Thanks for sharing your insight. It's really helpful to get someone else's view on this, I think some of what you said is pretty accurate.
Incidentally 491 is just the last three digits of my zip code (but in a different order).
I bear a pretty close resemblence to the first guy, but am not a carbon-copy. (I have a reasonably nice form too but am no body-builder either.)However, I have blue eyes and light brown hair. Odd, I don't even know anyone at the moment who fits the description of the first guy. Also, I haven't always been in good shape. There were times when swimming naked in front of a crowd of people would have been even scarier than now.
Now that I think about it, it seems as though the second guy had recently done something similar (but not that exact thing). I remember feeling now as though the first guy had been relying alot on the second guy. In this part of the dream I do suspect that the first guy is actually me and I've detached myself from the situation in order to view it objectively. Now, the second guy is asking the first guy to do this as a token of appreciation or something.
One other thing I didn't describe real clearly before is that the pool isn't exactly an olympic pool. It's more like some of those places you find at seaworld or something where there is an observation room underwater as well as up above. I remember that this guy who was a bully was down below watching through the glass.
I guess you could say that my mom was kind and at times my dad was a bully, but that would certainly be an overgeneralization. I don't think that accurately describes my relationship with my parents as a whole.
My psychiatrist hasn't been trying to get me to join a group or anything. In fact, he doesn't do much in the way of counseling himself. He's primarily concerned with medication, but refers people to counselors with whom he works, but I don't like any of them. I've found myself wishing that he would do more counseling because he does take a little more time with me than some psychiatrists would, and when he does I feel like I relate to him well. It would be ideal for me to have one person like this who could help me with both the medical and psychological issues. I'm not blaming him of course. He's got alot of patients. If he had more time he'd probably be willing to talk to me more.
Originally Posted by IrisRavenstar
Hi whitelighter,
491 totals to 14, which in the Major Arcana in Tarot is symbolic of Temperance or Moderation, so that's a good number! Not part of your dream, but part of your personal symbolism.
You know, I should warn you, that doing dreamwork with interpretation is a lot like swimming naked in front of a crowd, or at least the parts of the crowd who know something about what dreams mean. I have noticed this for years, and seem to keep doing it anyway. Why? Because I grow from it. No other reason needed, really, except that I also see it as a sort of karmic debt, something I owe to the Universe as part of making things right as much as I can, so I wonder if that is part of your dream too.
Does the physical description of the first guy, the one you identify with, match yours? Could it be that you are watching yourself? We often do that in dreams, and when we do, it generally seems to refer to trying to get an objective/rational view of yourself, rather than the subjective/emotional view you might get when you're inside the character. You're standing back, not right in the action, so you can stay more detached emotionally, instead of getting all caught up.
The second guy morphing into someone almost feminine means that the second guy is reacting emotionally to the situation, not being detached or objective about it. He seems to have an investment in this idea of you swimming naked that the dream doesn't fully make clear... perhaps it's just that he wants to see you open up to your own inner feminine/emotional side as well, to your right brain functions, which men often have a problem with.
The bully is a problem, I would imagine, but seems perhaps to be there to test courage, to be someone you need to ignore as you develop your own inner resources, even if it means making yourself vulnerable. Or maybe not ignore; maybe stand up to. Or each in it's proper season.
Nakedness is vulnerability. We are naked in a lot of ways, not just physically, but the dream uses it physically as a way to show it visually. But think about what nakedness and vulnerability in the face of bullies means to you. Think about what nakedness and vulnerability in the presence of a close brotherly friend means to you. There is a difference, but does it matter? If one can be open with the friend, be one's true self with the friend, then why not also be your true self with the bully, and hope it will change him into a better person?
I am wondering here if your psychiatrist does talk therapy with you, individually, or if he's wanting you to go to group therapy, and how you'd feel about group therapy. Are you perhaps resistant to group therapy, because it makes you feel naked and vulnerable, because someone there might be a bully?
I went through a clinical depression and saw a psychoanalytically-oriented psychiatrist from 1976-85, and I loved the individual therapy, loved the talking, did not like group therapy at all (I think doing dreamwork on the internet is maybe making up for that). I also did not like the drugs at all, and flushed them all down the toilet in 1985-6, and made a decision to find alternative ways to manage my moods. I use a lot of herbs and aromatherapy and Reiki instead, and it's working pretty well for me most of the time, though I have a problem in the winter with Seasonal Affective Disorder, so I use a light box during the winter. So I think I have an understanding of where you're coming from.
I feel your dream is about therapy though, and opening up, and how sometimes it's like a friend, and maybe this is the psychiatrist himself who is the friend, or maybe you're afraid he will bully you if you tell him certain things, things you maybe don't like about yourself; you fear perhaps that he will change towards you if you're too open, too exposed, too naked.
Another way to look at it too, is that all three characters are part of yourself, and the dream is a picture of inner conflicts. The psychiatrist's role, in a way, is to reflect back those inner conflicts and make you see those inner parts of you. So it is likely he could take both of those roles in relationship to you. I don't know if he told you about "transference" which is about the way the psychiatrist stays personally unknowable, so you kind of paste your feelings about other older relationships onto them. Usually, you transfer feelings about parents especially. In that light, was one of your parents kind and a friend, and the other a bully? I'm not saying they were, just to think about that as a possiblity for these characters.
Anyway, I'll stop here and let you think about this and if you want to talk more, I'll be back!
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