First off, welcome to DV! Quite a long post you have there. Let me just say, DV has helped a lot of people over the years find answers to a lot of different things. Dreaming is truly a magical facet of humanity, it allows us to process and work out things on our minds, problems, stresses, obsessions, desires, drives, you name it. I got interested in LDing when I was a young teen. I saw it as an escape from the real world, from my problems. However, dreams are just that: and escape. They aren't going to solve problems for you. They can give you insight, or clarity, but if you see a problem in your life, my recommendation would be to be active in trying to solve it, outside of dreams.
If you're lonely, find an activity that puts you with people. I'm the same way, super introverted. I love to play games, so to get me more comfortable with people and talking, I play Overwatch and talk to my teammates. It gets me out of my comfort zone, and I have made some real friends now though that. Find something that works for you, but the key is that YOU have to do it, YOU have to start.
Another thing I picked up on is you seem very preoccupied with finding a partner. I would bet you are thinking about this constantly, and that is in turn influencing your dreams. One main school of thought in current dream psychology is that dreams are a way for our brain to process the day's events, encode what is deemed important, then encode and store. If you are constantly thinking about something, it will inevitably show up in your dreams.
Finally, You say you've been through a lot, you're "mentally damaged, a few other items telling us that you see yourself as having a pretty damaged mental state. Again, I've been there, as well. The best thing I would say to that is to find a therapist, or psychiatrist, to talk to. I speak from mounds of personal experience that speaking with someone, and figuring out proper diagnosis for oneself, and thus the best course of treatment, you will feel mentally better and more stable. Just my two cents on the matter.
Anyway, welcome again, and please check out all of the various sub-forums. While it has slowed a bit, DV will always be a valuable resource for learning how to grow as a person, both through dreams, and great communication with the awesome people here! Talk to you soon, Shin!
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