Thread: Old friends + Sexual content? :s

"Bow chicka wow wow"

I'm not one to believe that dreams really mean anything.
People having things happen to them because of something in a dream seems to me like they WANTED whatever it was to come (thats what she said) true, so it actually happened wouldn't be a very honest result.

What I'm mainly trying to say, is that dreams act as a variable in human behavior as soon as they assume they mean something.

Either that or someone is gettin' lucky.
Oh right. Giggidy giggidy go.

AHhahaXD! If only!
I completely understand what you're saying. I don't know if I think there is some deep subconcious meaning going on, but I just wanted to hear some opinions on it... I mean...I have random theories but I wanted to hear more from the people who have been interpreting for longer.

For all I know, you're right on top of things. (;D I know what I said.)

I am not a proponent of the claim that dreams are meaningless. They are nonsensical, yes, but there is always a reason.

Is that reason always significant? No. Is it always relevant? Nah. Should you take a dream at face value? Certainly not.

Dreams are just your subconscious reflecting on things that occur in waking life. They are seldom concrete, and this is why sexual dreams are my favorite for conveying this point: dreams are almost always symbollic.

Does this mean you want to have sex with your old friend? I dunno, thats something only you can determine... but the dream definitely doesn't determine it. Sex is probably a symbol of something in your relationship with this guy.

From the information you've given, it is hard for me to make too many interpretations of this information. Often dreams concern very personal issues, and this is why people are their own best interpreters. You are in a position thats greater than anyone else's; you know thoughts and desires you'd never tell anyone, and you know every single detail... not just the ones that make the most sense.

If you think of your dream symbollically, and try to piece it together on your own, I'm sure you'll gain more insight. Unless you do have a desire for this person, I wouldn't take the sexual acts too much to heart. Sex is just a medium of the idea, and besides a connection between you and this person there's no concrete way to interpret it.

As for having sexual dreams, perhaps whatever relationship you have with these people has some sort of common denominator? Do your bestfriend's boyfriend and this old friend mean anything in common to you?

Hope this helps.

Thank you for the insight. I realize that these dreams aren't actually borne of real sexual attraction, but my own mind mystifies me sometimes with the way it carries themes.

Either way, I had an incident yesterday that made me believe I would not be ready to see my friend again face to face or even by phone or internet. I was at work and someone who looked like him at first, second and third glance walked right past me into an aisle. I was frozen, and I nearly panicked for a minute or two. I was the only cashier on so it was inevitable he would have to come to me.

I kept thinking about what to say and how to act-- but when he finally got to the till...It wasn't him. Fancy that. :S The panic told me that it's probably a good thing we didn't get into contact again.

for some reason I think we "did it" in a forest...

That reminds me of 1984 (the movie version from the 80's, I don't know if that scene is in the book).

In my experience, sexual dreams come from a thought of the same nature right before falling asleep (it doesn't have to be an important seeming thought, just one you might be reminded of later) as are other types of dreams. After that, your brain takes that concept and personifies it (sometimes into someone you thought about around the same time). The scenario in your subsequent dream doesn't need to be realistic or anything you would even think about in your waking life, it just needs to make sense within the context of the dream.

Originally Posted by Dodopod

That reminds me of 1984 (the movie version from the 80's, I don't know if that scene is in the book).

In my experience, sexual dreams come from a thought of the same nature right before falling asleep (it doesn't have to be an important seeming thought, just one you might be reminded of later) as are other types of dreams. After that, your brain takes that concept and personifies it (sometimes into someone you thought about around the same time). The scenario in your subsequent dream doesn't need to be realistic or anything you would even think about in your waking life, it just needs to make sense within the context of the dream.

Thats generally called Dream incubation, whether or not it is intentional.

According to my dream dictionary, sex in a dream doesn't actually mean you want to sleep with the person involved, but rather indicates how you communicate with people. Not necessarily the person involved in the dream, but what they stand for.

Say that you've got a really nerdy "friend" that you only hang out with for the sake of your other friends. You don't like this person much, but they might pop up in your dream with a rather deviant or rough sexual encounter to show the abrasive way that you treat that person.

So...maybe if I forgot that we had done it in my dream...it means that I've forgotten him recently. Which is true because I never even thought of him for all that time until he popped up in my dream? I'm not sure...

Could be. Anyway, sometimes dreams are just weird and don't seem to make much sense no matter how hard you try. Sometimes the only reason that they don't make sense is because of one tiny little detail that you missed that links it all together.

In these cases, I usually just let the dream go and don't worry about it again. Unless of course it was a little bit too strange, realistic, or I think it may have some special significance.