Vacation/ relationship dream

I'm on vacation with the person I'm in a relationship with. I tell him that before we choose the hotel we'll be staying at, I want to check out the restaurants and see what's on the menu. That way I can decide which one. I want the one with the tastiest food. Then I tell him that I want him to take a selfie of us together. I want him to put his arm around me and snap a selfie.

That's all I remember about the dream. I don't remember my feelings or what he was like. In real life, I am single. I'm wondering if anyone can interpret this dream? Thank you.

Hi,
What I've learnt from my own dreams is that there is nothing in a dream by chance. Therefore, if you answer the following questions, to the best of your recall ability, I will happily give you an interpretation of your dream as if it was mine.

First tell me the number of scenes in your dream. THEN FOR EACH SCENE I want you to tell me the following:

Location:
I want you to look in your mind, as the observer, in the following directions and tell me what you see:
1. To your left.
2. To your right.
3. In front of you.
4. Behind you.
5. Above you.
6. Below you.

It’s all right if you can’t recall much. Simply tell me what you see and make sure I know what direction it is from you the dreamer. In my interpretation, you’ll see how this is a symbol itself.

When you are describing what you see, tell me in as much detail as you can recall about it. So things I am very interested in is what are walls, doors, windows, stairs, tables, etc. made of, age/style, colour, etc. The same goes for anything outside. You’ll see in my interpretations how all of this tells us lots about ourselves.

Lighting:
1. Tell me what the lighting was like, i.e. bright, dull, black, cloudy etc.
2. Then tell me where the light was coming from.
3. Can you tell the time of day or season?
Lighting is important in a dream because it’s a symbol of vibrational state. I’ll explain this during my interpretation for you.

Objects:
If there are any objects in a dream scene, then tell me about them as follows:
1. Shape, size, colour and what they were made of.
2. Where the object is in the dream relative to you, i.e. left, right, etc.

I’ve found objects in dreams are usually symbols of things we first need to concentrate on spiritually. I’ll explain this in the interpretation if you had any objects in any of the scenes.

People:
For each person in a dream scene I want you to do the following:
1. Describe them to me in as much detail as you can recall. This includes age, gender, clothes, colour of the clothes, what the clothes were made of.
2. Tell me where they were in the dream scene relative to you, i.e. left, right, below, etc.
3. Tell me if they were lying down, sitting, standing, walking, etc.
4. Tell me what they did with you. Don’t skip the details. Simply tell me exactly what happened.
5. If there are any conversations or thoughts between you and the person or others, then tell me EXACTLY WHAT WAS SAID. This is important.
6. If there were others you couldn’t see but felt, then let me know where you felt they were in a scene relative to you the dreamer, i.e. left, right, etc.
7. For people who you know in real life, tell me anything that's different about them in the dream versus the real life version.

Animals. Etc.:
If there were any animals, insects, birds, reptiles, fish or whatever in any of the scenes, then tell me. Describe them in as great as detail as you can recall. Also let me know where they were in the dream scene relative to you, i.e. left, right, etc. Then let me know of any thoughts that passed between you and them.

Thoughts/Feelings:
This is a very important part of every dream scene. Take your time, go back and tell me the following for each scene:
1. What was your first thought/feeling as the dream scene began.
2. Tell me of any thoughts/feeling changes as the dream scene progressed and let me know where in the scene this occurred.
3. Tell me your last thought/feeling as the dream ended.

I realize this is a lot of work. HOWEVER, I think you might be surprised by how much you can learn about yourself from a single scene.

With kind regards,
Guy:)

I can't remember the lighting. It might have been mid day or early evening. We were outside. In front of and to the right was one of the potential hotels. The potential menu, I think was in front of me. The man I was in a relationship with was to my right. I was having him put his left arm around me to snap the selfie. I was thinking of him putting his right arm out in front of us to take it. We were standing. I don't remember seeing him or what he was wearing or looked like. I don't remember anything else about the dream, other than what I wrote previously. No other thoughts or feelings.

I just found another part to the dream. I keep a dream journal in a notebook and I didn't realize that there was another part. As I was getting ready for bed tonight and getting the notebook ready, I noticed that I'd written a little more. I don't even remember this part really, but here is what I wrote:

I think we're going up an elevator. We're shopping. We're going to go sightseeing.

Hi!
Thanks for letting me know some additional information about your dream. Hopefully, by the end of this interpretation, you’ll see how much information there is in a single dream scene that we can learn about ourselves from.

Below is my interpretation of your dream as if it was mine. Dreams are for each of us to interpret on our own. Therefore, if anything I say below doesn’t resonate with you, then simply discard it. So with that said, off I go…

When I do my own interpretations or that of others, I always start with the location. I could have located it anywhere, at any time in any reality and…I’ve located it outside the hotles I’ve learnt that locations help to “spiritually frame in” a dream.

I will take the first of several sidebars here to help you understand the framework I use when interpreting a dream. This one will cover what I’ve learned about beliefs, belief compartments, people and the age of people. Then I’ll return to myself outside the hotels.

In my dreams, things that are made by people are symbols of masculine and things of nature are symbols of feminine. I’ve learnt that before we incarnate, we carefully select the times we will live in, our families, life circumstances, challenges and potential exit points. We then carefully select our personality.

I’ve learnt we do this by selecting approximately 200 different “belief filters”. These are energy filters that have two polarities, a feminine one and a masculine one. We select the degree of polarity we are going to hold the belief, i.e. the degree of feminine or masculine. This then determines the belief vibratory level.

Each belief then works with the other beliefs, each with their own vibratory rate. They literally “filter our reality” by blocking out the greater reality vibrations we actually come from. They create the aura around us and create our thoughts/feelings for each moment.

We constantly tell ourselves about this in our dreams. We use symbolism to show ourselves about the beliefs and their limiting effects on us spiritually. We also show ourselves the “dis-ease’ created by some of our beliefs using colours in our dreams.

In my dreams buildings are symbols of what I call ‘belief compartments’. I’ve learnt that each wall is a symbol of a belief. Furniture within them are symbols of yet more beliefs that work with the overall beliefs to produce what I call are ‘belief effects’.

To symbolize to ourselves the many different types of beliefs we use in all our many lives, we often create our dreams in towns, cities or houses.

I’ve often found that in many of my dreams, people appear in the rooms or buildings. When I first began to record my dreams, many years ago, I frequently found myself in large warehouses full of boxes I had to climb over or in rooms in houses full of furniture. Imagine my surprise when I eventually learnt they boxes and furniture were symbols of masculine based beliefs I had to address first before I got to the walls!

As I spiritually listened to myself, over time, the rooms began to empty. Then I was walking through empty rooms. The next step was to see glass walls, windows and open doors, all symbols of how I was beginning to work my way out of the old belief walls. Then the walls began to disappear. In the end, I was usually flying over the old beliefs.

In many of my dreams when I began to keep a record of my dreams,, I would find myself in multi-storied houses. I then realized these are symbols of numerous belief compartments I use in one or more of my lives.

Then I found myself in towns and cities. I then realized that each one is a symbol of various belief compartments I have used in another life.

I will take another sidebar here and describe what I’ve learnt about people in my dreams…

When I first began recording my dreams, I would often find people in my dreams that I didn’t know or ones that I did know but they were doing strange things. When I tried to literally interpret my dreams, it usually didn’t work.

I had a near death experience 12 years ago that changed me. One of the changes was a determination to learn to meditate. I had stopped and started meditation all my life and had in effect gone nowhere in a hurry. So this time I was determined to stick with it.

I slowly learnt how to touch my “higher self”. One day, the thought came to me to use my higher self to assist me in interpreting my dreams. Then the dream gates swung wide open.

I’ve since learnt that people in my dreams may be who they are, symbols of my masculine and feminine, other lives, teachers, guides, oversoul, aspects of myself, people who I frequently incarnate with, etc.

When I first began to record my dreams I frequently began to see an old couple. They might change their appearance but there was almost always an old man and woman in the dream. Then a young girl and by appeared.

They too sometimes changed but they were now in the same dream as the old couple. However, they were “bit players” in my dreams as the old couple was the ones I was interacting with.

At first, I had no idea who these people were. Then, as I learnt to mediate and apply my higher self to my dream interpretations, my dreams gates swung open.

First, I learnt that the old man and women were symbols of my masculine and feminine. Next, I learnt that the young girl and boy were symbols of the feminine and masculine I could become. So I then used the terms “old masculine and feminine” and “young masculine and feminine” to describe these dream symbols to myself.

As I began to address my underlying beliefs, the old couple disappeared from my dreams and the young ones spiritually grew up.

I’ve learnt that people’s age in dreams is important.

When infants are in my dreams as other lives, this is usually a symbol we are just beginning our journey through the beliefs the dream is about.

When teenagers show up I realize I am making steady progress through my dreams.

When mature adults show up, it’s a sign that I am now spiritually maturing in dealing with the beliefs.

When old people show up in my dreams, I let out a sound of joy! It’s a sign that I am now ready to release the old beliefs.

I then learnt that things made out of natural materials are symbols of feminine beliefs that are now no longer working for me. In effect, spiritually speaking, they are now “dead” for me, i.e. dead trees – wood, etc. So, whenever I am in rooms made of wood or standing on wood, etc. I refer to this in my mind as “dead feminine”.

About a year and a half ago, I felt compelled to put together a free website documenting what I have learnt. At first, I didn’t want to because I felt what I had learnt was akin in my mind to a teaspoon of water compared to all the oceans’ water, i.e. not much. However the feeling persisted.

Today if you go to ‘learningfrommydreams’ dot com you’ll see what I created. If you go there, I suggest you look at 3 things. One is the meditation page where I list all sorts of different ways to meditate. Find one that works for you.

Then I recommend you read the dream discussion paper I posted on the website. It describes the symbolism I’ve learnt including people.

I recommend you look at the resources page where you’ll find an extensive list of things to look at.

Lastly, I want to make a note that we are the producers, directors, script writers and often main actors in our dreams. Therefore, there is nothing in our dreams by chance. It’s a language to teach ourselves about ourselves.

So with this said, back to my dream…

The first thing I note is that I am outside. When I am outside in a dream, it’s usually what I call a “teaching dream” as opposed to when I am inside something it’s what I call a “learning dream”. So what’s the difference?

When I am inside belief compartments, the belief walls effectively isolate me from my higher self. I am therefore usually learning on my own. As I progress, windows appear and then slowly walls disappear…all part of a learning process.

When I am outside, there are no belief walls constricting me. My higher self and others can then instruct me. That’s why I call it a “teaching dream”. So, in this first scene I am in a “teaching dream”.

“In front of and to the right was one of the potential hotels.” So, to my masculine side, i.e. right, AND spiritually in front of me, is a symbol of numerous masculine based belief compartments, i.e. a hotel. In my dreams, hotels are symbols of belief compartments I use in many of my other lives, i.e. check in an out of.

Note from me to you: At the end of this interpretation is a recommendation of a fictional, easy to read book about an over soul and some of his other lives. I strongly recommend you read it. It will provide you with a broader framework to help you interpret your own dreams in the future.

I can’t recall the lighting.

Note from me to you: I will describe what I’ve learnt about lighting from my own dreams such that you have a understanding of what it means in your future dreams.

Lighting in my dreams is very important. It is a way of symbolizing how much en-lightenment I have with respect to the beliefs the dream is about.

Dark in my dreams is a symbol of where I haven’t yet spiritually explored my beliefs. Sunlight is a symbol that my over soul is assisting me.

When I am in rooms with no windows or doors, it’s a symbol that I am “en-lightening” myself on my own.

If there are windows and the sun is shining through, it’s a symbol that some of my belief walls are beginning to be removed and my over soul is now beginning to assist me.

Morning is a symbol I am beginning to make progress on my beliefs. Noon is a symbol I am now able to shed full spiritual enlightenment on beliefs the scene is a symbol of. Evening is a time when I am in a place of spiritual darkness with respect to the beliefs.

If it’s winter, it’s a sign that I need to reflect on my beliefs since they are frozen. If it’s spring, it’s a time that I am beginning to make spiritual progress on the beliefs. If it’s summertime, it’s a symbol that my work is now bearing spiritual fruit. If it’s fall, it indicates I am heading towards a period where I can reap the benefits by releasing old beliefs.

Back to my dream…
“It might have been mid day or early evening”. So, I am at a point where, if I don’t listen to this dream and myself, I will be entering a period of spiritual darkness only with respect to the beliefs this dream is about, i.e. night.

The only objects I can recall in this dream are the cell phone I’m using to take a selfie and the menu. In my dreams, objects are very important. Why?

They’re usually symbols of masculine based beliefs I first need to address. In this dream, I am using a phone to take a picture of myself.

When phones, computers and/or TV’s show up in my dream, they’re symbols of masculine based beliefs that are limiting my ability to spiritually communicate. Spiritual communication is a feminine attribute. So I now know I need to focus in on the underlying beliefs the camera is a symbol of.

Next I note the man is taking a picture of us, i.e. a selfie. This is me sending a message to myself on a couple of levels…

First, it’s one way in my dreams that I get myself to recall a dream, i.e. taking a picture or a video within my dream.

Second, it relates to my spiritual communication abilities. My masculine based beliefs don’t allow my feminine based abilities to be used. I’ve learnt that we have access to LOTS of information about ourselves if only we are to learn to listen to ourselves.

Third it’s a way we use to judge ourselves by how others judge us. This is one of the effects of the beliefs I am holding in my spiritual hand, i.e. the camera.

Next I consider the menu. “The potential menu, I think was in front of me.” “I tell him that before we choose the hotel we'll be staying at, I want to check out the restaurants and see what's on the menu. That way I can decide which one.”

A menu is yet another symbol of a masculine based belief. It deals with food, i.e. spiritual nourishment. So I want to select some beliefs to spiritually consume that will then tell me which of the large set of belief compartments, i.e. hotels, I’ll select.

So now I come to the star of the star of the dream…the man!

So, who is he? He’s another life of mine. He too shares the same underlying beliefs I do. He’s also spiritually working with me on the beliefs.

He’s to my masculine side, i.e. right. This shows me that he has a slightly more masculine polarity for the beliefs this dream is about than I do.

We are both standing. I will take yet another brief side bar and tell you what I’ve learnt about sitting, standing et al in my dreams and then return to the two of us standing.

When I am lying down in dream, it’s a symbol that I don’t have any spiritual ability yet to even see the effects of some of my beliefs.

When I am sitting, it’s a symbol that I need spiritual support to see the effects of some of my beliefs.

When I am standing, it’s a symbol that I now can stand on my own two spiritual feet to see the effects.

When I am walking, it’s a symbol that I am now steadily moving through the beliefs.

When I am running, it’s a symbol I am moving relatively quickly through the beliefs.

Note that I have found that spiritual time and our time are too different things. Usually my dream time is far faster than my physical time. So when I am running etc. I realize that it still will take “some time”.

Back to the dream…

So my other life and myself are able to stand on our own two spiritual feet to see some of the effects of the underlying beliefs BUT we’re not able yet to spiritually work our way through them, i.e. walking.

Therein is my dream. It’s a teaching dream I can choose to ignore OR, I CAN LEARN TO LISTEN TO MYSELF.

Speaking from personal experience, this path is not always easy since one must learn to face oneself BUT IT IS HIGHLY REWARDING.

If I wanted to learn to listen to myself here are some suggestions I could use:
• Learn to listen to my intuition – it’s my spiritual radar
• Keep a dream journal – each night I get a course on myself
• Learn to meditate – this is a way to connect with the greater me

There are many ways one can get in touch with one self…

Meditation is one way. The old Hindi's of 2,500-3,000 years ago wanted to have out of body experiences. They did this by occupying the conscious mind allowing their inner soul to rise. Today, this is called yoga and the OBE portion is mostly an afterthought.

When they were out of their bodies, they saw energy swirling into the body from the sun, from the earth and from the side. They called these main points "chakras". Then they saw that the energy went into small points they called "nadis".

They then did something that amazes me to this day. They mapped 70,000 different Nadi points and then it went up to 100,000.

This knowledge crossed over the Himalayas and went down into China. It became adopted as energy meridian lines. Today acupuncture uses this.

Yoga is simply one of many ways. On * Link Removed * I list several different ways to meditate. You can go there and see if any one of these resonates with you. If so, then give it a try.

Another way is to use the hemi-sync technology that Robert Monroe pioneered to help people get to the theta state and have out of body experiences. You can go to the Monroe Institute to learn more https://www.monroeinstitute.org/. Books Bob wrote can be found here * Link Removed *

Another way is to go to a hypnotist trained by the Newton Institute. This was created by a psychologist Michael Newton. About 30 or so years ago, he had a woman under hypnosis who went to a place she called her "live between lives". He then found out that many of his other patients went to a very similar place. He then write three books and began to train psychologists how to do this. The Newton Institute can be found here The Newton Institute for Life Between Lives Hypnotherapy. On this website is a link to find a local therapist.

To learn about other lives, I suggest reading a fictional trilogy “Over Soul Seven” by Jane Roberts. She was a great channeler who brought through an entity names Seth in the 1970’s. He wrote many books through her. She also wrote some of her own books.

The books I am referring to are a trilogy she wrote to explain, in a simple story form, complex ideas about us incarnating many times, at the same time. It’s an easy read and good way to get one’s mind around the concept of an over soul and many other lives.

The choice is yours to make. I hope that some of what I’ve said above deeply resonates within you.

With kind regards,
Guy:):):)

O.k. thank you Guy for your thoughts. :)

Surprising you said you weren't in a relationship. But that's dreams. It also narrows it down:

Do you want to get away from how you are? Check out what else there is, to chose what's tastier, to elevate yourself?
Seeing the sights to buy or obtain what you like in life.
You wanted to record this picture of yourself, with the man who means putting it into action, that you want a relationship with in that way.
So putting his right arm out in front of you to take it can mean extending this ability, and as you were standing.

It is possible though it refers to wanting a relationship.

Cool, that's true, I do want a relationship. You're interpretation makes sense to me. Thanks. :)