Same Man - Different Dreams

To start from the beginning.
I've never suffered from any form of abuse, mental or physical, from my dad (or anyone, actually) so I have no past experiences that could lead to this dream. But since I was about 9 or 10 I've had a recurring dream that can start differently but always ends up the same way.
My dad with a knife, razor blade, etc. and will write the word 'mine' on my stomach with it. And when it starts to heal, he retraces it until it finally forms a permanent scar.
Dad and I have always had a great relationship, both before and after the divorce, there's nothing that I can think of in my childhood or now that could attribute to that, but this dream happens once every month or so.
That said, I'll start with the dreams I've been having lately.

The first dream I had of this man was the 'better' of the two. I don't remember him extremely well from the first dream.
I just know that we were in love. I'd never felt that kind of feeling from anyone, ever. It was a genuine, real love. We spent a lot of time together in that dream, I introduced him to my family, we spent time alone walking around in the forest. Nothing awkward or weird in any way, just enjoying each others presence.
I felt 'odd' for a few days after that dream, too. Like in some way it was real and it happened and I was feeling the effects.

The second dream with him was much more vivid. We were together again but it was a much different atmosphere, nothing ominous but definitely tense in some way. Because of the first dream I talked about, I've always had insecurities of my stomach region. I don't like people looking at it, I don't like exposing it, and I definitely don't like people touching my stomach. And in the dream, he went to put his arm around me and put his hand on my stomach and I didn't make a scene but of course I just really pulled away. And I guess that was the last straw? And he made me completely strip. He didn't physically force me or hover over me until I did, but it was one of those tones that made me feel like I needed to listen. So next thing, I'm completely naked, and he makes me sleep with him. In the literal term, there was no cuddling or advances or any of that, he just made me completely strip before I got in bed for the night. I laid awake all night while he was sleeping and some time through the night he just wound up close and when he turned over, he laid his arm across my stomach and I mentally freaked out. I remember my stomach clenching and I just felt like I was holding my breath the whole time until I fell asleep finally.
When I woke up, he was already up. So I got dressed and went out to start making breakfast, and his friends were over. All I overheard were them making comments about how 'his voice sounded lighter' and 'he seemed more at ease' and how they were 'happy he was with me'. And then I woke up. I know, or at least it felt like, he was doing that to get my over my insecurities. He was tired of me feeling insecure around him so he made me just 'get over it'. But like the first dream, it felt like in some way this all actually happened. It felt so real it's unsettling. And like the first dream, the feeling is lingering on and even though this dream happened 2 nights ago, I still feel odd about it. But this time I feel really uneasy and almost stressed over it.

I've had 'real' dreams before but the part that has me so 'weirded out' over it is how vivid he was compared to other dream figures and how the feeling lingers for me, and how I feel so uneasy this time.
I just want to figure out what this is, why I'm having these dreams, and how/if I can get them to stop.

As far as a description of him, I would call him a few years older than me, maybe mid-late 20's. He seems exhausted but not tired, like mentally/emotionally worn out. He always has this look on his face like he's completely uninterested in everything around him except for when we're talking - he doesn't loose the uninterested look but shows a little more curiosity into what I have to say. He's somewhat soft spoken but he doesn't need to repeat himself to get his point across. Naturally red hair, cut short but not buzz cut, dark but clear blue/green eyes that really stand out. His brows are always furrowed. Short but clean, trim beard, always dressed in grays, and has a tribal-ish tattoo on his forearm. I don't know the exact pattern, I've never paid attention to it or anything, I just know it's there. He's about 6'0 or so, average weight for the height, not significantly muscular but looks like he probably has a physical job. He seems like the protective type, all along it feels like he's trying to help me or something but I still can't shake the uneasy feeling over it. And why he's so vivid. I just don't know what any of it means and it has me a little stressed out at this point.

Ok, first I want you to know I don't really know much about this, and this is just the way I see things, so yeah, be wary.

I really really think people go over the board with dream analisis sometimes. What I mean is that it is a dream, it really doesn't have to mean anything bad or good. For instance, I'll use my experiences as an example: I don't like hurting people at all, if it was up to me, everyone would be happy, but I always had many many nightmares, and the nightmares I remember the most were the ones where I accidentally hurt people, but this doesn't really mean that I really want to hurt people, or that I think I would hurt people given the chance. They are nightmares, that's it. Maybe the reason you had those nightmares about your father was because you are afraid of losing or just really don't want to lose him or for him to hurt you in anyway, and I don't think you should take this as me saying that you consciously think about those things, not at all, it's just a thing that you don't want, and I really think it doesn't mean anything other than that.

About the "it feels like it happened", thing, here's what I think about all that: Just because it happened in your dream that doesn't mean you didn't experience or remember those feelings or that situation. It in a way DID happen, and you DID experience it, just not in your awake life. Believe me, I did FEEL bad when those people got hurt. I really really did. I woke up and it was really a very very big relief. Not because I thought "oh, it was a dream, so I didn't actually experience those things," but more because nobody was really hurt (other than the poor dream characters). It is hard for me to explain how it felt with words, because these experiences are something else.

I have always seen people here saying that there is no "real life", there's only your awake life and your dream life, and I really agree. You WILL take experiences from both, and will apply those experiences to both as well. Hell, in my case for instance, I think those nightmares (which have been gone for a decent amount of time since I really began getting into lucid dreaming), reinforced my feeling about never ever wanting to hurt anyone. I think nightmares and dreams are a very cool safety mechanism even. They allow you to deal with the things you fear in a safe environment where there are no permanent repercussions, they make you feel good too sometimes, they let you feel love when you're not loved and maybe even push you to finding it in your awake life. I think they can even tell us things we didn't know or didn't think about about ourselves, but really, I think you already knew you love your father and you don't want him to hurt you, so do you really need to put more meaning into the nightmare?

About the other man, I am not going to try to tell you what it means or what it doesn't, but I feel confident in telling you that it doesn't have to mean anything special. It was a dream where you maybe got to feel some things you hadn't felt before. Maybe it catered to your fears and desires in a way, but that doesn't mean that it has to have a deeper meaning than that. It was just a vivid dream with subjects you felt strongly about, that might be why it was so vivid to you and why you saw this person so clearly. I guess what I'm saying is, you shouldn't be too worried about deeper meanings or anything like that.

As for getting them to stop if you want, I guess there are many ways, maybe try to think of something else before you go to sleep. Maybe get lucid and confront the person, that always seems to make things go away.

Again, opinions coming through, I might be very very wrong, but I hope you got something out of this.