Dream Interpretation :)

Hey All

Hope your weekend is going well. I would greatly appreciate a dream that I would like interpreted if possible.
I will tell you some background first followed by dream I had. My situation is that there is a guy I have come to like through ballroom lessons since March last year but I was never interested in him at all whatsoever. However, it was only from around October or so that I thought he is someone I would like to get to know and I have grown to like him quite a lot since then. Someone quite different from what I normally would go for funnily enough!! Nothing has happened at all - he doesn't even know I like him that way I don't think. We get along quite well though. At times I think he does feel the same but not sure. Usually when I talk to him its just small talk as I fear if I keep asking questions he will wonder why I am...I know I know.. silly..I think too much LOL
Anyway yesterday I had a longer discussion with him about our interests and I didn't think too much just went with the flow...funny that something so easy can be hard esp with the person you like.

So the same night I had a dream. It was about me telling him that I have had feelings for him since October and he responded that he felt the same and I asked him from when did he start and he replied around the same time. I then asked him why didnt you tell me, he said he just couldn't.
The dream felt nice and I felt happy about it. I wonder if this dream came up due to what had happened earlier on in the day. Any thoughts??

Bright blessings
xox

Well, it is a possibility that it came up from the experience during the day id est Jung's day residue.
It could also be because of some sort of wish fulfillment. I hate to credit Freud, but it's all I have.

I'll probably post back ITT when I can think of something.

I believe that dreams are as a container for all sorts of unconscious activity and not all should be interpreted by the same principles. One such activity I think are fantasies, like day dreaming, with obvious wish fulfillment, as Jabre points out above; they are what they are, so to speak, and one can leave it at that.

But how do one know that not all dreams are such? I mean there's an obvious danger that any dream you don't feel like taking a closer look at is regarded as merely wish fulfillment (though perhaps not in the strict Freudian sense*) or nothing but a fantasy. In my experience these category of dreams are always very close to reality, there's no real twist in them, nothing really out of the ordinary, and moreover, they're pleasant; they doesn't really add anything (unwanted or unexpected) to the scene.

Once when I was in love with a woman who lived with another man I sometimes had dreams of this nature; like she said she loved me and so on. I woke up warm in my heart, perhaps a little sad that it wasn't reality, but neither then nor now did I feel that there was any point in interpreting those dreams. I feel about the same way with this dream, it's a nice fantasy, but note that for you it might be reality too, in the near future!

* What I mean by this is that Freud though all dreams were wish fulfillment, even dreams that are unpleasant; what I'm talking about here is pleasant dreams only.

Perhaps this dream is encouraging you to be more assertive? Note in reality there is of course no guarantee that he will respond as in the dream, but if you do not bring it up, he may or may not. Our culture has changed in that the man is no longer expected to always make the first move, and maybe he is waiting for a sign from you that you are interested, if he is interested?

It does fit the dream was about your thought due to the longer discussion.

It's about you thinking you had feelings for him since October, and your thought of him responding to yourself that you like him that much that you might want to be with him. You asked yourself when did your thought of him become liking him that much more so you might want to be with him? October.
So it's like the conversation you have with yourself, or two sides of youself. It's one thing to have feelings for him, but another to accept you want to be with him. He is someone quite different from what you normally would go for.

You then you asked yourself or questioned yourself why this side that accepts him didn't tell you.
And you thought you just couldn't.
So the message of the dream is the main you feels unable to accept the way you feel or to take it further.

But you felt nice and happy about him.

To me, you are playing out your most desired outcome to your problem. You are trying to solve a problem in your dream by creating a scenario were you tell him how you feel, and you're playing out one of the outcomes; which is that he might like you. Next, there may be some wish fulfillment: he's liked you since October, which is when you started to like him.

Dreams are different than real life: you shouldn't tell him you like him. You might scare him. If you two are still in this class, perhaps you can strike up conversation with by asking him questions about himself. For example, try asking him what his pass-time are, or what kind of music he likes. Don't barrage him with questions, but work them in into conversation (basically, make every small talk count). On things you agree on, tell him something like "wow! I like that too!" or something like that. Once you know enough about him, get his #, then ask him if he feels like coffee. Try asking him if he has a GF. Stuff like that. If he feels the same, he'll ask you out.

Your dream is right about one thing, you just have to be bolder.

Thank you very much all for your input. Much appreciated. I guess it is wishful thinking.