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    Thread: Missed opportunity. Destabilised before I could stop it

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      Missed opportunity. Destabilised before I could stop it

      If you find this crude, I apologise; I'm just going to come out and say it.


      Last night I dreamt I was in a house with a party in full swing, I knew many of the people there.
      For some reason I make a beeline for the kitchen. I'm not lucid by the way.
      I see a girl I have known for nearly a decade, we are talking then I randomly start licking and kissing her neck and ear, I can feel her skin. Normally in my dreams I can see and hear, FEELING is a new sensation for me to experience in my dreams.

      As it dawns on me I might be dreaming, before I can do anything else the girl begins unzipping my jeans and rams me inside her. I can feel everything; we are literately getting jiggy on the cooker lol. In the next few seconds I can remember thinking
      I am dreaming and.... I think I start trying to stabilise the dream, I can remember thinking I didn't wanna lose myself, I tried to think of my LD targets. As this is running through my head, I just...... Don't know, lose memory of what happened next?

      Anyways, I awoke in a positive mood because any dream is better than no dream, and I am thankful that I at least questioned reality in my dream.

      The thing is, I don't know if I dreamed I was lucid or I just had low level awareness, lucid dream sex is something I will achieve but it's not something I am desperate to - I have a happy relationship with my girlfriend And a healthy fulfilling one at that too. I am at a loss as to why my consciousness became aware during this act. I have had dreams of skydiving off of solid clouds that didnt spark my logic into questioning my reality. And this girl, while easily attractive, is not the type I'd lust after. I find my girlfriend much more attractive than her, so why is my subconscious settling for less?

      Oh, I almost forgot, I MUST have had a false awakening, simply because I can vividly remember writing down the dream with the girl on the cooker in my dream journal. I can still see some of my writing. I actually woke up thinking I'd already wrote down my dreams for the day. So, hopefully all of this is a sign of progress.

      Thank you for all replies, If any.
      I am staying optimistic and am hoping to achieve a fulll fledged LD by Christmas.

      Peace and Love all Dreamers!!

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      Sounds like you want a dream interpretation, and I think no one better than the dreamer himself can answer such questions.

      So I can't answer you why you did not make out with your girlfriend, or why you became lucid during kissing the DC. Also I don't like the expression to say something like "ah my subconscious created that or this situation and I don't know why!" I mean your subconscious, your dreams are a part of you like your feelings, so the only one who can really say why it happened are you, after all it was you who kissed and licked her Or you could go with the theory that just random shit happens in dreams which are non explainable, at least I don't try to explain myself why I was a soldier in my last dream and shot somebody that wanted to desert.

      For your other speculation, I think you got lucid, at least it sounds for me that you after becoming lucid weren't engaging anymore much in whatever you did before, but rather thinking about what do to with your new won lucidity. But also your lose it pretty fast again,
      so maybe you thought too much about it and in the end the dream faded away, than you woke up (the FA happened) were you "lost lucidity".

      Sorry if this sounds like critique, I just reread and I think it sounds a bit like that I don't mean it like that, I think its a great step onwards more frequent lucid dreams! So continue with writing your dreams in your DreamJournal and thinking over your dreams!
      Even if I think one should not try to interprete too much into random dreams, I don't say that it is bad to ask questions about dreams, or keeping yourself occupied with the dreams you had, I just say one should not expect in depth answers or answers at all but that is just my opinion. Just enjoy it like you enjoy icecream
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      Thank you hehe, an informative response

      I guess, while I have And always will remain faithful to my girlfriend, I still desire others lol
      That can at least explain the girl, on a side note, I just realised, I was bickering with my girlfriend yesterday and saw this girl as we were on our journey, we greeted eachother ect but when I was talking to her, as I've said this girl IS quite attractive, I simply like taller ones and I didn't have any feelings of lust while talking to her.

      As for my awareness, I HOPE so much that its progress, I am thinking of taking my approach to LDing more slowly,
      It feels like I'm trying too hard sometimes. The only thing is, I don't want to slow it down then discover my progress has diminished (ie no recall again) I am finally starting to recall steadily, I have a memor map for the 5 days out of the last 7.

      Thoughts?

      Peace and Love

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      By the way, I actually am grateful for CONSTRUCTIVE criticism, from all people of all walks of life, not just on DV, I didn't find you post overtly critique, so no worries. Your post solidifies some things I had doubts on and brought forth new questions. Some, like you mentioned; can only be answered by me.

      Peace and love
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      Ha, okay, also I think it is quite normal for people to still desire others, even the kindest ones under us do this. You know the quote, every human has two wolves fighting inside them. One good, one bad, and it depends on the human which one will gain the upper hand, depending on which thoughts he is feeding them, so as long as you don't desire others more than giving love to your partner its okay.

      And ofc its progress! Maybe next time think of something you want to do in a lucid dream before you sleep. If you have trouble to remember goals you set in your waking state, try a mantra or/and train your memory. I try to train my memory with the method that I every day after writing my dreams down, give myself some quest ala in what situations I want to do Reality Checks so I kill two birds with one stone. For example I try than to remember on Monday to:
      "Make a RC when I come home, everytime I am in fron of the mirror, when I feed my dog, everytime I talk on the phone and when I see some of my dreamsigns".
      Also, don't press yourself too hard, but also don't build a wall of negative thoughts, you can do it, even if you press yourself too hard or if you're slow! If that makes any sense.
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