3- They have done something wrong and when they came to apologise, you refused to listen.
They are not weak; you are merciless.
This is unacceptable. Apologizing does NOT mean they are worthy of forgiveness. It is ALWAYS up to the forgiver to forgive. This is a ESPECIALLY IMPORTANT POINT when it comes to assault, rape, and sexual harassment. In many cases, apologizing IS CONTINUING THE HARASSMENT. These absolute judgements of apology and forgiveness too easily becomes victim blaming. "He apologized for raping you, so why are you still nervous when he's around?"
7- You are the boss and all of them around you obey you without objections.
They do not respect you; you are a tyrant.
Or, they actually respect you, and don't have anything wrong with you. This does in fact happen amongst humans. It is possible.
11- They shared with you a religious story to convince you of something, but you didn't listen.
They are not “too religious”; you are devilish.
It is NOT up to the listener to be obligated to believe in a religious story. Many religious experiences are wholly unique to each person and it is completely inappropriate to expect total strangers to believe what you believe without the experiences you have had.
14- People often backbite you, hate you, despise you, wish you everything bad, count your mistakes, try to harm you, lie to you, misquote you, cool your friends, warm your enemies, dig a hole in your way for you to fall in, they are furious at your success and often they laugh at your failure.
You are worried about it, you think you are right and they are wrong.
Or some people have been sexually assaulted, raped, harassed, and have to deal with systematic racism and oppression in their lives.
I'm sorry, this post pisses me off so much. It practically ignores on systematic social issues like victim-blaming, systematic racism, sexism, harassment, etc. It paints a huge rulebrush and absolutism when reality is a lot grey than black/white. Interpersonal interaction is incredibly complex and it is based on so many societal norms, cultures, personal beliefs and experiences. Simplifying it to this degree can be incredibly harmful to people.
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