recurring dream- not nightmare

[silverrose]

I've been posting about this on quite a few forums, no one has had much explanation, maybe someone here might... for approx. 1 1/2 years, been having a recurring dream...approx. 18 times I've dreamed that I'm 'happily married' to a person I've known for a few years (friend)... one dream was different, it was that we were traveling someplace on a bus and were sitting at a picnic table at a rest stop eating lunch. why would I have a dream like that, so many times, again & again, & what's the significance of them or the traveling one? all I've really been told is repetitive dreams mean you're supposed to be learning something or resolving something from them. can't figure out what it is, though. I'll add--- in the distant past I had repetitive nightmares (long over, long resolved)-- but this is different because these aren't nightmares & nothing unpleasant about them... I've also had quite a few precognitive dreams (dreaming something that later occurred in real life) but they too were nightmares, so I figure the current isn't precognitive. I've never had a precog. of anything positive. input from somebody please!!!!!!!

[quattykitty]

so ur not married? are you hoping to marry this person? tel us a bit more about your personal life and then we can help even more! i beleive that pergonitave dreams are always random so u never know maybe you jsut want something like this dream... maybe eventually you will decide to go on a picnic/bus/whatver with someone you love and then fterwards realize that you had the dream... pregoc dreams are really just random, i believe anyway so ya tell us a little about yourself and we can help you more =]

[Burned up]

Does happily married mean the same as "two become one" to you? Like you know each other so well that you feel totally comfortable with the other person? It sounds to me as you're in touch with the part of yourself that we look for in other people. Your dreammaker is showing this part of you to you in the form of a good friend. (It does NOT necessarily mean that your friend is the ideal marriage partner.) As quattykitty says, we need to know more about you to really help. Are you male or female for example? Bu

[silverrose]

so ur not married? no. are you hoping to marry this person? oh heck no- extreme lifestyle differences! tel us a bit more about your personal life and then we can help even more! not sure what to say... i beleive that pergonitave dreams are always random so u never know maybe you jsut want something like this dream... maybe eventually you will decide to go on a picnic/bus/whatver with someone you love and then fterwards realize that you had the dream... pregoc dreams are really just random, i believe anyway I don't know what you mean by random... so ya tell us a little about yourself and we can help you more =] geez...anytime I answer in a msg it says my msg is too short!

[silverrose]

Does happily married mean the same as "two become one" to you? Like you know each other so well that you feel totally comfortable with the other person? It sounds to me as you're in touch with the part of yourself that we look for in other people. Your dreammaker is showing this part of you to you in the form of a good friend. well, I've had some instances of having friends who were in some ways very much different from myself while at the same time in other ways very much the same as myself... & the result was friends with whom there was never any tension or friction, only unconditional acceptance... it's been that state with this person even more than any other person (It does NOT necessarily mean that your friend is the ideal marriage partner.) As quattykitty says, we need to know more about you to really help. Are you male or female for example? female. Bu (it's gonna say my msg is too short again!)

[Burned up]

Thanks. This person could (in dream only) be your animus. This is your internal male "travelling companion" in life and the form in which he appears is important. For you, he's a friend with whom you feel comfortable. This I would say is a good sign as it shows that you are in touch with that part of you (rational/logical etc - whatever you associate with males). According to Jung, you can mature through accepting your animus (males have an anima) as part of yourself rather that looking for him in other people. I THINK that's what the dream is motivating you to do. Loosely speaking of course!!! Bu

[silverrose]

when I first read your post, but hadn't yet replied, it seemed like your answer was right on target... maybe it is, but more things have come into the picture since... first, although I wasn't aware of it at the time so didn't make the time-frame connection, those dreams stopped abruptly when this person got back together with his ex-girlfriend. second, after I learned of this & made the time-frame connection (between them getting back together & the dreams stopping), I had a dream that for some reason that I'm not sure of was so distressing that I've been afraid to go to sleep since..... the dream wasn't pleasant, but wasn't awful or anything, so I don't know why it's bothering me so much- in it, he & the woman were in a nursing home, I wasn't sure if they lived there or were just hanging around (they're not old), & I was trying to make him see that he didn't belong there... that odd little dream upset me to the extent that I've been afraid to sleep & it's even causing a "knot in my stomach" during the day, although I don't know why... all I do know on the subject is I've been told if you have recurring dreams it's because you're supposed to be learning or resolving something... I'm clueless as to what that 'something' is... I need sleep... can someone pop in with some feedback on this stuff? thanks...

[Burned up]

Sounds hard for you and that the dream brings about feelings of hurt and lonliness. You are being shown a scene of a happy couple but you are trying to break them up so you can have "him" yourself? If so, the feeling *could* have childhood roots and relating to jealousy about parents. But that may or may not fit your circumstances. Finding a "missing part of ourselves" seems to be something very human and we look for that part in other people, usually of the opposite sex. Consequently we feel "whole again". Your "missing part" seems tantalising hard to reach. I'm not sure I know the solution but what comes to mind is to find some way of relating to "him" lovingly rather than appealing to "him" rationally. Note I use "him" as I refer to your internal "him" not to the man in real life. Your first dream showed you what you are actually looking for. I wonder if your relationships with men in real life often feel like this. i.e. never quite able to feel at one with them? The usual health warnings apply - i.e. these are just ideas and you will need to decide yourself if they work for you. Bu

[silverrose]

Sounds hard for you and that the dream brings about feelings of hurt and lonliness. You are being shown a scene of a happy couple but you are trying to break them up so you can have "him" yourself? If so, the feeling *could* have childhood roots and relating to jealousy about parents. But that may or may not fit your circumstances. oh no, it doesn't at all... first, when I said he/they didn't belong there, I wasn't referring to whether or not they belong together, I meant they don't belong in a nursing home, which was the setting- they're both relatively young & healthy people... I guess I focused the 'trying to convince him of this' in the dream because IRL I've always been able to communicate quite well with him, but not with her... second, well, actually they're by no means a 'happy couple'... third, the feelings all of the dreams have brought out is mostly Confusion...and this last one also some degree of Fear, because they're in a rather dangerous situation 'IRL'... Finding a "missing part of ourselves" seems to be something very human and we look for that part in other people, usually of the opposite sex. Consequently we feel "whole again". Your "missing part" seems tantalising hard to reach. I'm not sure I know the solution but what comes to mind is to find some way of relating to "him" lovingly rather than appealing to "him" rationally. Note I use "him" as I refer to your internal "him" not to the man in real life. Your first dream showed you what you are actually looking for. I wonder if your relationships with men in real life often feel like this. i.e. never quite able to feel at one with them? -that 'at one' sense: it's been that way with this person, as well as others The usual health warnings apply - i.e. these are just ideas and you will need to decide yourself if they work for you. Bu bottom line is since the last dream I've been afraid to sleep because I'm afraid I'll have one about something bad happening to either or both of them

[Burned up]

OK, I misunderstood. I'm thinking now more about you worrying about having a bad dream. I'm not into dream control so can't advise on that, and therefore I have to say that as far as dreams are concerned, what will be will be. Dreams are not real, so have you wondered what it is you're really afraid of? What emotion will you have if you do have this dream? Bu

[silverrose]

well, I'm hesitant about putting other ppl's personal business on the 'www,' but the reason I'm afraid is that I occasionally have precognitive dreams, always about something bad happening to a person, & they end up happening... the last person I had one about ended up dead, & the 2 ppl in my distressing recent dream are in a dangerous situation in their everyday life. so, I'm seriously afraid I might have a precog dream about something happening to either or both of them, and it does happen, but I can't do anything about it.

[Burned up]

I have no first hand experience of precog but from what you write I guess I shouldn't be surprised you're worried. On the one hand, as you say, there's nothing you can do about it. On the other hand these are real people with whom you have real relationships. I don't know if there are any precog experts here but I would suggest you find someone who understands about the subject to discuss this with. Bu

[silverrose]

I don't know either...