Thread: Friend having feelings for me?

Originally Posted by mariar1992

I had this dream the other night and it’s been in my head since. In the dream my friend randomly calls me saying “hey I’m coming to pick you up” so I’m thinking we’re going to hang out but then she takes me to her house and her mom, dad and sister are sitting at the table waiting for us. I feel confused because I’m not sure what’s going on but my friend and I both sit down with her family and she says she’s bisexual and I’m her girlfriend. I didn’t know how to react because I know her dad and sister do not approve of gay people and neither does my own family. But oddly enough in my dream everyone in her family accepts her and I but to me we are friends and I felt uncomfortable so I walk out and call another friend to get me. My friend didn't want me to leave and asks me to stay and says she'll take me home but I refuse and I leave once my other friend arrives. I woke up after that.
I haven’t looked at my friend as someone I’d date but I have felt she may have feelings but I’m not sure. We do have a lot in common and we are close friends. To clarify I am also bisexual.
I have had other dreams about this friend like once she was raped and I was angry and wanted to protect her and another was of me walking out on her which was random. And I have told her about my dreams, sometimes we talk about our dreams to each other.

I know this is a lot but I've been thinking about this dream for the past few days...

It's possible it could reflect her feelings. But here's another possibility, too - perhaps your friend is a representation or aspect of yourself. A lot of times dreams do that. They use other people (usually of the same gender, and share traits with us, like our sexuality may be in common) to show some part of ourselves -- because it's easier for our ego to digest it that way. Especially when it's about something we may feel a little uncomfortable with.

If it was about you, then perhaps it could be showing that you'd find more acceptance for your sexuality than you may think (hence the family acceptance in the dream). Does your family know?

But your feelings of discomfort may show that you don't like the idea of coming out to your family.

This is just an idea. I don't really know you or your friend, and of course it may be a reflection of the relationship you two share, as well. Good luck and I hope you decipher it!