lucid dreamers help me

hello everyone welcome to my post i need your help please read and reply

i am new to lucid dreaming i spent 3 months of practice then had my first lucid dream (DILD) and after 5 days my second dild .so i had two lucid dreams first one was about 10 minutes long and second was approx 5 minutes .both were not fully contolled but i did dream control exercises and then fly.

i saw a video before i started lucid dreaming it says we can do anything in a lucid dream including sex and yes i started lucid dreaming to be able to do sex with hot celebrities because that way i am not harming anyone and its my own subconscious so no shame telling you this :P . when after trying so hard and doing that much hard work i came to know the fact that dream sex is not easy (i read every article about lucid dreaming) most people advice not to do sex in first lucid dreams so in my only two lucid dreams i didn't even thought about sex. but now i want to ask you guys some questions

1)it is realy bad to know that sex in dreams is not that easy when i done that much work only for that as i am not interested in flying around so what are your tips considering my story .what should i do and what you have done if you were me?

2)lots of people who share their stories about having lucid sex tell that they had sex and woke up with ejaculation and this is realy nasty i don't want that to happen so if i do oral sex and kissing undressing part (no fucking) will i ejaculate? did you guys done anything as such? pls share your experiance.

3)i never succeeded in WILD do you have any tip to simplify WILD ?

4) how to have more lucid dreams so that i can have at least one dream per night?

thank you for your help

1. The main reason why dreams sex is difficult, is because we all have a tendency to get a bit excited, which leads to destabilization. The actual act isn't any more difficult than any other stuff we try to do (in my experience, at least).
More self-control of your dream self will help.
2. I'm afraid its unavoidable. Its the same principle with wet dreams. Not sure how generally making out and just undressing will work for you.
3. WILD can't really be simplified (at least, not by me). To sum it up in one sentence, if its any help: Keep your mind awake and let your body sleep.
4. Practice. Keep at it and you'll get better. No shortcuts, I'm afraid.

My advice to you would be to continue practicing and getting your control up. You can do whatever you want in a dream, that's the whole beauty of it. I do think, however, that after you've been on all of your sexual adventures, you'll get bored of it, whether after 2 weeks, or 2 months, you will. At that time, you will continue to do other things in lucid dreams, as people do. Until then, sex your heart out.

Whether or not you will have a wet dream, nobody knows, it's your own body and everybody's different. You may very well, but you might not, only one way to find out.

A lot of people find WILD to be the more difficult technique, but achieving a WILD generally comes from a lot of practice and a lot of experimentation to find out exactly what works for you. Check out Sageous' Class, he will be able to help you there.

Having more lucid dreams is simply a case of practicing the technique you're using more. Just keep at it, keep yourself focused, keep your recall up, and more will come your way!

To be honest it's not that great of a thing that you're only interested in lucid dreaming for sex. Not because your interest is sex but because it's your only interest.

Dream characters don't always do what you want. Sometimes, even if you're looking for, say, Angelina Jolie, the dream character can be very unattractive, and other times not even interested in you. There'll come a point where you'll realize that there are so many better opportunities than just sex in lucid dreams (and, frankly, if you get to the point where you have a lucid dream every night you will arrive to this conclusion), but you'll probably have to have several LDs before you even get to the point where you can have sex without waking up.

Just for an example about dream characters: I once had a dream--not a lucid dream, but one where I had a great deal of control--that I had a magical book that I could use to control things around me. I was experimenting and thought to myself, "I want a new guy to come to school tomorrow." Well, a new guy did come to school tomorrow. He moved just across the road from me and so got on the same bus as I did. While we were all going to school I tried to tweak his appearance (without saying anything aloud), and he became sad. "Oh, come on, man. That's not me."

Basically, what I'm trying to say, is that you might not have that great of an experience with LDing if all you're trying to do is have a bunch of DCs to screw.

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Originally Posted by chitrarth

1)it is realy bad to know that sex in dreams is not that easy when i done that much work only for that as i am not interested in flying around so what are your tips considering my story .what should i do and what you have done if you were me?

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Sex in lucid dreams is great, though it's definitely different than the real thing. There are so many possibilities with lucid dreaming that I don't get why you would want to limit yourself. Still, you have a goal. If sex is what encourages you to lucid dream then do it well.

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2)lots of people who share their stories about having lucid sex tell that they had sex and woke up with ejaculation and this is realy nasty i don't want that to happen so if i do oral sex and kissing undressing part (no fucking) will i ejaculate? did you guys done anything as such? pls share your experiance.

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There really is no way to tell what will happen until you try. This really is an individual experience. If erotic action causes you to ejaculate during sleep and it's causing issues for you then you might consider placing a feminine pad in your underpants before bed. It's a practical way to avoid staining your bed and shouldn't cause discomfort.

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3)i never succeeded in WILD do you have any tip to simplify WILD ?

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We have some very experienced people here on the forum, and all may give you a different answer. In addition to the suggestion of Sageous' class you might also check out:

http://www.dreamviews.com/wake-initi...ild-guide.html -A good guide

http://www.dreamviews.com/induction-...cid-dream.html -DV Official Tutorial

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4) how to have more lucid dreams so that i can have at least one dream per night?

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Like realdealmagic said, practice makes perfect. Consistency is also a good word for your efforts. Use a Dream Journal and maintain good sleep habits. I also find that when I spend a lot of time reading about lucid dreaming topics on the forum I become influenced by the material I read and have more frequent lucid dreams.

Whatever material influences you best, flood your mind with it. The ideas will sink in. :)

Trust me learn from my mistakes you don't want sex to be a major goal for lucid dreaming. i wasted a lot of lucid dreams with sex and it starts to become almost a craving as in you make it a routine to have sex every lucid dreaming. Also you make it progress towards mastering lucid dreaming. Now i am back on track and there is so many other thing to do then sex. Good luck and stick with it for best results.

^ Guy knows what he's talkin' 'bout.

thank you realmindmagic and melanieb for helping me and giving your precious time .for me your answers are much much better then others who say leave sex in lucid dreams do other things and your replies are systematic and detailed so it helped a lot. thanks a ton

1: I'd suggest to get some more goals to get more familiar with lucid dreaming, dream control and so on, you can always return to it when you get more experienced and be able to keep the dream stable. :)
2: Dunno, haven't tried, though it is something that can vary from person to person. :-?
3&4: Practice, practice and practice. Lucid dreaming is a skill, so keep practicing and thinking positive and someday you will reach what you want! There are no generally simple ways, since just so much things vary from person to person, but you can experiment with different techniques and try figuring out something that will work better for you, here are some threads and tutorials to check:
http://www.dreamviews.com/induction-methods-techniques/
http://www.dreamviews.com/wild/
http://www.dreamviews.com/dild/13212...ods-dilds.html :peek:

*Merged threads*
Please do not crosspost, crossposting considered posting same thread in different sections/subsections, thanks.

Your call bro. :whyme: It'd be better for your own sake to at least listen to QuiteMind 'cause, you know, he's done exactly what you're trying to do but whatever. Good luck anyway.

thank you thank you so much i appreciate all your replies and it is a lovely way to learn from you people .i understand what you all said and i know that is true for most cases but i will learn from my own mistakes and i will try until i succeed .and i will post my results here .i will do love making not sex (hardcore) .my imagination is erotic as hell :P

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Originally Posted by chitrarth

i will learn from my own mistakes and i will try until i succeed

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Well, you've earned my respect! :lmao: Best of luck!

:D