@Alric: I've been watching straight porn ever since I've been able to yank the old salami, so to speak, and I can safely say that your supposition that watching even straight porn can turn a person gay simply doesn't hold up, as I'm still not the least bit attracted - sexually, anyway - to the male sex. After all, who does a straight man, when watching straight porn, focus on? The female partner. Duh. Don't see how your theory works out, there, buddy.
Originally Posted by ClouD
Basically, I think sexuality is nothing different from can be likened to favouring certain foods...and I've been argued against on that extensively in the past at DV.
Originally Posted by Maeni
You might come to like a certain food that you didn't like before by "training" yourself to like it.
Didn't want to get terribly deep into this discussion, but I have to say that I think that's a rather ridiculous stance on sexuality. There's countless different foods with even more countless different spices and distinct flavors, so of course you'll grow to like things you didn't think you'd like. But there are only two sexes. Doesn't exactly make a great analogy when you compare something with a large index to something with a tiny index. Does not compute.
In fact, if that philosophy were true, do you know whose favor that would work in? Overzealous Catholics who think they can send their gay children to "straight camps" to get straight. That could actually work, if what you're saying is true. Going back to the food analogy...me, I personally hate seafood. The other day, I decided I'd "man-up" and see if my taste buds have "grown into it", so to speak, so I went to a seafood restaurant for lunch. Needless to say, I still find seafood as sickening as ever. So what could possibly make you think that a person will necessarily change their sexual preference if they just "try something new"? Is there ever any such a thing as "knowing what you like and what you don't like, and that's that"? Why's there gotta be that "well, there's always a chance" mentality?
With that out of the way, I'd like to get down to my original intention of addressing the OP (warning - TMI could lie ahead): You shouldn't have to feel that just because you masturbate, you somehow "don't have control" over your actions. I masturbate because I like to do it. If I didn't like it, I wouldn't do it. Simple as that. It doesn't control me, but rather I control it. In the past, I would stay at my grandma's house for weeks at a time, where I couldn't masturbate safely, because someone was always around. What did I do? Stopped. Didn't even "just sneak one in" on the toilet, I just stopped. Of course, that always meant a very miserable couple of weeks, since I was always stressed out with no way to relieve the tension (I haven't yet heard a doctor who said that masturbation wasn't a good way to reduce stress). Needless to say, I would go to town on myself whenever I got back home.
The gist of what I'm trying to say is that masturbation isn't an addiction, in the true sense of the word, and thus doesn't control you as you may think. You're in control. But seeing as how masturbation's really nothing to be ashamed of - regardless of other people's irrelevant opinions that it's "wrong" - I don't really see why else you'd feel you the need to stop. Kind of sounds like an inferiority complex to me; like you feel that masturbation is for the weak, and yet because you do it, you feel you're somehow weak and inferior yourself. If this is the case, I feel sorry for you, and the only (quite unhelpful) thing I can tell you is...don't feel that way. Sorry if I'm not much help.
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