Brother faked his death

**dvRed** · 11-28-2012 12:29 AM

hi there, first post, need some help with this dream i had last night.. little background information: my brother killed him self about 8 months ago now i think, he was 22 and i just turned 20, we were best friends and hanged out almost every weekend.

this is what i remember from the dream: im sitting in what i think is my house when some cops came and knocked on the door, i got up and answered they asked if i was [name] i said yes. they walk away and i return to the next room where they are now sitting down on my couch, they interview me a bit then i hear the door open and its my brother, thats when the cops explains he faked his death, i thought this was crazy so i asked him where he was this whole time, he told me he was up at this camp ground near the rockys.. (next thing you know we are walking threw this camp ground) we start running from something but im not sure what it is, then i see Mt Rushmore, i thought to myself in my dream thats not in Canada. next thing i know we are climbing the mountains taking the most extreme route we could find.. (he was very good at heights, loved rock climbing as a kid, and built cell phone towers as work) im starting to have difficulty climbing the mountain he makes it over the ledge but i couldn't.. i forget the rest but the dream, it ended with a cave and raft and random people inside this cave..

its not the first time ive dreamnt of my brother, but every time i do he fakes his death then we go on a adventure or something werid.

**Oster** · 11-28-2012 02:34 AM

Welcome to Dream View i'm new too. Sorry about his death. Maybe Since you dream about him faking his death in a lot of your dreams. Your trying to tell yourself that he didn't die.

~Oster

**blackbirdrising** · 12-06-2012 12:25 PM

I would take that (and every other dream of him) as an actual visit. Your still grieving. It's only been 8 months, so it's normal for you to not process that he is dead in your dreams. In your dreams, he can climb that mountain and you can't because the mountain is the "crossing over" point. He crossed when he died. You can't yet because you aren't supposed to follow him over that mountain. You can be sure that when its time, he will meet you and guide you over. I'm sorry you lost your brother, and your best friend.

**Lysmerry** · 12-14-2013 10:39 PM

I actually have the same recurring dream- that my brother's death was fake all along. I was googling it and was very interested to see that you have the same experience. He died when I was 11, and he was 20. He drowned after a drug overdose. I am 28 now, and still have this dream, so I don't think it is just a way of dealing with grief. When I was 11 I used to actually hope that the death was all a fake.
In my dreams I'm always amazed that he managed to get away with it- I either hold him and we're close, or he becomes a shadowy figure and I suspect that it's not really him.
I think your dreams are fresh enough that it may be a form of denial, and wishing it wasn't true. I think the fact he makes it over the ledge but you can't means that he's entered another realm but you can't join him yet.
I think in my case it's a sense of lost innocence, for a childhood I lost and desperately want to grab hold of again. It's been a year- do you still dream these dreams?

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**Superman1** · 12-20-2013 05:15 AM

To add some more...

Yes the justice in you thought his death was fake - couldn't be real. It is almost impossible to accept.
All this time your thought of him was camped near either where it was rocky for him - in other words you must have been thinking how rocky his life had become. Or the Rockys hold some other significance for you or both of you, such as he was good at heights and used to love climbing. But you are not so good at it.
You run, not sure what from, but maybe the thought if you could have helped him, or the rocky mountain you have to climb.

You see your brother you admired enshrined or immortalized as the dead presidents on Mt Rushmore, which is beautiful.
But to get over what happened is the most extreme route there can be.
It is true maybe, where he is now, he has gotten over it much easier than you, as he has now climbed the highest height. Though I'm not sure he can build a cell phone tower high enough to reach you on Earth. But it is possible and can be right next to you.
Maybe you felt he is okay, but you are not and have difficulty making it over or I'll add for a third time he went where you can not.
So you are in this darkness, need to go through it, and maybe focus on other people or thoughts as well.

**dvRed** · 12-12-2015 07:17 AM

I come back to this thread every so often , it's been a few years since his passing, I still get the dreams that he fakes his death and every time I'm happy for a brief moment, then I wake up and realize it was only a dream and get crushed by reality. Last night was different tho, for the first I dreamt of him he was not alive, he looked like he has been dead for a while. I can't remember what we talked about, but every night I dream of him makes me happy for a small moment. Maybe my mind has finally came to terms with his passing?

Sorry to dig up a old thread and thanks to all that have replied over the years I have read your posts many times on restless nights like these.