First of all, the descriptions of your dream totally freaked me out just reading them. I can see why you're having trouble sleeping.
I personally am not entirely sure how to go about fixing the underlying problem here. Dreams are usually based on fears, desires or odd blends of the two. That would imply that you very much love your wife, but at the same time you're afraid that she might become angry at you, likely because she was persuaded by somebody else (the sort of evil force you said you felt). The children dream would seem to represent the same sort of thing.
The only real way to deal with such a thing is to confront the cause, but I'm honestly clueless as to the cause in this case. The most I can come up with is that there might be somebody who you're afraid might be persuading your wife to dislike you, but that's a total shot in the dark.
But besides treating the cause, you can treat the symptoms, though it won't fix it entirely. If possible, sleep with the door closed. Let it act as a barrier for the dream character. A significant amount of this is sheer willpower-- Like I said earlier, dreams are based on fears and desires. Lucid dreams are no different. If you get the chance, and can become lucid in such a dream, confine the hostile dream characters. This is when it gets to the willpower part. Close yourself off from them. Seal the doors, close the windows, etc. Fear of the dream characters is what makes them so powerful. When you're afraid, your mind believes that your opponent is superior in every way and can outsmart and outperform you, trapping you more each moment. The counterpart is desire. If you desire a way out, a way out will be created. You will have to be forceful here. Convince yourself that you aren't afraid--and remember, you shouldn't be. This is YOUR head they're in. If you can't completely remove your fear, build up your desires to be greater than your fears. It's easier once you get moving in the right direction. First, make a way out. If you want it, it will be there. This will be the most challenging part, but remember that there's ALWAYS a way out in a dream. Once you've found that pathway out, you're in the clear. Your desires have manifested themselves, which will give you a significant boost in morale, increasing your future success rate. After this, go on the offensive. Never go back to running, or hiding, because acting defensively will weaken your resolve.
This all likely seems a bit overwhelming. It doesn't have to be. Just trust that next time you have a dream, there will be a way out. There always is. You don't even need to be lucid, though that is a significantly positive goal. Just trust that next time you have that dream, there will be a way out. A way to win.
Best wishes,
-Tsen
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