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Dreams like this are so powerful.
But what to do? Here's my take, based on personal experience, a little dose of Jungian theory, and how I've worked with others.
First, real though she seems, she is NOT out there. "She" is IN THERE. Any attempt to project her onto a real life girl will always lead to disappointment as nobody will ever match the girl of your dreams.
Well, that's the bad news. But now for the good news. "She" is part of you and is therefore there all of the time, if only you could find "her". She will undoubtedly appear in dreams again - maybe tomorrow, maybe months away, but likely you'll find her again. She'll probably look different. She might even take the form of someone you know. But the feeling will be the same. With each dream you will learn more about her.
She is also there in real life! OK, you can't touch her or see her in the street. But there will be moments, perhaps when you're alone or experiencing something emotionally moving (like in a movie or a beautiful place) when you'll sense "her". At these moments, don't push her away by closing off your emotions, which could be very strong. Stay with the feeling and (and this sounds weird) talk with her. Ask her to show you things, to guide you, to be with you. Tell her she's important to you. Tell her what she needs to hear - if she's a lonely child say you want to play with her. If she's suffering tell her you want to comfort her. You'll probably end up in tears but, hey, that's the price of love.
Why do all of this? Because you want to meet the girl from your dreams. That's why. She has been created by you in what I believe to be a childhood "splitting" at the time when we take our male or female identity in society (but there are many other theories). She's been suppressed for a long time, but not destroyed. By loving "her" we learn to love ourselves and become fuller people, able to form healthy relationships with people for who they really are not who we want them to be.
Mahdi's post I would concur with. Our dream girl appears when we need her to - which is when real life relationships aren't providing us with what we desire. From experience, "She" will change with time, always being the elusive part of our desire for the opposite sex. A man's feminine side, if you like.
All this applies to women dreaming of men too, although from what I've read here (mainly) the types of dream are a little different, more frequently involving dreams of RL people such as ex boyfriends, colleagues, celebrities or even members of the family.
Your dream is in the same space, I would say. With one important difference - your dream was about someone you see frequently and have now developed a crush on.
