Thread: Gagging On Paper Or Gum?

As a psychology major whom has extensively studied Freudian dream interpretation, I highly recommend keeping this dream private.

From my own personal interpretative psychology (mostly Jungian), I would then proceed to ask you a series of questions in order to guide you to incidentally intrepret the dream. Ergo:

- How have your relationships been lately..? Have you had commitment issues..?
- Do you have difficulty accepting a certain individual and their actions..?
- What first comes to mind when imagining wet paper..?
- Did you feel a sense of panic, despair..? Or did you feel a sense of frustration and apprehension..? (Perhaps neither..?)

If these questions seem irrelevant, please say so as it helps me to help interpret the dream.

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thanks so much for responding. I haven't had this dream in about a year now but I have had them so many times in the last 10 plus years.

- How have your relationships been lately..? Have you had commitment issues..?

I always have commitment issues, I love being alone and being in a relationship makes me feel sufficated. interesting I just used that word 'eh? That is the EXACT word I use when I talk to my friends about my marriage.

- Do you have difficulty accepting a certain individual and their actions..? uh yeah, my husband but I've had these dreams way before him.

- What first comes to mind when imagining wet paper..? hard to remove, it clings to you (omg, this also sounds like my hubby lol, then again though these dreams were before him)

- Did you feel a sense of panic, despair..? Or did you feel a sense of frustration and apprehension..? (Perhaps neither..?) no panic really but major frustration

What characteristics about your husband are similar to your father or other male figures in your life..?

Is this frustration you feel in relationships mostly relevant to your emotional expression..? If no, then please elaborate..?

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What characteristics about your husband are similar to your father or other male figures in your life..?

none, I really didn't have a father figure in my life. My husband now acts alot like a Dad and I think that is mainly what annoys me.

Is this frustration you feel in relationships mostly relevant to your emotional expression..? If no, then please elaborate..? I just have never been fond of long term realtionships. I get bored really easy in relationships in the past and have always enjoyed having my freedom back when I got out of a relationship.

Originally Posted by melindak

What characteristics about your husband are similar to your father or other male figures in your life..?

none, I really didn't have a father figure in my life. My husband now acts alot like a Dad and I think that is mainly what annoys me.

Is this frustration you feel in relationships mostly relevant to your emotional expression..? If no, then please elaborate..? I just have never been fond of long term realtionships. I get bored really easy in relationships in the past and have always enjoyed having my freedom back when I got out of a relationship.
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What happened to your biological father..? Do you have any other dreams that remind you of what a father might be or was for you when younger..?

What bores you about relationships..? Do you feel that the relationship becomes boring after the romantic period..? (When you are "won"..?) Do you feel like a trophy..?

Have you been significantly hurt by a family member in your youth..?

Some questions may seem irrelevant and digressive.. they are deliberate in order to understand the meaning of the dream and you.. if you prefer to keep information private, please feel free to PM me.

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What happened to your biological father..? Do you have any other dreams that remind you of what a father might be or was for you when younger..?

my father was an alcoholic and I felt more like his mother than his daughter. I really don't have and dreams about my father.

What bores you about relationships..? Do you feel that the relationship becomes boring after the romantic period..? (When you are "won"..?) Do you feel like a trophy..?

I'm actually more like the guy in a relationship and once I "won" the guy, I was ready to move on. Bad, I know.

Have you been significantly hurt by a family member in your youth..?

My step father is a source for a lot of anger but I wouldn't say I have ever been hurt. I think you only get hurt when you let someone hurt you. I'm a very hard strong person. my step brothers sexually abused me for years and everyone sort of took a blind eye to it thinking I needed therapy to get over it when therapy was the last thing I wanted. I wanted them to be punished but instead my step dad treated his sons like they were his "buds" and I was in the way of their bonding.

Some questions may seem irrelevant and digressive.. they are deliberate in order to understand the meaning of the dream and you.. if you prefer to keep information private, please feel free to PM me.

Originally Posted by melindak

I'm actually more like the guy in a relationship and once I "won" the guy, I was ready to move on. Bad, I know.

My step father is a source for a lot of anger but I wouldn't say I have ever been hurt. I think you only get hurt when you let someone hurt you. I'm a very hard strong person. my step brothers sexually abused me for years and everyone sort of took a blind eye to it thinking I needed therapy to get over it when therapy was the last thing I wanted. I wanted them to be punished but instead my step dad treated his sons like they were his "buds" and I was in the way of their bonding.
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I find these points very intriguing - they allow me to understand you much more easily.

Do you find that it is difficult to keep the attention of your husband..? Do you find yourself wondering what a new relationship would be like..?

If you would not mind, I would really like to see your results for this test:

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp

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Here are my test results. Not quite sure what it all means though?

Your Type is
ENTJ
Extroverted Intuitive Thinking Judging
Strength of the preferences %
33 38 25 33


ENTJ type description by D.Keirsey
ENTJ type description by J. Butt



Qualitative analysis of your type formula

You are:
moderately expressed extrovert

moderately expressed intuitive personality

moderately expressed thinking personality

moderately expressed judging personality

Do you find that it is difficult to keep the attention of your husband..? I always have my husband's attention. I wish I had MUCH less of it lol.

Do you find yourself wondering what a new relationship would be like..?

uh YES!!! However I'm not someone who succums to failure so I doubt that I would ever leave him unless he did something really bad. at which case I might would feel some what relieved to have a valuable reason to leave. I would never remarry though because I don't make a good wife. I just don't open up at all emotionally. I'm very closed off to my feelings and sometimes wonder if I have any to begin with. What's weird is I can watch anything on TV happy or sad and cry like a baby but if the same thing on TV happend to me in real life, I woudn't drop a tear. My husband says he likes to see me cry when I watch tv because it shows I'm human lol. The only time I cry in real life is if I get really pissed and it's pretty hard to make me blow a fuse but when I do...it's not pretty. However at the same time, I don't let anyone walk on me and I can be quite rude if I feel like someone has disrespected me. I tell things like they are without thinking about the consequences they might cause. I can easily hurt someone's feelings but only because it's hard for me to understand what I say could be hurtful when I don't get hurt no matter what anybody says to me. I hate that about me!

My step Father is very remorseful over his lack of parenting when I was a child and he wants so badly for me to love him but the closer he tries to get to me, the more I want to push him away. I hate it when he does something nice for me and then my Mother whispers for me to give him a hug. I DO NOT like to hug him at all. In fact I'm more of a handshake person to those I'm not close to. I have a very wide circle around me and anytime someone crosses it, I start backing up. I also get closterphobic easy.

Thanks for taking so much time with me, I look forward to all of your responses.

Originally Posted by melindak

Do you find that it is difficult to keep the attention of your husband..? I always have my husband's attention. I wish I had MUCH less of it lol.

Do you find yourself wondering what a new relationship would be like..?

uh YES!!! However I'm not someone who succums to failure so I doubt that I would ever leave him unless he did something really bad. at which case I might would feel some what relieved to have a valuable reason to leave. I would never remarry though because I don't make a good wife. I just don't open up at all emotionally. I'm very closed off to my feelings and sometimes wonder if I have any to begin with. What's weird is I can watch anything on TV happy or sad and cry like a baby but if the same thing on TV happend to me in real life, I woudn't drop a tear. My husband says he likes to see me cry when I watch tv because it shows I'm human lol. The only time I cry in real life is if I get really pissed and it's pretty hard to make me blow a fuse but when I do...it's not pretty. However at the same time, I don't let anyone walk on me and I can be quite rude if I feel like someone has disrespected me. I tell things like they are without thinking about the consequences they might cause. I can easily hurt someone's feelings but only because it's hard for me to understand what I say could be hurtful when I don't get hurt no matter what anybody says to me. I hate that about me!

My step Father is very remorseful over his lack of parenting when I was a child and he wants so badly for me to love him but the closer he tries to get to me, the more I want to push him away. I hate it when he does something nice for me and then my Mother whispers for me to give him a hug. I DO NOT like to hug him at all. In fact I'm more of a handshake person to those I'm not close to. I have a very wide circle around me and anytime someone crosses it, I start backing up. I also get closterphobic easy.

Thanks for taking so much time with me, I look forward to all of your responses.
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I realize now why some of my inquisitions were a little off - your archtype is a rather rare one. In the population of north america, you are within the 1.8% of the population with the ENTJ personality (archtype being field marshall). This may mean nothing to you, and considering your archtype, you will be more inclined to ignore it unless it serves a useable function that you can use yourself. Makes sense.

I will try now to surmise some personality characterisitcs of you and please let me know what I right/wrong about, etc.:

- When it comes to affection, you would much rather it be subtle and assumed. It is better, as you said, to have a subtle handshake goodbye than a grandiose goodbye make-out session. Furthermore, you are not one to drool over presents or gifts of large proportion but instead treasure them more personally within. (This of course may make you think of it as socially awkward).

- You do enjoy debates and planning things. When it comes to defending an idea or principle that you firmly believe in, you go all in. You feel a great sense of passion and sometimes even anger when the other side does not agree to what seems to be plainly obvious or factual. This passion of yours may cause relationships to falter if you have a sensitive other as they will feel that this personality of yours is insensitive and rude whereas you are keeping emotions out of the conversation and do not see the need to include feelings into a debate (which keeps it more focused on the topic-content).

Thusly, when it comes to interpreting wet paper in your mouth for a dream, I find it a little difficult to analyze. Perhaps you also feel that, or notice that, you find yourself constantly having to restrain yourself in order to avoid discofort in social or relational events. If may think to youself, "I shoved my foot in my mouth" sort of thing.

What do you think..?

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you described me to a T and I mean right on the money too. however with this one...Perhaps you also feel that, or notice that, you find yourself constantly having to restrain yourself in order to avoid discofort in social or relational events. If may think to youself, "I shoved my foot in my mouth" sort of thing.

I'm not so certain because the thing is, I don't restrain myself. In fact I have no restraint in anything I do. If my mind thinks it, my body does it. Now this may be totally unrealted but since you are trying to figure me out so to speak (lol), one very strong part of me is that I'm gifted in the sense of creativity. I have many inventions at the patent office and they are amazing. I'm not bragging here I'm just wondering if my intense passion about "thinking outside of the box" could in any way, get you to understand me better. If there is a problem, I'm the solver! Whether it's suggesting a solution or building one. I have a very strong desire to "better" the world and often feel the weight of it on my shoulders.

Originally Posted by melindak

you described me to a T and I mean right on the money too. however with this one...Perhaps you also feel that, or notice that, you find yourself constantly having to restrain yourself in order to avoid discofort in social or relational events. If may think to youself, "I shoved my foot in my mouth" sort of thing.

I'm not so certain because the thing is, I don't restrain myself. In fact I have no restraint in anything I do. If my mind thinks it, my body does it. Now this may be totally unrealted but since you are trying to figure me out so to speak (lol), one very strong part of me is that I'm gifted in the sense of creativity. I have many inventions at the patent office and they are amazing. I'm not bragging here I'm just wondering if my intense passion about "thinking outside of the box" could in any way, get you to understand me better. If there is a problem, I'm the solver! Whether it's suggesting a solution or building one. I have a very strong desire to "better" the world and often feel the weight of it on my shoulders.
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Well then, I was thinking that perhaps the dream represented oral frustration with expressing your feelings. However, it must be something else then...

What memories do you have that remind you of wet paper...? Or, what first comes to mind when you think of wet paper..?

Your inuitive side is evident in your archtype ENTJ. You have introverted intuition which means that you prefer to keep your complex to yourself but, yes, you would like to subtly express them through means of creativity.

This leads me to ask.. are most of your inventions 'practical' or perhaps are they more enhancements and improvements upon existing inventions..?

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What memories do you have that remind you of wet paper...? Or, what first comes to mind when you think of wet paper..?

I think of wet paper as something that clings to you and yet is destroyed the more you touch it. "oohhh I may have just answered this one here"

This leads me to ask.. are most of your inventions 'practical' or perhaps are they more enhancements and improvements upon existing inventions..?

Most of my inventions are creative ways to improve something or a complete new way to make something easier or more safe etc.

Originally Posted by melindak

What memories do you have that remind you of wet paper...? Or, what first comes to mind when you think of wet paper..?

I think of wet paper as something that clings to you and yet is destroyed the more you touch it. "oohhh I may have just answered this one here"

This leads me to ask.. are most of your inventions 'practical' or perhaps are they more enhancements and improvements upon existing inventions..?

Most of my inventions are creative ways to improve something or a complete new way to make something easier or more safe etc.
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Sorry for my delayed response.

Do you feel that there is a connection or association between these two topics..? Perhaps the motivation you have to improve things, completely a new way to make something easier or more safe, is applicable to your relationships..? Does it feel like you are successful in doing so..?

The more you touch it, the more it is destroyed.. But you are touching your mouth - do you feel that you are suffering consequences for actions you are deliberately taking..?

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