Originally Posted by
purple
hahaha, good point leo.
reminds me of a story i once heard.
a loooong time ago when mankind was still living in caves, everyone slept by himself under the stars, and no one's farts bothered anyone. then they invented the concept of marriage which required that men and women sleep side by side in enclosed huts, and suddenly nocturnal farting became an issue. for the smell, having no where to go, festered in the room, wreaking havoc on the other spouse (after all, a fart tends only to bother the unguilty party). and plus the sound was more amplified. but being so determined not to revert back to the days of greater freedom (this was probably about the same time that the disease of greed began to show up, and women were starting to recieve the 1st shackles of their oppression), they decided rather to invent a filter of sorts. after much trial and error, they finally found something that worked, but was soft enough not chafe the couple's naked arses. it would contain the smell, and even help subdue the sound. they called it.....a blanket.
but i agree with one thing above.
society does have a pretty bummed out view of marriage. and why not. it seems to have a bum rep, historically speaking. and what with the nagging bitch/wife beating bastard ideal, it further makes the idea of ''marriage'', a rather bleak situation.
even the men fear losing all freedom, and for some reason it seems that the woman, upon marrying a long time love, has suddenly become less appealing. when they were dating he was like, "hey, guys, meet my girlfriend. aint she a hottie? wow, what a sex goddess, she is sooo sexy, i love her to death." after they get married, or at least after she gets pregnant, he more like '' oh, her? yeah, she's just that fat, pregnant bore i live with. c'mon, lets go before she makes me kiss her *cringe* lets go have some fun. dont worry about her, she'll have dinner ready by the time we get back.''
it seems more novel when they arent living together, the whole absense makes the heart grow fonder. they 're not all up in each other's faces all the time, and they have their own private space to retire to. personally, i like sleeping in my own bed, gives me freedom to stretch out and i dont get disturbed by his snoring and tossing & turning.
im probably a rarity though. i dont nag at all, i dont consider it my business as far as how often he shaves, or whether or not his shirt is tucked in. i let him handle him, and i handle me. and i dont gross out at farts, unless it produces a particularly raunchy smell. i usually laugh at how funny the sound is. hehehe. i dont expect him to devote all time and attention to me, i like when he goes out with his friends, i like to spend time apart. its good to strike a balance btwn Us time, and Girls/Guys only time, or just simply Alone time.
i prefer monogamy. so i disagree with the idea of people in a community pairing off with different people every night-especially with the STD issue, which was a very good point.
but i do support the idea of everyone being as family to one another, and raising the kids all together, as i think the idea of the nuclear family, where it concerns child rearing, is pretty flawed-and lonely. especially if the child has no siblings. and i should know. im an only child. what's worse is we lived in the country for the 1st 8 years of my life, so i didnt even have other kids to interact with. by the time i got to kindergarten, i was socially fucked up. i think this is the main reason why i was an outcast all my childhood. i feel it would have been different if had even one sibling and lived in a residential neighborhood. but oh, well, im fine now. i didnt become some psycho, suicidal freak or anything.
as i implied before, i feel that larger cities, and the way in which we, in the west, go about our lives having little to do with our neoghbors makes for lonely, fucked up people. why else is crime on the rise? i also blame it for the increase in depression, and i saw a report recently (CNN i think) that says that americans are feeling more lonly than before, and the number of close friends-that you can trust your deepest secrets with-that a person has has dropped. how bleak.
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