I'm frightened, please help.

Hi All,

I'm new to this site but it looks as though there are some "serious dreamers" here who might be able to help.

I've experienced "vivid" dreams all of my life. These dreams are disturbing, sometimes random sometimes re-occurring. For the past 10 years or so, I've experienced what I think is "Lucid Dreaming".

I know (usually just before I fall asleep) if I'm going to have one of these dreams. It starts off with blackness and a loud "screaming" in my ear. Last night it was so bad, it actually hurt my ears (in reality). I can't control these dreams in the way I've heard people talking about and it frightens me that I can't. I tell myself to wake up, I try to open my eyes, but I'm paralysed. Last night I tried to hurt my son to make him cry so that the sound would wake me up. I tried to phone my husband who is working away at the moment so that he could wake me up (Not in reality, my son came to no harm).

I have a history of sleep-walking and these dreams are becoming worse and worse. I'm scared that one day, the paralysis won't be there and I'll hurt somebody or something (maybe the dog). At the same time, the paralysis stops me from waking up and getting out of the dream.

I've made an appointment at the doctor, but I'm really not sure what he can do to stop it and I'm scared he'll think I'm mad.

This is really frightening me. I've lived with intense dreaming for as long as I can remember and lucid dreams for 10 years or so but I've had about as much as I can take. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance,

Katie.

By starting off going to sleep knowing that you will have one of these dreams you are automatically doing the following:

1. Believing that you will have a very vivid dream that you will have no control over, that will frighten you.

2. Focused on having a dream of that exact type before falling asleep, so your final thought before sleeping is about something disturbing and out of your control.


Fear and panic inhibit absolutely any chance of control over a dream.

In order to gain control over these dreams, you need to believe you can. If you have any doubt whatsoever, even the smallest tinge, the end result will be the result of your doubt and not your intended result. It's not that you actually cannot control the dreams, it's that you are attempting to control them without a firm belief in yourself as the master of your own dream. If you want something to change, demand that it change and be of the firm belief that whatever you say will go into effect instantly before your eyes. If it doesn't happen, you had doubt, try again, put more emotion into the demand, and let fear be as far from your mind as the north pole is from the south. But there is something else I want to bring your attention to:

These recurring dreams, no matter how disturbing can be eliminated very easily. In your dreams, nothing can hurt you, and if you ask a question of a nightmarish figure or dream character, you will get a very complete answer. All you have to do, is without fear, approach the root of the problem that makes these dreams disturbing and ask "What do you represent?" or "What is it that you want?" and note the answer you receive. Most times the character will reply they are some part of you, or some situation from your past or future that needs dealing with. If there is no particular figure and the scene itself is what is disturbing, call out to the dream itself and ask "What does all of this represent?". You will (most likely) hear a voice from behind the dream answer your question, or you'll see the answer appear near you. The real key is that you have to gather up bravery and face these dreams once, gather all the information from them, and they will go away.

Dreams are also full of symbolism. Take note of the different things you see, and research their symbolic meanings to help piece together the meanings of these dreams before you head to bed tonight to really get down to the root of the problem.

Have confidence on you and be brave .

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Unlocked Blackberry

"There is nothing to fear but fear itself." -FDR