I agree that suffering is never to be knowingly created for either yourself or others because there's plenty of it to be had and seen in the world.
I also agree from personal experience that it can be incredibly transformative.
It isn't always transformative though. I was a very angsty teen from about third grade. That sort of suffering is useless. It's poor me sort of bullshit. At least it was for me. The attitude that leads to it is
counter-productive to learning from suffering. That's why it goes on for so long
I think that the key to turning suffering into a transformative experience is to turn it into an opportunity. There's a duality between the statements "all things happen for a reason" and "every problem is an opportunity". I of course favor the latter because it leads one to action in finding the opportunity. Teen angst is just sort of wallowing in the problems.
I had my rib broken by a cop a few weeks ago. It was the best experience of my life. Everything hurt. Breathing wrong hurt, moving wrong, walking wrong, laughing, coughing, sneezing, getting up, sitting down, you name it.
But I had started meditating a few days earlier and paying attention to mindfulness. It helped me realize how slovenly my motions and posture were. It made me pay attention to my breathing.
Further, I thought that he was going to kill me. That experience made me realize how much of a role fear played in my life. I began to be aware of the sensation of fear in a mindful way. I very much became aware of my death.
The dirty fucker changed my life. In a good way too. Blessings upon him.
But that's because I'd already put a lot of time into thinking and finding opportunities. I had developed a lot of "karma" in that regard. So I was ready for it and it happened. It could have been anything. It's not like it was "meant to be" or any other metaphysical masturbation. I just took it as an oppurtunity to find out about myself. If I had taken previous opportunities, I never would have been in that situation to begin with.
Now when I sit with my begging bowl (my preferred way of getting my morning coffee) I notice the greed that I feel towards people when they walk by and the suffering that it creates in myself. I think that that's a much better way for me (at this point in time) to find out about myself than getting beaten by cops. Sitting and knowing that I'm sitting is very good as well. I think that looking within oneself is a safer and more effective way to approach suffering than to glorify it, seek it out, or in other ways build it up. That doesn't do any good until you look within yourslef anyways so why not just jump right to that.
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