Thread: Being friends with my ex-boyfriends new girlfriend...

I wouldn’t normally ask for dream interpretation help, but I’m curious. I am a twenty-four year old female and currently in a four and a half month old relationship with a very nice guy the same age as me, but my ex-boyfriend who I dated last year and who is four years younger than me keeps showing up in my dreams.

About a week ago I had a dream he showed up where I work though he lives states away. I was very surprised and nervous because my current boyfriend works very close to me. I don’t remember much from that dream.

Two nights ago he showed up again, this time, however he was dating my best friend, who I absolutely love. She’s recently single and having fun being so at the moment. I was very surprised that they were dating and a little uncomfortable. I remember thinking I just wanted my friend to be happy because she’s just gotten out of a somewhat rut of a relationship, and I know my ex-boyfriend is a good guy. Albeit a little unsure about himself and his life, but a good guy. In my dream I was pretending to be okay with it. The strange thing is when I met him I was newly single much in the same way my best friend is now.

Last night I dreamed that I was on Facebook and saw he was dating this new girl who was pretty granola/hippie, not very much like me, but a little like my ex-boyfriend. I’m more of the grungy, city-girl type. I looked at some sort of animation she made on Facebook that was of them walking in the woods. Then—flash forward to me having to hang out with her and I felt so uncomfortable. She was acting like she wanted to be my friend, but she was being really condescending and weird about it. We were sitting in a room playing a board game, I think, and my ex walked in. I said hi and everything was friendly/amicable. I noticed he had a new tattoo (although he has none in reality). It was on his side and it was a mountain range covering some sort of birthmark (he actually doesn’t have a birthmark there). I said, hey I like your tattoo. He said thank you and left and then his new girlfriend turned to me and said, “wow, that was inappropriate.” And I remember feeling confused about what she wanted the boundaries to be between us and between me and my ex. Incidentally, me and my ex-boyfriend met in the mountains.

I wasn’t exactly jealous in any of these dreams. I was more sad, disappointed, confused, and annoyed. I’m not sure my current boyfriend was in any of these dreams.