Originally Posted by Athanor
It looks like your dream, which appeared some months after you began to feel depressed, was trying to generally show why you were feeling this way and how to improve the situation.
The fact that you still remember the dream after two years probably shows that not enough has been done as yet to solve the overall problem that the dream was dealing with.
After talking to my doctor and therapy, I realized I was depressed since high school. Two years ago, when the dream happened, it only got worse. It got so worse that I wasn't performing good in my job and had two crises. It has affected me emotionally, physically and mentally so much during the time, but a few months ago since I started therapy I've been gradually making changes in my life and I'm starting to feel like I can function normally. I still feel sad that I can never be the person I was before all this happened, but at the same time I feel like I have some kind of responsibility, like all this happened to me and I must make something out of it.
Your dream starts off with you being in your old high school. The class is over and you enter the hallways which have a white maze of stairways.
This could mean that it was time to leave an old way of thinking and acting (e.g. the class is over), and that this might have to involve putting aside a certain kind of “neat and tidy” conformist outlook (e.g. as possibly symbolized by the maze of white stairways that are also found in a high school that would be funded and run by “collective” entities as opposed to a more individual approach).
This is totally true. As I said, I was the "nice son", and I always tried to achieve in order to impress not only my parents but my teachers, etc.
The dream seems to add to this idea of a need for change by having what should have been the routine picking up of you and your brothers becoming an annoying problem where you’ll have to walk a long distance to reach home. “Home” in this case probably refers to reaching the “real you” which, as you mentioned, was apparently being blocked directly or indirectly by various expectations of your parents etc. It’s likely the dream was advising you to give up trying to fulfill these pressures on you by showing your parents as unfeelingly leaving without you.
The thing is I'm gay, and even when I came out to my parents and they still reacted positively to it, I felt like I had deeply disappointed them. I knew I was gay since I was a child and this has made hyper self-aware, and you can tell how this can take a toll on anybody's mental health lol.
This is a method used in dream language to cause the dreamer to think twice about a certain attitude etc., namely, by disparaging a central symbol of the cause of the attitude, in this case, your parents (or at least what you believed your parents wanted regarding your education).
I was the ony unfullfilled with my education though; my parents didn't really think any of it, but I was so let down by the non passion and systematic approach to education I was receiving in university. I graduated with honors, despite I feel like all I learned wasn't taught to me in university. I wanted to drop out because the disinterest from professors towards a more dynamic and creative education made me feel like I was wasting my time. I have a graduate degree on Film and TV production and direction.
The idea that any such change in outlook etc. wouldn’t be easy is soon confirmed by the fact you end up walking in a deadly hot desert. The desert, blazing sun and the very steep hill etc. likely symbolize the depression that you had unfortunately fallen into, and which you’d have to “go through” in order to at last find “a way out”. In addition, the sun might symbolize an overly intense use of thinking and the intellect as understandably caused by your studies at university.
I might re-interpret it the following way: the barrenness of the landscape symbolized the barrenness I found (and wanted to escape from but ultimately decided to endure) in higher education, and the fact that I practically had to look for education in outer sources. I learned a lot of things in this hostile environment though, and more importantly it served to teach me the ugly sides of life.
The little abandoned house with nothing inside stands for a part of your overall personality which has apparently been too neglected over time.
One of the things about my depression and which I constantly think about is that I believe its source comes from a feeling of being too different. I was always to "different", even though I had to repress that in order to make friends and please my parents and teachers. I like the fact that it's in this empty and neglected part of myself in which I find shelter and healing from the hostile environment in which I previously found myself in.
Another thing is at that time, when I woke up one of the first things I was curious about besides the old woman figure, was the fact that I didn't get to the top. Maybe this is just a reflection of my rigid and "people-pleasing" mindset at the time. What I now see is that the sun was so blazing that now I think that if I had reached the top I might have burst into flames! I really needed a bath, and despite choosing the abandoned house for the top of the hill, the sun was still blindingly reaching through the window.
The figure of the “witch” comes from the deepest layers of your unconscious mind and has a large number of beliefs and legends connected to it over the ages. Basically though, she represents the upsetting and annoying factor that balances out, for instance, a “too white and perfect” attitude as maybe earlier symbolized by the maze of white staircases. That is, she stands for a deep part of nature which in itself is a mixture of both the dark and the light concerning life overall in all its complexities. This part of ourselves wants change and development which takes in all aspects of our personality and not just the “nice” aspects. This is meant to gradually bring out our true nature which involves having a well-rounded approach to life in general.
I read that the old woman/hag/crone/wise old woman archetype appears in the arc of the story where the hero is in most trouble to help him... The thing I don't know is, is this crone a part of me (meaning I must be a crone to myself?) or is this someone I must look for in my life? I guess it's the former because I can't think of anyone in my life who could do that for me. And also, there's this phrase that has resonated with me for a long time: "be a mother to yourself". Maybe it's me indeed who needs to take this role in order to save the "hero" in myself.
The idea of change and transformation is also seen in the fact that you have to enter the bathtub. This is meant to be a kind of “baptism” which is needed to bring about a new and healthier overall attitude. The fact that the image is of a woman, albeit a witch, and that the water is a rosy color points to the idea that a closer loyalty to your true emotions and values is needed in order for you to move forward more effectively in the future.
This is what has made me progress so much in therapy: getting to the roots of my feelings and understanding my history. When I think of the crone figure, I think of grandmothers and how they store so much information from the past. My two grandmas always tell stories, and I always learn much from them and my perspective grows. Therapy has done the same for me, but in a tenfold manner.
The other dreams which you remember also tend to touch on the themes in this dream. For example, hunting for ostrich eggs in trees that are found in a mall suggests the need to leave a certain “barren” and “unnatural” materialistic attitude (the mall) which is very common and, symbolically, highly “infectious” in modern societies. Ostriches are birds and symbolically can bring “messages” (in this case, eggs) in the form of intuitions, subtle feelings and thoughts etc. These and other instinctive parts of yourself were apparently undervalued in the past for whatever reason, symbolically making them very “angry” as shown in the dream where lions maul people at a bus stop. In a practical way, this probably unfortunately appeared later in you becoming depressed.
I couldn't believe the amount of anger and repressed negative feelings I had inside. Coincidentally, when I started doing art for therapy, some of the motifs that surfaced where caged birds, volcanoes and wounds. I wasn't angry/etc at my parents, but at myself for doing all these silly things instead of being authentic and following my instincts.
Generally speaking, a vehicle in dreams (whether a truck, car, bicycle, ship or aircraft etc.) represents a complex mix of the physical body along with the dreamer’s interests, drives, wishes and beliefs etc. etc. So it symbolizes a kind of body-and-mind mix with which the person moves through daily life. With this in mind, the dream about driving backwards from university to your parents’ house was probably trying to show that your energies were being used in a negative way which became more obvious later.
I was definitely driving backwards at that time; I also had dreams where I would get lost going somewhere, had many times that kind of dream later around that time.
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Thank you very much for interpreting this. I had a very vague idea about what the dream meant, just that I needed to heal. This might be the sharpest dream I've ever had in my life lol. Thanks again.
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