I'm new and have had a dream that needs explanation

Hi there everyone,

I'm new here and have always been interested in dreams so I came here to have an explore. You can't beat first hand experience from people dreaming!

I have made this post as I had a dream last night that I can't stop thinking about at work today. I will explain my dream first then what's happening in real life.

What I can first remember is walking around a castle and knowing that someone is after me. I'm not sure who it is at first. Then I have the urge to go looking for armour to protect myself from this person looking for me. I look in doors and cupboards in the castle and find a red cloak, which I put on. Once I have put this on, I see who is looking for me and it is an ex-friend that is also looking for armour. I notice that he has more armour than me, so a sense of dread falls over me to find more. He doesn't spot me as I notice him but I still hide and keep watch. I keep finding small bits of armour and then he finds me and captures me. The weird thing is that it then seems like a role playing game and that I'm not actually going to get hurt. He offers me a sword to protect myself, but I insist in not using it as I could actually harm him since its only pretend. He then simply walks of and is no threat anymore. I feel some relief but now a new sence of doom overwhelms me. Crowds appear in the castle, but the castle kind of merges into a shopping centre. I'm dragged along with the crowds and everyone is frantic buying items in the sales. There is nothing left for me, but it doesn't bother me so much. In the panic I have a feeling of finding my boyfriend in the crowd. I'm looking everywhere but then a friend that I have emotional feelings with in real life appears and I feel much better. The problem is he is flirting with other younger girls and it makes me feel down and jealous. I then manage to find my boyfriend and as I'm walking with him I spot my friend again with the girls. I have this strong urge to reach out to him, even though I'm with my boyfriend but I loose grip and my boyfriend takes me the other way. I feel down and hate letting go, but go with my boyfriend never the less. I then get separated from my boyfriend again, but notice him in the distance and I can tell he has guessed I have feeling for this friend. The thing is he is good friends with this guy aswell. I feel guilty but got towards my boyfriend. The next minute I'm having an orgy with my boyfriend and some random women! I'm not really enjoying it, but finish doing it and my boyfriend forgives me for having feelings for our friend. My boyfriend then climbs a hill, but I can't get to the top and keep sliding down. I'm feeling annoyed at this. Then I wake upi at this point.

Now in real life me and my boyfriend split up briefly and I told my friend I have feelings for him. He felt the same but we spoke and said nothing could come of it because he is friends with my boyfriend and it would wreak his friendship. We are still friends, and I decided to give it one last go with my boyfriend.

Thats as far as it is, and was just wondering what people thought of this. I feel plagued in the day and in my sleep.

Any ideas??

I think that while peoples explanation may be correct, or seem correct, you are the best person to try to understand. You are the only one to know exactly how you felt, and to me it seems like you will probably already know what people will say.

I don't think the general "dream interpretations" are correct for everyone. Everyone is different, and something that happens in my dream may not mean the same in yours. I've had dreams where I know exactly what it meant, I mean I'm the one who had the dream and I know how I felt during and after it right? But a dream interpretation book says something completely opposite or totally irrelevant.

I don't think every singe thing in a dream has to mean anything, or have any explanation. Our brains need to keep us busy and can come up with lots of random things. Like I said, I think you already know whatever significance this dream has, as you said you feel plagued by it. You liked your friend but your boyfriend is also his friend, so you didn't because it would wreck their friendship. That seemed to be displayed through wanting to reach out to him, but your boyfriend not letting you.

The orgy part is probably irrelevant, all animals have sexual urges, but again, I think only you would know what to think about that. If you can't make any sense of it, it was probably just random.

The best way of trying to get an explanation about a dream, is to think about how the certain part made you feel. I don't think theres any sort of hidden meaning or anything in dreams.

Yeh, I do believe that my dream is a reflection of how I feel in real life. I think I'm in denile of my feeling towards my friend because I know nothing can happen but it doesn't stop me having strong feelings. I've know him for years and he feels the same. Life's just not fair with how it plays with your mind and emotions. I'll have to see how me and my boyfriend do and keep my mind totally off my friend. It's for the best.

It sounds to me like you are on the right track. I am struck by the parts about losing your boyfriend in a crowd, getting separated from him, chasing him up a hill, ect. It seems to me that you don't want to pursue your other friend because you are afraid to lose your boyfriend.

The orgy you did not enjoy makes me think of sex without love, or a relationship without love. Like maybe you are just going through the motions with your boyfriend, but are not as engaged as you should be.

Obviously this is just my opinion, so please don't believe me.

If you want unsolicited relationship advise, I would suggest you follow your feelings and be honest with yourself about your feelings for your friend. Relationships end and begin all the time. You can't hold on to someone just because you are afraid of losing them. You should hold onto them because you love them and you want to stay with them.