I've taken your idea on board, dolphin; I'm getting the male DCs quite easily, in both normal and awkward forms, so I guess the next step is really to cut down and specify which male DC it is.
But what you said, Superman1, really resonates with me and makes SO much sense. The fact that you are from Australia; which state? I'm in Melbourne and I've been in lockdown for 8 MONTHS! So it could very well be the fact of isolation and not much stimulation from the external environment. If you're curious to see about my interaction timeline with Riku, you can go to my dream journal, I've numbered my dreams in sequential order; start at about No. 658. But for the purpose of this post, I will discuss aspects of the timeline here.
So at the end of May, like with every other dream guide (close dream character in my dream world), in dreams 658 and 659, it's like Riku was preparing to see me and was 'learning' about me. Then in 661 B, that's when we officially met for the first time. In that dream, he hugged me, and then later on sat me on his lap as he listened to some music with me. Our next meaningful interaction was 1.5 weeks later, in 665, where I was lucid. In that dream, he carried me down the backyard (though struggling with gravity) but then when we shifted over to the 'kingdom hearts' side of the dream, he was much more confident in both physical actions and the way he spoke to me.
Dream 684 (11 July) was one of the first instances where Riku had significant 'anger issues' since officially meeting me (but then the dream had distorted him as well). But that was only a one-off as the dreams with him after were mostly good and fun again.
I'd say the next time he became 'angry' was amongst the dreams where I had asked him for help regarding a project I had set to learn things about Sora (I set a dream project based on KH canon story IRL). However, back then I still felt like I had good dream control as after Riku's anger kinda exploded in 711 C and then for a few KH related dreams after that, and then ever since 719 C, Riku finally took a breather and actually actively helped me to finish the 'project'. Now dreams after N721 aren't on DV yet, so the rest is blind discussion for you:
Dream 722 A (24 August) was quite substantial in that Terra was going to take me for something, but Riku said to Terra that he should take me as he is my dream guide. Now the end of August is where the struggles with Riku really flared up. Dream 730 (3 SEP), KH characters appear, but the dream has them negative. From here starts dreams where I uncontrollably call dream guides except for Riku, or have meaningless dreams, or have forced awakenings threatened upon me when I do try for Riku even the slightest bit. There were one or two dreams in mid SEP where Riku was nice to me and all his friends joined, because my birthday was on the 23 and I was gripping hard to have some 'celebration' with them.
Dreams 752 (29 SEP) and 753 (30 SEP) may look like I'm interacting with Riku, but there were still struggles intertwined into them. At the end of 752 E, Riku noticed me crying from something my dad did to me. He asked me if I wanted him to talk to my dad and I said "no! I'm calling security!", so in an irrational manner; I non-lucidly denied Riku! Then in 753 B, I ask for Riku's help, but he's under 'anger' again. It took ages to get his help (I had to scream to get it) and then after he did the bare minimum to help me, he left immediately. The next meaningful dream I had with him was 760 (8 OCT) where he drove into my street, got out of 'his car' and then hugged me with an energy insinuation that he missed me. The next and most recent dream I had was 766 (25 OCT) in his KH-DDD appearance, he took me for 'phobia practise' which through incubation is a regular (or at least common) thing my dream guides do.
So yeah, over the months, the amount of quality dreams becomes harder to achieve, with longer gaps in between them, and some pretty hope quashing dreams in the middle. And also in the early stages, he would come and apologise if he realised I thought he was abandoning me; where as lately, it's either presence or avoidance. I bet it could tie in to 'lockdown fatigue' and the sense of relinquished control and lack of external stimulation. Because never before have I done so much work in my dream diary but the struggle increases rather than decreases.
And then also, it could be the fact that we have views of that character that may affect our subconscious portrayal of them. I can finally guiltily admit to this as whenever I daydream and thoughts of him pop up, the thought of that scene with him and Shiki (KH-DDD) never fails to intrude; the fact that he basically told Shiki to get off his lawn. But then why am I subconsciously applying such a label to him that he isn't good with girls? He hasn't had that issue with other girls such as Kairi, Aqua, Namine, Xion, and then even Beat, Esmeralda and Quorra from the same point in his timeline. So as well as 'lockdown fatigue', it could also be an issue of focusing on the 1 problem rather than the 99 strengths. Like even if I do exercises to get him to be less 'intimidating', I need to realise that he won't actually change unless my subconscious view of him changes. And then I also need to get rid of the idea that 'Keyblade Masters' have restrictions on them.
So I wonder if getting out and seeing new things will help change perceptions and therefore re-open the gateway to interacting. Thanks for that very helpful insight.
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