My boyfriend has sex with his Twin Flame

So to start, my boyfriend has met his “twin flame,” he believes, and she is not me .. he swears he has not - nor does he want - a romantic relationship with her. She lives in a different country and I have not met her. My boyfriend and I are moving to that country together at the end of the month. The idea that he has a more “perfect match” than me makes me admittedly uncomfortable, even though he’s never shown or been anything other than faithful. I’ve dated cheaters and have personally been a cheater in the past. So with this all in mind, I had this dream I just woke up from. I get the feeling it was two part.

In the first part, I dream my boyfriend asked me for permission to have sex with her. In the dream, he says it’s something he feels the need to do. So I say yes, and she comes over, and they start hungrily going at it before I’m even out of the room, so I see it starting to take place, and leave immediately and then wake up feeling uncomfortable.

Cut to the next dream, which is a continuation of the dream before. He asks for my permission to have her stay at my parents house, everyone all together. She gets a guest bed in an odd place, and I wake up and need to walk past her hallway bed, and there’s a raven on her face. Even though it hurts, I got it off her face, and she doesn’t wake up. When she does, she’s nice enough to me. I tell my boyfriend and we are reminded that the raven is one of my spirit animals. He suggests she sleeps in our room; even though it’s crowded and my cousins are sleeping in the room too. Us settling in (everyone) is when I wake up, and again I feel uncomfortable.

What is this about? Do I share it with the boyfriend? I’m left with this uncomfortable feeling I can’t shake. 🙁

Although in order to provide a more accurate interpretation it would usually be best to have some additional general background information about you (and a description of events just before the dreams), a few ideas can be tried out to see if they might fit your personal situation in some way.

Just to start off by saying that the image of your boyfriend in the dreams could symbolize the outer guy, or an inner aspect of your own psychology, or a combination of both. If the image was an exact photographic replica of your boyfriend and it wasn’t “off” in some way, this would point to its being mostly about the outer guy. However, it’s likely that because you’re close to him, the image also relates to a part of yourself in some basic way.

This would be your “inner man” as built up from very early childhood through interactions with your father or father-figure, any male siblings and other males in the extended family. This inner man is soon added to by influences from other male figures such as teachers, movie and TV stars, as well as politicians etc. etc. The key thing is that this inner figure has a big role to play in the choice of boyfriends and finally in a mate. An equivalent figure is created in a male through the early influence of female figures in his life. While not as romantic as believing in a “twin flame” and so on, these psychological figures exert a huge impact on a person’s overall fate in life because the choice of a mate is so fundamental and affects every subsequent aspect of one’s life.

An important point to notice is that, contrary to your boyfriend’s declaration he doesn’t really want a romantic relationship with the girl (and in addition, he’s never shown any signs of cheating in real life), he asks your permission in the first dream to have sex with the girl; that is, the exact opposite of what your outer boyfriend is apparently like.

This could represent the idea that, just as your boyfriend apparently is denying to himself the possibility of a passionate liaison occurring with the girl despite his intense feelings for her, you too may be denying the fact that, although in the past you’ve dated cheaters and been one yourself, you might in the future also give into such equivalent feelings in yourself. If so, this could form part of you feeling “uncomfortable” and being unable to shake it.

In addition, part of why you were attracted to your boyfriend probably partly came from an unconscious awareness that he was “just like you” in this department overall although on the surface he didn’t seem to be. What’s going on with him is different than you just noticing that he liked a pretty girl who was walking by. In this case, he’s declaring a very passionate projection of his inner woman onto the outer girl which, in the so-called “right circumstances” could conceivably get way out control, especially if you end up living within easy reach of where the girl lives.

The second dream could also be emphasizing a need to look at what has shaped your own inner image of the “perfect man” by your boyfriend having you accept the girl on a visit to your parents’ home where you presumably grew up (or at least the presence of your parents and many cousins suggest this general idea). It’s interesting to note that while the girl gets a guest bed in the odd location of a hallway, you and your boyfriend also get an unusual place to sleep in that many of your cousins are also in the same room. This scene could be meant to emphasize your unconscious feelings of concern and worry if your “inner man” at some point tended to get out of control and caused equivalent havoc to that of your boyfriend in the dream potentially having sex with the girl while you and all of your cousins are present in the room.

In this dream, you also see during the night that a raven is on the sleeping girl’s face and remove it. You can try allowing your own personal memories, thoughts and feelings about ravens to come spontaneously to mind while focusing on this image in your dream. Doing this and writing down what emerges could provide a clue about the raven’s meaning in addition to its being one of your spirit animals.

Also, a further clarification of its meaning can be obtained from looking at the various beliefs, myths, folk tales and art that are connected with ravens and crows.

That’s because the source of such beliefs etc. is the same one as your dream, that is, the psyche itself. So various parallels can be explored to see which ones may fit your particular situation.

As an example, crows and ravens are very intelligent. In mythology, they are often mischievous tricksters who cause problems but at the same time, they provide very useful items to humankind such as fire.

This symbolizes the random, dark and light “messages” that come from the unconscious mind in the form of spontaneous thoughts, intuitions, fantasies, gut feelings, impulses and emotions etc.

These are often very creative and allow a person to move ahead, but care has to be taken as well to avoid being taken in by the “trickster” side of the “raven”.

In this case, the girl is asleep and remains so even while you take the raven off her face. This could suggest the idea that an important “message” from her unconscious about her situation (e.g. the potential results of the attitude which allowed her to sleep with your boyfriend with your full knowledge) is not getting through (e.g. she remains “asleep”, i.e. unaware of the raven). Apparently, you don’t tell her about the raven, leaving her totally “unconscious” about what happened. It’s possible this could point to the idea that you and the girl are meant to be the same in that you don’t want to “wake up to this fact” of how the whole idea of cheating and its consequences is tending to invade your life too much. That is, she doesn’t mind openly cheating on you in the dreams, similar to how you dated cheaters and were a cheater yourself, and in addition your real boyfriend is now playing with the same fire.

Anyway as mentioned, without knowing anything much about you, this way of looking at your dreams might not fit your personal circumstances very well, but I hope that these ideas can be helpful in some way.

Please make any comments or ask any questions about this interpretation that you’d like to.

Although in order to provide a more accurate interpretation it would usually be best to have some additional general background information about you (and a description of events just before the dreams), a few ideas can be tried out to see if they might fit your personal situation in some way.

Just to start off by saying that the image of your boyfriend in the dreams could symbolize the outer guy, or an inner aspect of your own psychology, or a combination of both. If the image was an exact photographic replica of your boyfriend and it wasn’t “off” in some way, this would point to its being mostly about the outer guy. However, it’s likely that because you’re close to him, the image also relates to a part of yourself in some basic way.

This would be your “inner man” as built up from very early childhood through interactions with your father or father-figure, any male siblings and other males in the extended family. This inner man is soon added to by influences from other male figures such as teachers, movie and TV stars, as well as politicians etc. etc. The key thing is that this inner figure has a big role to play in the choice of boyfriends and finally in a mate. An equivalent figure is created in a male through the early influence of female figures in his life. While not as romantic as believing in a “twin flame” and so on, these psychological figures exert a huge impact on a person’s overall fate in life because the choice of a mate is so fundamental and affects every subsequent aspect of one’s life.

An important point to notice is that, contrary to your boyfriend’s declaration he doesn’t really want a romantic relationship with the girl (and in addition, he’s never shown any signs of cheating in real life), he asks your permission in the first dream to have sex with the girl; that is, the exact opposite of what your outer boyfriend is apparently like.

This could represent the idea that, just as your boyfriend apparently is denying to himself the possibility of a passionate liaison occurring with the girl despite his intense feelings for her, you too may be denying the fact that, although in the past you’ve dated cheaters and been one yourself, you might in the future also give into such equivalent feelings in yourself. If so, this could form part of you feeling “uncomfortable” and being unable to shake it.

In addition, part of why you were attracted to your boyfriend probably partly came from an unconscious awareness that he was “just like you” in this department overall although on the surface he didn’t seem to be. What’s going on with him is different than you just noticing that he liked a pretty girl who was walking by. In this case, he’s declaring a very passionate projection of his inner woman onto the outer girl which, in the so-called “right circumstances” could conceivably get way out control, especially if you end up living within easy reach of where the girl lives.

The second dream could also be emphasizing a need to look at what has shaped your own inner image of the “perfect man” by your boyfriend having you accept the girl on a visit to your parents’ home where you presumably grew up (or at least the presence of your parents and many cousins suggest this general idea). It’s interesting to note that while the girl gets a guest bed in the odd location of a hallway, you and your boyfriend also get an unusual place to sleep in that many of your cousins are also in the same room. This scene could be meant to emphasize your unconscious feelings of concern and worry if your “inner man” at some point tended to get out of control and caused equivalent havoc to that of your boyfriend in the dream potentially having sex with the girl while you and all of your cousins are present in the room.

In this dream, you also see during the night that a raven is on the sleeping girl’s face and remove it. You can try allowing your own personal memories, thoughts and feelings about ravens to come spontaneously to mind while focusing on this image in your dream. Doing this and writing down what emerges could provide a clue about the raven’s meaning in addition to its being one of your spirit animals.

Also, a further clarification of its meaning can be obtained from looking at the various beliefs, myths, folk tales and art that are connected with ravens and crows.

That’s because the source of such beliefs etc. is the same one as your dream, that is, the psyche itself. So various parallels can be explored to see which ones may fit your particular situation.

As an example, crows and ravens are very intelligent. In mythology, they are often mischievous tricksters who cause problems but at the same time, they provide very useful items to humankind such as fire.

This symbolizes the random, dark and light “messages” that come from the unconscious mind in the form of spontaneous thoughts, intuitions, fantasies, gut feelings, impulses and emotions etc.

These are often very creative and allow a person to move ahead, but care has to be taken as well to avoid being taken in by the “trickster” side of the “raven”.

In this case, the girl is asleep and remains so even while you take the raven off her face. This could suggest the idea that an important “message” from her unconscious about her situation (e.g. the potential results of the attitude which allowed her to sleep with your boyfriend with your full knowledge) is not getting through (e.g. she remains “asleep”, i.e. unaware of the raven). Apparently, you don’t tell her about the raven, leaving her totally “unconscious” about what happened. It’s possible this could point to the idea that you and the girl are meant to be the same in that you don’t want to “wake up to this fact” of how the whole idea of cheating and its consequences is tending to invade your life too much. That is, she doesn’t mind openly cheating on you in the dreams, similar to how you dated cheaters and were a cheater yourself, and in addition your real boyfriend is now playing with the same fire.

Anyway as mentioned, without knowing anything much about you, this way of looking at your dreams might not fit your personal circumstances very well, but I hope that these ideas can be helpful in some way.

Please make any comments or ask any questions about this interpretation that you’d like to.