Cheating Dreams

I'm married, and I seem to have a lot of dreams that I'm being cheated on. They are never lucid, therefore, they are very upsetting and I often wake up depressed or pissed at my husband (haha).

Usually I'll have these types of dreams after we have an argument or something, but last night I had a very elaborate cheating dream out of the blue. I dreamed he left me for his high school ex-girlfriend - it was a very emotional dream that lasted a long time.

I'm secure in the fact that I know my husband would never cheat on me, but I wonder if these dreams have something to do with self-confidence. The only other serious relationship I've ever been in ended with me being cheated on, which changed my whole outlook on relationships and life in general. So I wonder if a deep fear of being cheated on again is the root of these dreams, especially after an argument or something.

Does anyone else in serious relationships have dreams of either being cheated on, or of you doing the cheating?
Any thoughts?

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Originally Posted by Burns

I'm married, and I seem to have a lot of dreams that I'm being cheated on. They are never lucid, therefore, they are very upsetting and I often wake up depressed or pissed at my husband (haha).
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Lol I can see you confusing your dream with reality and wake up shouting at your husband :P

Well I'm guessing that allthough yopur CONSCIOUS Mind knows to trust yoru husband and not to fear, your Subconscious was seriously ''marked'' by that traumatic experience of being cheated on. It can really throw your entire world upside down completely when someone you love so dearly cheats on you. SO allthough you may not be consciously aware of it, your Subconscious didn't just forget that Emotionally xtremely Painfull event. Subconscious thoughts are very populair themes for dreams. You can learn things from Dreams you didn't know about yourself and things you thought you've forgotten. If your father has fallen ill and the doctors put him on heavy duty medication and say that ''he'll be okay'' tehre's always that subconscious part of your Mind that doubts wether he's really gunna be okay. All your worries, wether they are reasonable or not, are often displayed in our Dreams.




I'm in a Relationship and I really love my GirlFriend beyond words. I woud gladly catch a bullet for her without a doubt in Mind. What we have I value so much that No matter if the most Beautyfull women I've EVER seen tried to seduce me I'd turn her down without hesitation: The Love I feel for my girl is just no WAY worth loosing over something so much simpler than mere Lust.

However I dream quite alot of Dreams where I'm messing around with some girl or some girl is messing around with me sensually. I never dream plain sex, always being sexualy pasionate and being emotionally close. But I never feel like ''I'm cheating on her with another girl'' in any of those dreams. I guess these dreams are more about symbolising the desire of loving someone and being loved in a very physically sensual and mentally close way.

I usually only realise that it wasn't my girlfriend in the Dream untill after the Dream when I awoke. I remember once I dreamt about sex with my ex. A lovely girl for sure to which I hold many great memories, but I have completely no intention of getting back with her whatsoever. I guess these are just memories and desires being displayed in a very symbolical manner in our dreams.

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Originally Posted by Burns

I'm married, and I seem to have a lot of dreams that I'm being cheated on. They are never lucid, therefore, they are very upsetting and I often wake up depressed or pissed at my husband (haha).

Usually I'll have these types of dreams after we have an argument or something, but last night I had a very elaborate cheating dream out of the blue. I dreamed he left me for his high school ex-girlfriend - it was a very emotional dream that lasted a long time.

I'm secure in the fact that I know my husband would never cheat on me, but I wonder if these dreams have something to do with self-confidence. The only other serious relationship I've ever been in ended with me being cheated on, which changed my whole outlook on relationships and life in general. So I wonder if a deep fear of being cheated on again is the root of these dreams, especially after an argument or something.

Does anyone else in serious relationships have dreams of either being cheated on, or of you doing the cheating?
Any thoughts?
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Your past experience might have something to do with it but I've been in a couple relationships that have ended with the other cheating yet there weren't too serious. They were awhile ago but I haven't had dreams about them.

If it's usually after an argument I would think it might be your subconcious kind of re-evaluating your actions. If the argument is something petty in comparison to the health of your relationship, the cheating in the dream might symbolize the intimacy barrier you put up during the argument not being worth it.

To have one out of the blue maybe you didn't give or receive as much as affection as you'd like during the day?

These are all just guesses and I know very little about the situation so I hope nothing I said offends or bothers you. I was just trying to give another perspective.

Also if the theme appears again try to go lucid and ask what it's all about. Even if it doesn't occur again maybe you should summon your husband in your next lucid dream and ask about it.

Thanks for the replies SKA and Dyermaker - you both said some things that help explain it for me.

I feel that cheating dreams are probably a deep-seated fear of the worst happening again, which is manifesting in these dreams.

I'm definitely going to start doing more RCs anytime we have an argument (which is less often than I'm making it sound) so I can try to become lucid and find some resolution.