Recuuring person in a dream
Hi,
I would like to have some help in understanding the dreams I've been having lately. Please excuse my writing mistakes since english is not my first language, but I will try my best. I am a fairly young woman but I have gone through a lot, having been in the military for 3 years and recently going back to school in the civilian world. I am in a very happy relationship with a man whom I want to marry some day. We have gone through very difficult experiences together and have grown very close, especially overthe last year. For the past few weeks, I have been dreaming about another man very often. We used to work together and were friends. At the beginning of our friendship he wanted more and said he was in love with me (though probably infatuation), but I knew he wasn't the kind of stable, patient man I needed and thought it would not work. We stayed friends for over two years after that without problem. Occasionally we would hug, hold hands or kiss each other on the cheek but it was always dismissed as a joke and nothing happened, although we did have a very strong connection. I do not really see him anymore as he remained in the military after I quit, but when we do run into each other, my significant other gets very jealous. When I try to contact him he often won't answer if it wasn't a question that I sent. I get the impression that he may be uncomfortable.
The dreams vary a lot. Sometimes my significant other breaks up with me and I run to this other man for comfort. He takes me in his arms to protect me and kisses my forehead and acts as a savior. Sometimes the dream is more of a sensual nature (I do not want to say sexual because there is no actual sex happening, mostly kissing and cuddling. In the dream I get a very strong sense of intimacy, like we are one). Some other times he is quite distant. I try to get his attention but he keeps looking the other way and walking away when I try to get closer to him. Finally, sometimes, the dream isn't even about him. He is just standing there, watching the story unfold itself from the background.
I would like to precise that none of the dreams are about having an affair. Either my significant other has left me or there is no sign of his existence at all.
I know this is a long thread so thank you for reading this far. I would like to hear what you think this might mean?