Losing my edge!

Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum although i've been a lucid dreamer all of my life. For as long as I can remember (and I can remember a lot of stuff of when I was about 3 yrs old) I've been lucid dreaming and I can still vividly recall a few of those dreams. I am concerned, however, that i might be losing my ability to lucid dream. Ever since I got engaged in December of 2010 and after getting married in september I have not been able to gain consciousness in my dreams as often as I used to. I still dream and I recall most of my dreams when I wake up in the morning, but while I'm dreaming I'm no longer able to take control of my dreams...or even gain consciousness while I'm dreaming. One of my friends sugested that it might be the big change in my life and that i'm probably just getting used to it and most likely I will get my ability to lucid dream in the future. I tried many things to gain consciousness during my dream, but when I do achieve that, 80% of the time I wake up as soon as I become lucid. Does anyone have an idea of what's going on? Can anyone advise me what to do? Any help will be appreciated.

Thanks,
Tlacoyo.

Hi there welcome to DV :) Would love to hear some of your past lucid experiences, you can create an online dream journal for everyone to see and comment on if you'd like.
I cant really relate, though I recommend getting involved with our great community here and posting/reading some dream journals to get back your motivation :)
Write down a list of some goals you would like to accomplish, maybe get your other half interested in lucid dreaming? Dont worry, youre a natural, you just gotta find that spark again. Take care

Ahh a natural, why not check out some of the guides and start to get a grasp on that ability you have! Not sure why dreams would become less stable with some much practice behind you.

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Originally Posted by ShadowOfSelf

Hi there welcome to DV :) Would love to hear some of your past lucid experiences, you can create an online dream journal for everyone to see and comment on if you'd like.

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Thanks for the advise...I will be working on my dream journal from now on...I guess i've been taking my ability for granted for so long and never really used any methods to cultivate it. Maybe that's what I need.

Tlacoyo

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Originally Posted by Arch

Ahh a natural, why not check out some of the guides and start to get a grasp on that ability you have! Not sure why dreams would become less stable with some much practice behind you.

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Hi Arch....
Not sure why that would hapen either, but i'm not willing to lose my ability just like that. Thanks for your comment! ;-)

Have you changed your sleep pattern lately? If so, that may effect it.

Maybe sharing your bed has messed up your routine? I know I have a harder time lucid dreaming when I sleep with someone else. I will sometimes move to the couch or an empty guest bedroom when I really want to lucid dream. It is easier to stay focused.

I guess I'm in a similar situation although its been longer for me, I can't remember the last time I was lucid :(. If I'm honest I'm just not putting the work in that I used to but it does seem like I've lost something I used to have. I wouldn't make the assumption that its going to come back on its own though - work work work. If only I could take my own advice.