A Horrifying, Reoccurring Nightmare

[chzplz]

I've been having the worst possible dreams lately. Tense situations would lead up to an event, that if something happened, I would surly die. For instance, A glass object, somehow labeled as my life, would be held by a dark dressed man. I knew if this jar broke, I would die instantly. He would smile at me and drop the jar, and the instant before it hit the ground, I'd wake up, hart pounding, running out of my room, screaming "NO!" as loud as I can. For a moment, my mind seriously thinks I'm going to die any moment. I never know where I'm going, but I got to leave the room. After I realize it was a dream, and my dad comes to comfort me, I lay awake for the rest of the night. Not because I fear of dying, but because I fear that emotion. That strong, heart pounding emotion that rips me from any peaceful reality, and makes feel I only have just a few seconds to live. To be honest, I really do fear death. I fear the concept of nothingness, eternal nothingness. And sometime when I get to thinking about it, how it is inevitable, a wave of sheer fear hits me so hard, that the rest of my day is spent trying to get it out of my mind. I know I have to face death, but I don't really know how. But that's not the problem right now. I NEED these dreams to stop. I fear going to sleep at night. A day might pass, and I can't fully comprehend my feeling I had when I woke up, but I can remember me trembling, screaming, and the utter fear of sleeping that night. I've had them often, and I can't figure out why I can't remember it's just a dream when I'm having it. It scares me to know I might have this dream 100 times and each time, the fear never lessens. It's driving me crazy. What also troubles me more is if this is how I might really face death. With terror, regret, pain, agony, fear, and utterly powerless. If so, I fear that day more than anything. I'm not asking anyone how to deal with death, but how to deal with these dreams. I can't go on like this. Please help me. (I'm 17. I don't know if age has anything to do with it) ANY comments will be accepted and well appreciated. Thank you all very much.

[Leixor]

(Please note I am not an expert at all on this subject, I'm just kinda calling it like I see it, which of course could be way off) Sounds to me like you feel powerless over your life (and thus your death). This is evidenced to me by the fact that the dark dressed man holds the glass representing your life. HE HOLDS IT. Not you. Meaning its out of your control. Without going into a lot of religion and spirtuality my suggestion to you would be to either: A. Train yourself to realize its a dream (sounds like you may have tried without much luck) B. Get the glass object from him. If you triumph over this nightmare it is likely to never return. Now you seem to suggest that this is just one of many scenarios you encountered. Regardless I think the best way to handle it would be to seize control. And yes, this could have something to do with your age. 17 is a point in many peoples lives where they feel very unsure and lacking in the control department. Hope this helps.

[chzplz]

(Please note I am not an expert at all on this subject, I'm just kinda calling it like I see it, which of course could be way off) Sounds to me like you feel powerless over your life (and thus your death). This is evidenced to me by the fact that the dark dressed man holds the glass representing your life. HE HOLDS IT. Not you. Meaning its out of your control. Without going into a lot of religion and spirtuality my suggestion to you would be to either: A. Train yourself to realize its a dream (sounds like you may have tried without much luck) B. Get the glass object from him. If you triumph over this nightmare it is likely to never return. Now you seem to suggest that this is just one of many scenarios you encountered. Regardless I think the best way to handle it would be to seize control. And yes, this could have something to do with your age. 17 is a point in many peoples lives where they feel very unsure and lacking in the control department. Hope this helps. [/b] Thank you very much. That does seem to be the case. I still need practice on lucid dreaming. I hope one day when I meet this man, I can conquer him, and stop this dream If there are any others out there who could give any advice, it would be well appreciated.

[Inspirer]

My idea is Visualization Meditation, that is meditate daily imagining yourself in the dream looking upon the darkly dressed man. I guess he represents Death. The problem is that he is the one holding the glass, like Fate. You have to visualized taking the glass into your own hands, and do so repeatedly. The subconcious doesn't tell the difference between fantasy & reality so it will incorporate this. If you do this enough times you should be able to change the powerlessness you feel inside you into a position of taking control.