I can relate, when I was with my ex (been together for almost 5 years) I had dreams of being with girls I've had attraction for. I never acted on them, and I never would have. These came from my loneliness, as there where nights she'd work late and I hardly ever got to see her. When she was becoming more distant from me emotionally towards the end of our relationship these dreams became more frequent. You may be going through the same thing, like JoannaB said, but I'm not implying you are having any trouble emotional with her.
As for you being in the friends house, this may represent your need for familiarity (perhaps you are very busy at school right now). Talking to your former crush and still having feelings for her means you may be desiring more intimacy in your life. The crush may be just a filler character in your dream, because you may still have feelings for her. (Nothing wrong with that as long as you don't act on it ) She would be the 2nd person you would think about next to your GF, as you may not know other girls to take this spot. It may also be your subconscious way of telling you "hey! I'm lonely!" and presenting another option for you. The subconscious solves problems irrationally, so this doesn't mean anything significant in real life.
Getting into bed with her emphasizes your need for intimately. Rejecting your crush's advances is your way of solidifying your relationship with your GF. Relationships often go through test to see if we can be with the person we're with, and because you don't see her very often this is your subconscious way of testing the mettle of your relationship. Your GF watching you represents guilt for having these feelings for your crush (I've felt guilty for having crush dreams when I was with my ex).
When you tried to go to your GF's room and ended up following your old friend this can represent your need to "catch up" with people you used to hang out with. Being young and in a steady relationship can sometimes make it hard to have a social life, especially if your attending college. The shopping center in Africa might be lit for "bizarre" as in "a strange thing" because you may feel like life is getting more strange as you grow older. The friend having a business suit and always being ahead of you is your anxiety about not being successful. You stated you don't feel he is as successful as you, so perhaps you are having trouble keeping up with studies. You don't want to end up like him! lol
By putting all of these things together, I can assess that you are still young and have a long (hopefully) life ahead of you. Some things in your life you may be having doubts about, and you don't want to make any wrong decisions. Over all, you are balancing relationship with work, and college has its fair share of temptations. Just do what you feel is right, and you'll make things work. Don't chase after whats flashy, but go after what is sincere in your heart. That's the key to happiness in my opinion. But remember not to stretch yourself too far, and don't go too far out of your way to please people if it affects your performance in life (Speaking from experience). I hope that helps.
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