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      Kissed a platonic friend in my dream

      Hopefully I am not to the point of serial posting just yet. If I am, please someone hit me with a clue-by four.

      I had this dream two nights ago, for reasons I can't quite explain. In my dream, I saw myself and an old friend. I will refer to my friend as "Danny".

      The dream began with me standing at the end of the driveway in front of my mom's house (where I waited for the bus all through high school). Danny happened to live a long ways down the road from me and he'd often pass me on his way to school. He'd also often pick me up, and in my dream, he stopped and picked me up. The car he was driving was the exact same car he had in high school. We had a conversation of sorts on the way to wherever we were going (we never actually arrived) and I, for some reason, was in the back seat.

      The dream transitioned from daylight to evening, and we ended up in some sort of house - I have no idea who it belonged to. The room - which looked like the living room in my old dorm - was dimly lit by a single light source. And then Danny kissed me. From there, we proceeded to make out.

      I have no idea why I had this dream. I have not even spoken to Danny in about two years, I have not thought about him at all since then, and I never had anything resembling a crush on him. Soooo, why would I have a dream involving being romantic with him? I read some of the meanings of dreams on a site a member here provided, and one of the sources said something to the tune of, "Kissing a friend in a dream indicates a deep respect or closeness to that friend" -- even this isn't entirely true. Danny and I were friends, but we weren't best friends. Heck, I never even found Danny to be particularly attractive - he's a decent-looking guy, but he is not my kind of handsome.

      I'm not losing sleep over this or anything, and I realize not all dreams have significant meaning. This dream just kind of confused me.

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      Did you come in to contact with anything that could be associated with him recently? A name, place, things, song, etc?

      Sometimes your subconscious will pick something like that up without you knowing and mix it in with a meaning that's trying to get out.
      Are you attracted to a friend, not him, but anyone now? Maybe someone that has a similar car or personality as Danny?

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      I can't really recall anything that might have reminded me of him - I haven't heard the name "Danny" recently, I haven't seen any cars that resembled his, and I haven't seen anyone who looked even a slight bit like Danny. I was back in my hometown recently (which is also his hometown), but if that is what conjured up a memory of Danny, then why Danny? There are tons of people in my hometown who I could have remembered.

      And I am not attracted to any of my friends right now, nor have I come across anyone whose personality was similar to Danny's.

      I will say this much...having that dream, although thoroughly creeping me out, did make me think, "Hmm, I wonder how Danny is doing these days?" - and I found out he moved back to our hometown and started his own art business. I don't know if that is relevant or not....

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      I can't really recall anything that might have reminded me of him - I haven't heard the name "Danny" recently, I haven't seen any cars that resembled his, and I haven't seen anyone who looked even a slight bit like Danny. I was back in my hometown recently (which is also his hometown), but if that is what conjured up a memory of Danny, then why Danny? There are tons of people in my hometown who I could have remembered.

      And I am not attracted to any of my friends right now, nor have I come across anyone whose personality was similar to Danny's.

      I will say this much...having that dream, although thoroughly creeping me out, did make me think, "Hmm, I wonder how Danny is doing these days?" - and I found out he moved back to our hometown and started his own art business. I don't know if that is relevant or not.
      well maybe its as simple as that. Maybe you just kinda forget about your old friend and now you are wondering how he is doing. Maybe you haven't had any romance lately and you just kinda missed that feeling....

      Maybe its the lack of attraction to anyone that caused this.

      Sometimes you can have subconscious thoughts of romance from not having enough.

      I dunno how a women's mind works and how much different they are emotionally than guys. Although I seem to believe woman care a lot more about romance than they do sex.

      heck I know as much about what woman want as bush does about what the american people want. *corny politcal joke for the day*

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      I don't think it's a lack of romance or otherwise attention on my part - I do have a boyfriend whom I saw about a week ago (we don't exactly get to see one another regularly because I attend college so far away). I miss my BF very much, but then why wouldn't I dream of him if I was yearning for romance?

      Maybe it isn't the lack of romance at the moment, but the impending thought that I won't be able to see my BF for another two months. But even then, why in the world did someone who is strictly a friend show up in my dream in such a romantic way? It's really peculiar.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Orphic View Post
      I don't think it's a lack of romance or otherwise attention on my part - I do have a boyfriend whom I saw about a week ago (we don't exactly get to see one another regularly because I attend college so far away). I miss my BF very much, but then why wouldn't I dream of him if I was yearning for romance?

      Maybe it isn't the lack of romance at the moment, but the impending thought that I won't be able to see my BF for another two months. But even then, why in the world did someone who is strictly a friend show up in my dream in such a romantic way? It's really peculiar.
      maybe its just that. You were replacing tis friend with your boyfriend because this friend meant nothing to you romanitically but your boyfriend did. Now that your boyfriend is going to be gone....your yearning that connection you have with your boyfriend and you know your going to miss it.


      Sometimes dreaming aren't all that direct and they substitue. Like you said you had no attraction to this guy but you obviouslly are attracted to your boyfriend. Maybe "Danny" is the polar opposite "friendwise" as your BF

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      It sounds to me like it may be a homesick thing. Maybe you were just reminiscing about your old life that Danny was a part of. Danny could just be your old life and hometown personified.

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      Robot_Butler, your explanation sounds like it might be onto something. I might be seeing a connection, in some peculiar way.

      Last semester, I was in a Flash web design class. And, like the last Flash class I was in, I got frustrated, wanted to throw my computer out the window, had some choice words for my computer when it didn't do what it should (because Flash is tempermental like that). And yet, as much as that software annoyed me, those feelings of annoyance made me nostalgic.

      I also had a Flash class in high school (which was the last Flash clas I had before the one I had last semester), and I was in that class with Danny. He and I were sort of the leaders for the class project - he did all the complicated scripting and I did the character designs and some of the animation. I wasn't exactly nostalgic for Danny, but hanging out with him was definitely one of the fun memories from that class. If this dream had anything to do with those feelings of nostalgia, I have to now wonder why I didn't have this dream last semester when these yearning feelings were strongest, rather than this semester, when they were nonexistant.

      But thank you all for your advice and suggestions - I appreciate everyone's input very much, and I think I am beginning to make sense of this dream (kind of).

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      Quote Originally Posted by Orphic View Post
      Robot_Butler, your explanation sounds like it might be onto something. I might be seeing a connection, in some peculiar way.

      Last semester, I was in a Flash web design class. And, like the last Flash class I was in, I got frustrated, wanted to throw my computer out the window, had some choice words for my computer when it didn't do what it should (because Flash is tempermental like that). And yet, as much as that software annoyed me, those feelings of annoyance made me nostalgic.

      I also had a Flash class in high school (which was the last Flash clas I had before the one I had last semester), and I was in that class with Danny. He and I were sort of the leaders for the class project - he did all the complicated scripting and I did the character designs and some of the animation. I wasn't exactly nostalgic for Danny, but hanging out with him was definitely one of the fun memories from that class. If this dream had anything to do with those feelings of nostalgia, I have to now wonder why I didn't have this dream last semester when these yearning feelings were strongest, rather than this semester, when they were nonexistant.

      But thank you all for your advice and suggestions - I appreciate everyone's input very much, and I think I am beginning to make sense of this dream (kind of).
      i think its obvious....your yearning feelings are simply manifesting themselves in a less direct manner. Before your yearning was a direct feeling in your waking life....now it has become more in depth and more ingrained subconciously. I personnally think that when it manifests subconciously rather than directly than it is more intense and stronger.




      wow not gonna lie this is pretty funny. I feel like a psychatrist.

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