I dream about girls- but are never sexual.

Hi, this is my first post on the forum and some help interpreting my dream would be appreciated. I have read the read me on how to post on this forum and will try to add as much detail as possible.
Basically, most of my happy dreams are about relationships with my crushes [Non-Lucid]. I never make a move and they are never sexual. Firstly, I am a 17 year old boy and I am straight, I however am a virgin.
Some people are very good at remembering their dreams, I am not one of those people.
Somehow I managed to get car-rides from my crush, a 17 year old girl. She has a boyfriend which I am aware of in the dream. As dreams are weird the car is in like auto-pilot so no-one is actually driving it. During the drives she would talk to me alot and ask me of my relationships with other girls, of which there are non which I tell her. She seems very eager, however I never make any sort of move, I just be my shy-self. I feel very happy the fact that I am talking to her and don't feel disappointed in any way. I seem 'satisfied' in the situation I have.
This seems to be a common theme in alot of my dreams I am always nice to girls but never anything sexual. In this dream I also found myself needing to take control of the car which is also a common theme, when I was younger I used to dream alot about me and my elder sisters being in the car and i need to take over driving in order to save us, weird? This also happened in this dream except it wasn't to save people it was to prevent damaging her car.
I'm not sure how weird this dream is or how poorly I have explained it but help would be appreciated, if there are any questions please ask.
Thankyou.

Hello Domjom22,

First of all, welcome to DV! Due to the fact that you are a virgin, I would attribute your absence of sexual advances on your crush to your lack of sexual experience. Also, you mentioned that you are shy, and so that may also play a part. By the sound of it, you are a very respectful person, so you may also not be making advances due to the fact that she has a boyfriend which you are aware of. Just some thoughts, I hope this has helped to shed some light :)

Yeah that does make sense, however as it is a dream I would have thought that it would be a place where I could act freely and not be tied down by my personality, didn't know they were so affected by my real life behavior, thankyou for the quick response :)

I found your post very relatable. Your dream is not weird at all, since I tend to view love/sex in dreams in a very similar way.

I even have a crush from high school who periodically pops up in my dreams. In waking life, I was too shy to ever talk to this girl. She has a boyfriend, much like yours. Though just like you described, in waking life, I barely knew this girl. Talked to her occasionally but never had the courage to ask her out or even really become friends with her. Though in dreams, we will be in that kind of close friendship or lightly romantic relationship. The dream plays out in the way it does to sort of represent that shyness and restraint, and how you view the situation.

I too, am a virgin in waking life. Though I've had quite a few sexual dreams, but never with my crush from high school. Most of them with a a certian dream guide... (She even has that car that drives on the autopilot.) Though not nearly as many as some other users on this website. Reason being, I am not a very sexually driven person. I have some gender identity issues and am a bit of a bisexual too. (As in, I am attracted to men, but I am generally more attracted to women.)

Agian, your dream isn't weird or in any way bad. You described it as enjoyable, so I see no reason for you to want to stop having it. If anything, I think it's better that your dreams are more focused on the socioemotional aspect of your relationship rather than the sexual element. It's just a representation of your perspective on your feelings.

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Actual dialogue between me and my friends:

Friend: "Alright who here is still a virgin?"

Sexual Friend: "NO!"

Female Friend: "Nope. Done it with my BF."

Me: "Uhh... do lucid dreams count?"

*Everyone cracks up laughing, myself included.*

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Originally Posted by Domjom22

Yeah that does make sense, however as it is a dream I would have thought that it would be a place where I could act freely and not be tied down by my personality, didn't know they were so affected by my real life behavior, thankyou for the quick response :)

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Dreams are easily influenced by our thoughts and personality (hence the sporadic and random nature of NLD's). In order to truly be free and have complete control over every aspect of your dream, you have to be fully self-aware :)