need help with a reoccurring dream

I have had a reoccurring dream for the past several months. I would like to understand it so it could possibly go away. Any help with this will be appreciated. I have had feelings for a man I work with for the past four years. I don't have a "real" relationship with this man beyond the work place and NEVER have. I have been trying to put him out of my mind and it seems like every time I think I have succeeded, I have a dream about him. Anyway, the first dream I had, he walked up to me and got right up in my face and kissed me quickly. It was so real, I could feel his breath on my face and could still feel the kiss when I woke up. The second dream was very similar. Then there was another dream, but this time, I was sitting in a bath tub, no clothes on...it was full of water which I could feel on my skin. He walked in and then, once again, got right up in my face and kissed me quickly, mumbled something about her "never finding out" (he's married) and about that time one of his friends walked in and he left with him. I got out of the tub and saw his bible laying on the table next to the tub. It had his first name as his second name monogrammed on the bible and had the name Leonard as his first name (which it is not his name at all) and then had his last name. Under that, it had a date, 1987. That was the end of that dream. However, last weekend, I dreamed of him again and it was a rather quick dream where he got right up in my face and kissed me quickly, twice. I could still feel it when I woke up. Anyway, I am tired of dreaming about him!! I am seriously trying to put him away and when I have these dreams, it makes it very difficult. Any ideas will be appreciated. Thanks!

If dreams are the expression of our desires (conscious or unconscious), then dreaming about him makes sense, even if you're trying hard to forget about him in real life. I guess time only will make you forget about him for good.
If i may ask, did he ever show any signs of interest toward you in real life? It's also interesting how the presence of the Bible shows your guilt about the whole situation... And had he shown interest toward you, how would you have reacted?

The man represents the impression he has on you, and your feelings for him. The kiss is love, and the fact that he is the one doing it suggests that your feelings are going this way without your intention.
The bath is your attempt to emotionally cleanse yourself of your feelings for him, and his stepping in and kissing you means that it has failed.
Leonard and 1987? Who knows! His Bible next to your bath suggests religous values are part of your wish to not feel the way you do.

It's a fact of life that we cannot chose who we love. But the biggest correlation is proxemics. It's the fact that you are physically near him so much for so long, and breathing his pheromones (and with unlike immune systems) you are (insinctively) attracted to him and always will be for as long as you remain his coworker. If his marriage is strong then you might have to make the hard decision to resign, or else you will be coming onto him eventually.

I did go to him about eight months ago and told him of my feelings so that I could, in a sense, release myself from these feelings. I thought if I could tell him that I would be confronting him and then they may go away. He was very sweet and I explained to him that I never expected anything, but I was trying to rid myself of these feelings. Before I went to him, he use to talk easily to me during work and would even come up to me from time to time and hug me. I always stopped hugging him first and pretty much made it a really quick thing. He wasn't hugging me to make a move on me or anything, just being a nice guy. He's just that kind of a person. Anyway, I left and went to another office in an attempt to forget him. The day I left, he hugged me and said he hated for me to go. I stopped hugging him first and walked away fast. I was gone two years, thought about him every day and longed to see him. They brought me back to that office after the two years and he acted completely indifferent towards me or my coming back. Anyway, I thought it would eventually end, but it didn't. I opted to tell him last October to try to release it. He talked to me openly the day I told him, but never suggested anything except concern. After that, he started acting strange around me. Really happy, but really nervous. Almost like a 12 year old boy. He started picking on me and making little comments in a group setting. The first comment was one about itching. The second comment a couple of months later was< "nothing kills a libeado like a wedding cake." Anyway, that was in January. There's been no other comments since only some looks and he's not nearly as nervous now, but we have not had any conversations or any hugs. I don't want to have feelings for him because he is married and I know he would never mess around on his wife and would never leave her. He is a very important person in the community and very well respected...also a deacon in his church. Any ideas with this extended information? I continue to have the dreams....

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Nothing kills a libido like a wedding cake.[/b]

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I adore that line.

Dear, do you have a boyfriend? And how was life the two years you were away? It sounds like attraction is really mutual, and dangerous. You might have an officially legitimate reason to request transfer, albiet embarassing. As long as he loves his wife you really can't continue the situation and must leave his proximity, and get into the dating game. I'm guessing he is attracted to you and suppressing it as well which is why it's so volatile.