Thread: Losing Virginity

It appears that you, like most (or at least many) females, want your first time to be special, significant, perfect. I believe that the first dream, rather than indicating some deep-seated, undying love for your ex-fiance, rather indicates that you want to lose your virginity to someone with whom you are comfortable and that you trust. You unconsciously chose Alex because he comes the closest to fitting these criteria. Also, in the second dream your partner was a "sweet young man" who you were "very at ease with," and who took the time to make small talk with you rather than just going straight to sex. The soft, silk bed and romantic lighting seem to indicate that you want your first time to be a romantic and special experience.

Secondly, it seems that you are starting to feel a bit.... impatient, maybe? More accurately, you're beginning to feel a bit worried at the fact that you haven't lost your virginity yet. Perhaps you feel that time is running out. Maybe you are worried that you wont be able to fully please your partner. Whatever the reason, you have decided to forfeit some of the "specialness" that you have always wanted for your first time, although you still want it to be as romantic as possible. Hence the man in the second dream, who, while being very sweet and patient and gentle, was still a relative stranger. Also, the fact that you plainly said that you want to lose your virginity seems a pretty strong indication .

I dont think the part about "tools for rape" indicates a hidden fear of being raped, but rather a feeling of apprehensiveness towards sex in general. It's pretty normal to be apprehensive towards something that you've never experienced. However, I think that perhaps you're putting too much significance into the act of sex.

So in conclusion, it seems that you have been a bit anxious or apprehensive about sex your whole life. You've always wanted your first time to be perfect- with someone you care for, who you were married to, at a special time, special place, etc. However, you are now beginning to loosen up a bit about the prospect of having sex, albeit slowly. This is good. I advise that you not invest so much significance in the act of sex. I know it's easier said than done, but you need to loosen up more about sex. Sex is natural.

Edit: I noticed that you're from Oklahoma. Whereabouts in green country are you from? Normally I'm in Tahlequah attending NSU, but for the summer I'm with the 'rents in Broken Arrow/Tulsa.

My guess is that you were not expecting to be a virgin this long and a part of you is uneasy about it. Maybe it's time to reevaluate what you really want.