Thread: Mum helping me masturbate and vice versa !! Horrible Dream ..

What's your relationship with your mother, if you don't mind me asking? My spontaneous thought about this dream/these dreams is that you are too close with her, but without her you are lost. Sometimes dreams emphasize what we are doing to make us see what we are doing, giving us a shock and makes us think about our behavior or attitude, and this is what I think this dream is about. There's a conflict between your closeness to you mother and your desire to be free.

But this might be totally wrong, of course -- especially if you are not particular close to you mother for instance, which is the reason I curiously asking about your relationship -- it is nothing but my association to the dream.

In addition to what Wakinyian said, which I agree with, but this is a different thought about such dreams: sometimes I think our subconscious or superconscious likes to give us dreams about breaking taboos. Like your dream about masturbating with your mother, or my dream of asking a coworker out on a date even though I am married. I wonder whether part of the purpose of these dreams is to shock us and to test the strength of such and perhaps also related taboos: to ensure that our values are as strong as we desire them to be, to strengthen our understanding of ourselves as a moral person of what are our dos and donts. I call such dreams nightmares after the fact because the nightmare really starts once we wake up and realize what just happened. Remember that your morality is based on what you would or would not do consciously (so not in a dream where you have no control).

Another thought: Maybe your subconscious is saying that it is time to start looking for love outside of your family, because you have sexual urges and it would not be right for family to fulfill them. However, if that is it: keep in mind that while our sexual urges, instincts and desires may be very active because of hormones and the subconscious will reflect that; however, it is of course not up to the subconscious but up to the conscious mind to decide when it is time to look for someone to have a sexual relationship with. I do not know how young you are, but generally hormones tend to be ready before one's conscious mind and social and emotional situation makes us ready, and this dream may be a reflection of that.

Thank you so much for giving your opinions about this .

In fact , I am not at any level close to my mother . On the opposite , we donot really agree , pretty much never agree on anything . However , I don't hate her or wish her anything bad or so on . And , my love is not at all focused on my family . I love them and everything , we see each other like once or twice a week . My real family is a bunch of my friends plus my boyfriend . I'm 20 years old . I have never thought of my family as an outlet to any of my sexual urges to fulfill either .

You know you might also consider the option that this was just one fucked up dream, which didn't mean anything important that needs to be understood about it, and move on. I think that's what I would do if I were you. It's like maybe your subconscious is saying ef you, and you can tell it, yes you too. Edit: Actually maybe that's the important message: some part of your subconscious has decided to seriously mess with your conscious self, so you are not in harmony with your self?

IMO, dreams don't always have to mean something. Your subconcious isn't something you can control -- that's why it's the subconcious.

Another thought (may be wrong too, just like any other - just brainstorming ideas here): oftentimes I interpret my own dreams that feature my mother as representing another part of me - perhaps the part of me that is most like my mother in some ways even though usually I will deny that this part even exists (I like to claim that I am not like my mother at all, and sometimes I believe myself) - anyway, so if the mother in your dream represents a part of you, and you in your dream represent another part of you, so maybe you were really the only one in this dream just represented by two very different characters in this dream, so it would then be about self masturbation, but contradictions within yourself, within your personality. Could this be it?

Edit: Another thought maybe you are thinking that the part of you that acts like your mother at times would like to fuck up the life of the part of you that disapproves of your mother. I remember once going out on a date and afterwards I thought to myself that I did not act at all like myself, and out of the blue the thought occurred to me that I had acted more like I would imagine my mother might have acted on that date, and I hated that idea -- this was during a time when I felt a lot of resentment toward my mother, we get along much better now most of the time.

Originally Posted by Isabelle1

Thank you so much for giving your opinions about this .

In fact , I am not at any level close to my mother . On the opposite , we donot really agree , pretty much never agree on anything . However , I don't hate her or wish her anything bad or so on . And , my love is not at all focused on my family . I love them and everything , we see each other like once or twice a week . My real family is a bunch of my friends plus my boyfriend . I'm 20 years old . I have never thought of my family as an outlet to any of my sexual urges to fulfill either .

Thank you for your feedback. I must admit that this not at all what I would have guessed from your dreams and I'm stumped. Hope others' input will help you out.

Oh geez, this reminds me of a dream I had, quite similar. I walked into my moms room and she was masturbating, and I yelled at her but she didn't stop so I ran out of the room then woke up mortified... I know how you feel Isabelle1

Yeah , I think that JoannaB is the closest .
I've said exactly the same words to a friend , a few days ago , about my fear of becoming similar to my mother in some aspects . I think the dream was a manifestation of such fear , and how I possess some kind of conflict or contradiction between these two sides or these different faces in general . Thank you for your insight And for everyone who helped me on this .

Narwhal , yeah I know it , you wake up too shocked to move or speak

Masturbation certainly seems a symbol for being close together.
Yet in your case it seems tangled together. Is it like co-dependence?
Then maybe you wanted to break free and be relaxed, but saw you were lost; it was a jungle in your mind.
And yes it's probably inevitable your mother would symbolize part of your mind she has so affected, to the degree her character influences you or becomes you.

Unless it can be you wanting to give pleasure to her and be close, and her reciprocate.
Being opposite to the reality, could make a powerful underlying desire for a daughter toward her mother.
Can you remember how you felt in the dream, which might be opposite to your waking reaction?
And then you saw being friends with her seemed hopelessly lost.

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Narwhal

I walked into my moms room and she was masturbating, and I yelled at her but she didn't stop so I ran out of the room.

Maybe your mother was revealing intimate stuff about herself, that you would rather not hear.
Or perhaps was pleasing just herself.