There are a connection between your experiences with men and these dreams, so let's speculate along those lines if you don't mind. I'm going to talk about you as a dreamer in third person, because I'm more comfortable with that.
There's a part of the dreamer who wants to have sex (naturally), but the dreamer doesn't want to have sex with the men she dates or just meet in the passing. So there are a conflict here: The dreamer's ego have decided that she will not have sex if not certain conditions are met, but part of the dreamer's unconsciousness wants to have sex nonetheless.
When the dreamer dates, of course the men she dates are potential sexual partners, so unconsciously there's a build up of expectations of having sex with these men. Or for that matter, if the dreamer meets somebody she is attracted to, who is interested in her, there's somewhere a unconscious expectation of having sex. So inside of the dreamer there is this need, and this expectation. But the dreamer's ego denies her sexuality this fulfillment, and the men eventually turns away.
Then the dreamer is alone and has these nightmares where sex is forced upon her, sometimes by the same men who perhaps were subject to (unconscious) sexual fantasies. So the ego rejects her own sexuality, and the frustration of that part of her comes back in the dreams, as nightmares, as suppressed content often does. Often when our ego strays to far from our instinctual self, the latter forces itself upon us in our dreams, if nothing else, as a compensation, because the psyche strive for balance.
So that's what I think, but of course this may be wrong and I apologize if you feel uncomfortable with my speculation, I know it is private (which is one of the reasons I prefer to speak about this in third person.)
Does this mean that the dreamer should have causal sex? No, that's not what I'm saying and I think it is not what the dream is saying either. Dreams never says "you should do this, or do that", they are mostly displaying an inner dynamic. And in this dynamic, as I interpret it, there's an unbalanced relationship between the ego's attitude and inner needs, and so the ego's attitude is compensated in the dreams by the opposite attitude. To use this in real life, would mean to find a balance between the two conflicting wishes.
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