Thread: First time poster. I need help.

Eh, looked it up.

Maybe this will help a bit:

"To dream that you commit adultery or have an affair, is an expression of sexual urges or self-betrayal from your subconscious. It also indicates that you will be entangled in a situation that is not in your best interest, perhaps even illegal.

To dream that your mate, spouse, or significant other is cheating on you, indicates your fears of being abandoned. You may feel some lack of attention in the relationship. Alternatively, you may feel that you are not measuring up to the expectations of others.

To dream that you are committing adultery with your spouse's friend, denotes that you are feeling neglected by your spouse. "

Sounds like she doesn't respect you. She had a similiar dream the same night? Maybe something happened the previous day, a bump in the road for your relationship.

I would just beware of any situation that could possibly make you end up in an alduterous or dangerous situation. Perhaps your subconscious was trying to warn you that at this point in time you are particularly succeptable to those types of things, or attacks upon your morality.

Are you an easily jealous person? Even if you might trust your girlfriend, I definately agree that it could mean that you are afraid of being abandoned by her. I think, even if you only felt it in the dream, that you really do feel inferior sometimes, really you just have to think you're worth your girlfriend.

I do get very jealous often but I try not to say anything because I'm afraid my insecurity will be a turn-off. However, I had talked to her about a jealousy issue just the afternoon before the dreams that I'm sure was the reason. I just needed support from you guys and any other information I could get. Thank you.
I posted this same topic on atleast 3 other boards the same day I posted here and no other forum replied so I think I know where to turn to from now on.

Jealousy is one thing but if you feel deep inside that something is not quite right with your relationship listen or at least pay attention. A lot of times we know things but deny or live in denial because the truth hurts and we don't want the good times to end. However in the long run you will be hurt and ashamed that you let yourself be fooled or taken.
Your dream may be telling you what you already know but are afraid to except. Then again you could be working out your obsession with jealousy.

If you're just dating then "just date". If you're in a serious relationship then be open and honest about your issues, but Stay Cool! For the most part women are more open about feelings then most men and your girlfriend should be receptive about your need.

The fact that you both had dreams about the other being with someone else, to me would be a red flag of sorts. If your relationship is new then you haven't had time to bond and trust. I don't know just trying to give you some ideas to think about. Good luck.