Dreams about a person I love.

It's been 5 years since I confessed to a girl I liked. She kindly said she wasn't interested. I have had at least 10 dreams involving her. The latest one was today. Most of my dreams I don't see her but I know where she is. It doesn't cross my mind to look for her. The few that we are talking, we get along well.

At times I don't think about her for at least a month and then all of a sudden I dream about her and when I wake up I can't stop thinking about her.
On her last birthday I couldn't bring myself to give her a happy birthday. I didn't dream of her the day before, on her birthday or the day after. But at the end of the month i dreamt about her. What does it mean?
In my memory and dreams she is perfect. If I do pursue her, there will be something that will disappoint me about her.

The best thing to do is be a man and let her know how you truely feel. What's the worst thing could happen? Turned down? So what, but if it works out then your dreams will come true. It's surely worth the try. Good luck

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Originally Posted by FallenSoldiers

The best thing to do is be a man and let her know how you truely feel. What's the worst thing could happen? Turned down? So what, but if it works out then your dreams will come true. It's surely worth the try. Good luck

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I don't mind being turned down. I'm expecting I will be turned down, no doubt about it. As she has turned me down once already.
It's the dreams I don't know what to do about.

I know just how you feel! I really liked this girl, dreamt about her, tried asking her out but got turned down. I then carried on dreaming about her, tried asking her out again and again got turned down. Now I don't even see her anymore and haven't talked to her in a long time but i still dream about her every now and then. I think for me at least is that for one i probably never really let her go, and maybe she too has not let go too, its a possibility (I know she liked me but just didnt want to be in a relationship at that point). So, yeah i guess i'm just really connected with her. Might be that case in your situation. In dreams we are exactly what I imagined it would be. I have thought about finding her in a lucid dream and trying to end it once and for all (letting go, and saying goodbye), but i do enjoy being together even if only in dreams =)

Good luck I guess

I know how you feel, i'm in the same sort of situation except the girl I love is my best friend, i'm also her best friend and she knows how I feel about her and hasn't exactly declined anything, then she fell in love with another guy but it didn't go so well and they had to split up, now I'm stuck...do I give her a nudge or do i stay quite...it's ridiculous how much I love her and have never felt this way about someone before.

I have tried so very hard to dream about her and I would do just about anything to make that happen. Even if its not real...it is something...something beautiful. :)

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Originally Posted by Rodrodrod

I know just how you feel! I really liked this girl, dreamt about her, tried asking her out but got turned down. I then carried on dreaming about her, tried asking her out again and again got turned down. Now I don't even see her anymore and haven't talked to her in a long time but i still dream about her every now and then. I think for me at least is that for one i probably never really let her go, and maybe she too has not let go too, its a possibility (I know she liked me but just didnt want to be in a relationship at that point). So, yeah i guess i'm just really connected with her. Might be that case in your situation. In dreams we are exactly what I imagined it would be. I have thought about finding her in a lucid dream and trying to end it once and for all (letting go, and saying goodbye), but i do enjoy being together even if only in dreams =)

Good luck I guess

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She was in my science class and I used to sit in front of her. So one day I walk in minding my own business. Then as I reached my desk I notice she was looking into my eyes. I don't know what her facial expression meant but I thought it meant she had fallen for me. This was 8 years ago. I tried brushing it off but I couldn't I can see her facial expression as clear as crystal up until now. It's funny that after I confessed, the dreams about her started. Once I was on MSN and was talking to my friend when all of a sudden he said she is online do you want to talk to her. I got a nose bleed, that's how embarrassed I got.
I wouldn't try to end it in a lucid dream. For me she is the one person that is perfect and I'm assuming yours is perfect too. A big part of me is telling me not to let go. But then my realistic side is telling me that she has probably found someone else (I sometimes hate thinking realistically). I don't want to let go of someone who I dream about being perfect.

Thanks.

The reason I sometimes want to try end it in a lucid dream is because after waking sometimes I feel really bad that it was a dream and that it could have been in waking life, that I wish it was. The way I see is that I will probably only get over her by falling in love with someone else I guess, but i've never found anyone else I've felt the same way about.

As for your situation, I don't think i'm the best adviser about it. On one hand you could try again and if you guys end up together it could be great but if it ends then it could not be so great, whereas if you stay the way it is you could still be best friends. I believe only you know what you should do, but try see from her point of view too. Maybe coz she just ended something she may not want something now, or she is also scared of that happening with you. =/

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Originally Posted by jackc45

I know how you feel, i'm in the same sort of situation except the girl I love is my best friend, i'm also her best friend and she knows how I feel about her and hasn't exactly declined anything, then she fell in love with another guy but it didn't go so well and they had to split up, now I'm stuck...do I give her a nudge or do i stay quite...it's ridiculous how much I love her and have never felt this way about someone before.

I have tried so very hard to dream about her and I would do just about anything to make that happen. Even if its not real...it is something...something beautiful. :)

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I wouldn't move in just yet. Peoples self esteem can go down after a break up. If you do move in and she says yes. She might be looking for comfort. She might not know what she really want's. When and if self esteem goes back up and she could realise that she doesn't want to be (that's if a lowered self esteem is the issue). So just to be safe I think it would be best to be the best friend you can be and hopefully she does see the goodness in you and fall in love. It's far less painful this way. Because if you did move in now and the worst comes it could destroy the friendship that you two already have.

I hope you experience dreams about her. Good Luck! :)

I understand but I feel that If I end it, I won't fall in love with anyone else. It's like I feel that love won't exist in me any more. I've tried to move on but it hasn't helped. There is no one who makes my heart race like the way she makes mine. Compared to others I might as swell be asleep (not dreaming).

True. When I first confessed I never thought it through, I never asked about how she felt. I guess it's worth a shot. If she does say no and I say to lets be friends. She could think I'm secretly pursuing her.

I was wondering if I should tell her about the dreams. But it might creep her out (the dreams are more to do with the person she is from the heart rather than physically).

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Originally Posted by qyuubi786

I understand but I feel that If I end it, I won't fall in love with anyone else. It's like I feel that love won't exist in me any more. I've tried to move on but it hasn't helped. There is no one who makes my heart race like the way she makes mine. Compared to others I might as swell be asleep (not dreaming).

True. When I first confessed I never thought it through, I never asked about how she felt. I guess it's worth a shot. If she does say no and I say to lets be friends. She could think I'm secretly pursuing her.

I was wondering if I should tell her about the dreams. But it might creep her out (the dreams are more to do with the person she is from the heart rather than physically).

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Dreams are a touchy subject to discuss with anyone and depending on who you tell, the kind of people who think dreams are stupid, will not be so understanding of the matter especially if you say your dreaming of that particular person, all I can say is proceed with caution on that subject.

Ok, I guess women work in mysterious ways. Thanks for the heads up. :)

*Moved to Dream interpretation*