?\"[/b]
      When you truly love somebody, who cares if your friend think he's a schmuck. And besides, true friends would come to accept the one you love and come to see his positive sides.

      Also: we don't know her friend, who are we to judge? Because we know a few words about her dream? I wouldn't say so..

      And JC..this must all seem terribly silly to you. You asked for an interpretation and you get all this..lol, Im sorry ^_^" I'm going to stop with it all, who are we, a bunch of guys trying to argue what you should do or no =P That's all up to you All I know is that love is a beautiful thing..and I suppose I do not agree with Leo saying there is some sort of 'ranking system' to all of this.

      I would answer your question and give my best possible interpretation, but like I said..dreams and love? That's two things together with infinite options and possiblities..

      Again, take care and I hope things will turn out for the best for you. Whatever way that may be Sorry I'm not much use.
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