Unable to cross a bridge

Hey Everyone!!

I have posted this on other dream interpretation forums and have gotten
some excellent feedback, so I thought I'd see what everybody here may
have to say.

A friend of mine has been having a dream that she cannot seem to wrap
herself around and figure out, so I thought I would ask here to see what
other people's interpretations of the dream may be.

In her dream she is standing at a bridge, on the bridge is a man she has been
in a relationship with for a couple of years now (and with whom she continues
to go back and forth in her mind as to whether she should move forward with
or go a different direction) and he is urging her to join him
on the bridge. But, she cannot as she is afraid the bridge is going to collapse
if she walks out on to it. No matter what she does, she cannot get herself
to walk out onto the bridge and before the dream ends (and after she wakes
up) she becomes extremely frustrated with herself for this.

She describes the bridge to me as being very sturdy and in great repair. She
gave me an example of the bridge that it looks almost 'exactly like' and this
particular bridge is indeed sturdy. I have not asked what the bridge spans but
if it's the same as the example, then it goes over a small creek.

I told her that I think the dream represents her 'self' telling her that the
only thing keeping her from the opportunities that lie on that bridge (the
relationship) is some fear within herself. Considering that she is afraid the
bridge is going to collapse, she fears that something about her will cause
the relationship to collapse but that is unfound as the bridge is clearly
sturdy and safe. I also told her that sometimes dreams can signify crossing
over something into something more positive and the only thing keeping her
from that positive change is that very fear, so, get over the fear and it will
be a good thing.

Anyhow, I was hoping to get some other perspectives on this as it seems
like a rather importantly symbollic dream.

Thanks Much,

M

Hi well I would pretty much agree with your analysis. I astudy dream asymbols and this is my page on bridges

http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessaybridge.php

In this case the bridge could repreent a crucial moment or transition int he relationship. Yes fears about change would be an accurate description. Perhaps worries abouit taking the relationship to a new and more serious level

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I would say the same. Bridges in dreams typically mean a transition or critical decision within your waking life. With her partner that she has been in a relationship for awhile being in the dream leads me to think that’s what the transition/critical decision is about . As unclesirbob said, it represents her fears of the relationship, maybe going to the next level or what comes nexts. And symbolically whether or not to cross the bridges i.e to move on with the relation ship to that potentially new level. Again, her fears are shown as she is afraid the bridge is going to collapse. So I would say it represents that her fears lie in, if she moves forward onto this relationship will it fall apart. With the frustration both in the dream and awake I would say means she is even frustrated with herself by not making her mind up fast enough. Kinda of to get it over with already I suppose. [/FONT

Though as you said, the bridge is sturdy and in good repair so I would think the dream is showing her, her fears to ‘cross the bridge’ and to continue the relationship. But with the good condition of the bridge I would say means that , that is right thing to do ( to continue to the new level of the relationship) because her life won’t fall apart or whatever she fears will suffer do to moving on with the relationship as the ‘bridge won’t collapse.’

Your analysis seems like an accurate idea. As I was reading this, I was thinking along the same lines.

Your friend is already going back and forth in her head, and her head is simulating this. She probablly wants to go forward (example of her being frustrated in the end), but has some underlying fear or instinct even though the situation at hand seems to be in a decent condition.

So.. theres your analysis!

Thanks everybody so much for the replies.

I've relayed some of the info and hopefully it helps her out
quite a bit.

Thanks again!!