A dream of travling with a unknown man to meet my ex boyfriend.

I had this dream last night, its a bit long so I am sorry, I am trying to keep it short as I can without skipping important details. Here goes:

In my dream I won a lot of money in a contest for a trip to England by plane. Once I reached my destination in some small town; I came across an unknown young man, he looked to be around my age, in the twenty-somethings . He was tall, slim, pale, with floppy black hair; and he dressed in a sharp academic style. Don't recall much about his eyes other than the thick glasses he wore. I felt like I knew him, but even in the dream I did not know who he was, nor did he give me a name. So for the sake of narrative I will call this man Basil.

He appointed himself as my guide for my trip, he seemed to know about me winning the money though I had never told him that. He called a taxi and we started our trip, while on the road he suggested a short pit stop at a larger town before we hit the city. I agreed, things got a little fuzzy and I was at my ex`s house with Basil. Somehow he had the power to make us both invisible, and he brought me to my ex boyfriends bedroom where he was sleeping.

Basil then told me to talk to my ex, I refused as I was still mad about how the relationship had ended. That is when Basil made me visable again; my ex woke up. I panicked for something to say, the only thing I could do was say boo! this startled my ex. I stood there and the surprise wore off. My ex was in disbelief that I was there with him, as he was about to ask me how I entered his room, I was invisible again. Basil just laughed thinking that the situation was funny. As we left my ex`s current girlfriend came running up the stairs to check on my ex.

Basil and i then boarded a train, it was grimy, dirty and overcrowded. I had lost Basil and looked for a seat instead, only to find him sitting across from me, with an empty seat next to him. He patted the seat and gestured for me to sit. I made my way through the crowd and took the seat. We started to talk about random stuff that I can't recall now. After a long trip we reached the city, he grabbed my wrist and guided me to a pub.

Inside was my ex's best friend, whom I had befriended in real life. He was drinking alone in a booth, Basil walked right up, dragging me along. We sat with the friend, and ordered our own drinks. That was when my ex strolled inside. he took a seat in the booth next to his friend, basil was beside me. I still refused to speak to my ex, but he expressed how good it was to see me, that he was happy that what happened at his place was not a dream after all. Basil would seem to interrupt when I was feeling threatened by my ex`s questions with small talk. The dream ended around there.

Although it would usually be best to have additional general background information about you as well as recent events just before the dream in order to provide an accurate interpretation, it’s probably safe to say that not long before the dream, there was a kind of strong influx of energy and agreeable feelings that in some way were reasonably equivalent and analogous to the winning of an outer trip to England.

In this approach to your dream, it’s probably trying to show you some unconscious parts of yourself and how they may tend to influence you without your being very aware of them, e.g. in making you feel good at times when the actual situation may not be all that beneficial.

For example, you may often rely on “mind”, thinking and the intellect to make certain decisions because the dream chose the image of a trip by plane, i.e. in the area of “airy thoughts” and the “sun” of the intellect.

However, you may apparently be largely unaware of this “academic” approach to decision making as symbolized by not knowing and never finding out the name of the young man who is your self-appointed “guide” to this area of your unconscious mind.

From the dream’s point of view, it appears that this part of yourself is far from an earthy, robust and healthy aspect of your overall personality (he is slim, pale and his eyesight/comprehension “needs help” in the form of thick glasses).

In addition, he is shown as being “controlling” in mostly negative ways, e.g. takes you to your ex’s house which is the last place you’d want to be, makes you visible at an awkward moment, grabs your wrist and takes you to a pub where once again there’s an embarrassing meeting.

The grimy, dirty and overcrowded train could be meant by the dream to damp down your over-dependence on certain collective beliefs, opinions and perhaps even the overall zeitgeist of today’s largely global society.

That’s because a train usually represents on analogy the idea of “collective energy”, i.e. interest and activity etc., since an individual can’t control where a train goes but can only get on or off, and the train company is owned by faceless corporations or governments.

Unlike driving oneself or even walking to a destination, one can’t get precisely “where one should be going” in an overall “direction” sense regarding one’s life.

Of course, on analogy, we often need “trains” of common ideas and values in order to fulfil appropriately our social needs and obligations, but as mentioned, in your dream, the train is made to look very unattractive, a common method in dreams to help the dreamer to understand, for example, that they may be overvaluing and overusing a certain method to move forward in their life.

Perhaps some of these collective ideas, opinions and beliefs tend also to be very “unrealistic” in your personal circumstances and potentials as a person (e.g. Basil can make you “invisible”, i.e. not “real” and “three dimensional”).

Maybe there is a need to examine the break-up with your ex more fully even though this will be painful. That’s because apparently there could be some “threatening” aspects about it which a certain state of mind, as symbolized by Basil, keeps you from looking at carefully enough (he interrupts at certain crucial points), perhaps allowing for a continuation of certain unhelpful behavior and tendencies of how you tend to think about things.

However, the image of Basil also demonstrates the fact that symbols always have two sides, a negative and a positive one, because to some degree, he does in effect force you to confront these issues albeit imperfectly (he arranges various meetings with your ex but these are embarrassing etc.).

This could mean that, while certain commonly accepted opinions and approaches etc. lead you to look back at the situation regarding the issues surrounding the break-up to some extent, a more personalized and directed approach using critical thinking and other more personal means is needed in order to resolve certain roadblocks and to move forward more effectively.

Anyway as mentioned, without knowing anything much about you, this approach to your dream may not fit your personal circumstances very well, but I hope these ideas can be helpful in some way.

Thank you! Yeah I'm pretty new to here, though I do feel uneasy disclosing information about my privet life, unless I feel like it is critical. However I do fell like you pretty much hit the nail on the head. Yeah "Basil" felt like a aspect of myself, double sided as he wasn't healthy but not unattractive. As well as him forcing yet controlling awkward confrontations, or causing them.

I mean I wish I could have a proper confrontation with my ex to talk about the break up and the fallout that happened after. Sadly unless a miracle happens I doubt that it will ever com to pass as he and I have cut off all ties to one another; mostly my choice I felt there was nothing that could be said or gained through talking to him. You are right that I need to start thinking more critically about the situation in order to fully resolve it.