Thread: Do you keep your interest in lucid dreaming a secret from others?

Whenever I avoid talking about lucid dreaming with other people I almost feel like a gay male trying to come out of the closet.

One thing I learned about when talking about lucid dreaming is to not talk about it with religious fanatics!! They will make you feel like you are worshipping the devil or something. lol They will also make it seem as though you are inviting demons into your life. It is really silly and close-minded but so trueee! I shared my love for lucid dreaming for my friend and she told me to be careful. lol I told her that the only thing to fear is fear itself. Another friend I told about lucid dreaming too was quite condescending. She made it sound as if she has more experience than me about anything spiritual and that I am a level beneath her and one day I'll come around and attend her church. lol This one was the worst! Anyway, share your experiences with people that are not stuck in religious dogma, take it from me.

Originally Posted by Laurelindo

Whenever I avoid talking about lucid dreaming with other people I almost feel like a gay male trying to come out of the closet.

This is the funniest thing I've ever heard! Thank you for sharing. I can so relate. lol lol but on the female side. This made my day! LMAO!

starletdreamer this is not the place to discuss this but I think you are pretty close minded yourself. Just because some people who have faith think a certain way all people think that way, right?

Originally Posted by Ginsan

starletdreamer this is not the place to discuss this but I think you are pretty close minded yourself. Just because some people who have faith think a certain way all people think that way, right?

She did say "religious fanatics", not all people of faith.

Alright, alright

Originally Posted by starletdreamer

One thing I learned about when talking about lucid dreaming is to not talk about it with religious fanatics!! They will make you feel like you are worshipping the devil or something. lol They will also make it seem as though you are inviting demons into your life. It is really silly and close-minded but so trueee! I shared my love for lucid dreaming for my friend and she told me to be careful. lol I told her that the only thing to fear is fear itself. Another friend I told about lucid dreaming too was quite condescending. She made it sound as if she has more experience than me about anything spiritual and that I am a level beneath her and one day I'll come around and attend her church. lol This one was the worst! Anyway, share your experiences with people that are not stuck in religious dogma, take it from me.

Might as well say that lucid dreaming invites some of the best experiences, because lucid dreaming gives you the potential to experience fantastic things and stop nightmares.

I mean, if you are the lucid dreamer and the one in control then you will obviously strive for as rewarding experiences as possible.
Nobody in their right mind intentionally creates unpleasant dream experiences that make them feel bad - not even masochists, because when they pursue unpleasant things they do it because those experiences feel good to them.

Nah, lucid dreams are awesome, and should be welcomed by absolutely everyone.
I cannot see how they would make anyone's life worse in any way, as long as people also take the time to relax and have a great time in them.
Nighmares can happen in regular dreams anyway, and if they happen in lucid dreams then you will even have much more power to change them - if you want to change them in the first place, because lucid nightmares can also teach important lessons.

Sorry I offended you. I said religious "fanatics". Not religious in general. A person can be religious and not come off by condemning everything just because of their beliefs while another condemns everything they hear and are ready to call everything demonic.

I do agree with lots of sentiment here. But I would rather think of it as we are the lucky ones, because we have received this gift of "interest". I count my lucky stars and say a little "thank you prayer" everytime I think about how lucky I was to find out about lucid dreaming and Dreamviews. Sheer coincidence (or was it). And a truck load of interest.

I feel sorry for people that don't have this interest. But i also don't feel sorry for them. I mean, do I want someone who is interested in some sport or art to feel sorry for me, because I have not discovered the thing, that he had discovered and enjoys thouroughly? No, I don't. If I had any interest in it, I would pick it up. But I don't. And it's ok that way. We are all different with diff interests. I'm sure people in lets say yoga forum [insert any other interest] are calling everybody else a muggle, because yoga is so good for you, yet we don't care.

Agreed again, that LDing is special. And I count my lucky stars for discovering. It's also on top of my list of things to 'discover' early on in my next incarnation.

When I tried it for the first time, a few years ago, I told my family and my close friends... they weren't really interested, they didn't care... except one friend told me he has such dreams every night and he thought that's normal (grr, I'm jealous)
but this time I don't really have the urge to tell everyone. If someone's coincidentally talking about dreams I might mention it though

The most annoying thing about others' skepticism is those people on YouTube and the like who go "do not lucid dream!", what is their problem?
Oh, and of course those who are like "is this shit real?".
Why yes, "this shit", a.k.a. "lucid dreaming", is real, and why shouldn't we practice it when it is just a more aware version of ordinary dreams, which everyone experiences several times every night?
That's like saying you should never create your own daydreams.

I talked with my mom and my brother about it but they looked at me as i were some crazy guy and my brother said "thats impossible". I wonder when lucid dreams will get accepted in society

Originally Posted by Iriba

I talked with my mom and my brother about it but they looked at me as i were some crazy guy and my brother said "thats impossible". I wonder when lucid dreams will get accepted in society

Every time I read this post I see Neo from The Matrix go "No...! I don't believe it...! It's impossible!".

It the topic comes up it's hard not to talk about, IMO. How elaborate I make it.. Well, that depends on who's asking. If I know that the person has an interest in the more "surreal" experiences of life then I often engage in discussions about Lucid Dreaming full on. I find that most people have experienced something similar or close-to Lucid Dreaming. I tend to avoid poking at the more provocative topics such as OBE's and WILD's. It is understandable that it would be difficult wrapping your head around if you are a "novice" to the Astral/Dream world.

The subject Lucid Dreaming is often met with positive reactions in general. At least, that's been the case so far for me. The most fun part is when you bring it up to a close friend and you find out that they also like to LD. Ah, good times.

Yes, I keep it to myself. I suspect most people I know would think it was weird, though they would be too polite to tell me so. I've told a few people about it in the past and most of them responded with bizarrely stubborn disbelief. I mean, I'm all for healthy skepticism, but becoming conscious within a dream strikes me as such a relatively mundane and plausible idea that I don't quite understand this skeptical reaction. Honestly it seems weirder to me that we go unconscious for 8 hours every night.

I feel like this should be more widely known, but for some reason is just hasn't caught on and most people still have no idea what it is. From my own experiences of bringing it up with friends and co workers, it's been a mixed bag of "I do that too!" to "Whatever, lets go get drunk". I feel like most people just don't care enough or understand how awesome it is and are too lazy to put forth the effort it takes to actually learn how to have them. It's very easy not to, of course, as I forgot about it myself for over a year...

My parents think I'm crazy, they probably don't really believe in Lucid Dreaming. They especially think I'm crazy when I do all my "crazy" antics to boost the chances of lucid dreaming. My brothers on the other hand think it's pretty cool. Also a few of my friends are Lucid Dreamers, so they understand.

I wonder if it is possible to notice on other people's behaviour if they are somehow into lucid dreaming.
I personally often find myself observing my surroundings almost like a child whenever I am "Lucid Living", because I actually get a genuine curious feeling when I pretend that everything in waking life is a dream, since the association to being lucid tricks me into feeling excited.
Sometimes I almost get the feeling that some people are like "wtf, are you high or something?" when I walk around with large excited eyes and do my lucid role-playing.

Not that it matters a whole lot though, my university is pretty huge so almost nobody except my classmates knows who I am anyway. xD

Originally Posted by Laurelindo

I wonder if it is possible to notice on other people's behaviour if they are somehow into lucid dreaming.
I personally often find myself observing my surroundings almost like a child whenever I am "Lucid Living", because I actually get a genuine curious feeling when I pretend that everything in waking life is a dream, since the association to being lucid tricks me into feeling excited.
Sometimes I almost get the feeling that some people are like "wtf, are you high or something?" when I walk around with large excited eyes and do my lucid role-playing.

Not that it matters a whole lot though, my university is pretty huge so almost nobody except my classmates knows who I am anyway. xD

You know. I think I like you.

Today, I decided I would tell someone about a very vivid lucid dream I had. I have never talked to anyone in my surroundings about LD, and I thought my boyfriend may be the most appropiate person to be the first one I told. He's a graduate in nursery and so has an interest in medicine, so I believed he'd understand. Plus, these last few months I had been telling him about my dreams, the non-lucid ones, to work my way into the subject. So, I started by asking him if he knew what lucid dreaming was. As I expected, he said no, and I tried to describe it to him as simply as I could. He just said "sounds like Inception". He knows I love the movie. Then, I tried to make him ask me about the dream I had tonight (it was so overwhelmingly vivid I needed to tell someone, but I didn't want to just throw it to him if he wasn't interested) by telling him it had been amazing. He showed no interest whatsoever, so I just stopped trying. Meh, how disappointing, I thought I would finally have someone to share this with in real life. People really aren't interested in these things at all, generally speaking.

So I guess yes, my interest in lucid dreaming still remains a secret to those around me.

Originally Posted by martakartus

Today, I decided I would tell someone about a very vivid lucid dream I had. I have never talked to anyone in my surroundings about LD, and I thought my boyfriend may be the most appropiate person to be the first one I told. He's a graduate in nursery and so has an interest in medicine, so I believed he'd understand. Plus, these last few months I had been telling him about my dreams, the non-lucid ones, to work my way into the subject. So, I started by asking him if he knew what lucid dreaming was. As I expected, he said no, and I tried to describe it to him as simply as I could. He just said "sounds like Inception". He knows I love the movie. Then, I tried to make him ask me about the dream I had tonight (it was so overwhelmingly vivid I needed to tell someone, but I didn't want to just throw it to him if he wasn't interested) by telling him it had been amazing. He showed no interest whatsoever, so I just stopped trying. Meh, how disappointing, I thought I would finally have someone to share this with in real life. People really aren't interested in these things at all, generally speaking.

So I guess yes, my interest in lucid dreaming still remains a secret to those around me.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I talk about lucid dreaming in the house all the time. My hubby is sick of it. lol I just cannot fathom how anyone would NOT be interested in this subject. I was talking to my brother about it just yesterday and he seemed pretty interested. I was very surprised since he is a skeptic about everything but apparently he was interested and was even willing to trying WILDing. As far as every day talk. I found a friend online that I talk about lucid dreaming everyday and they are also a lucid dreamer. You should find a friend you can talk to about this stuff everyday so you don't lose your interest. It will keep you motivated. There are lucid dream groups on facebook. You should look them up. Mine is The Lucid Traveler (For Oneironauts). You can request and join. Another one is just Lucid Dreaming. I found so many friends here and people that talk about lucid dreaming. It's a great place to go because you get notifications all the time and can chat with them on demand. Dreamviews is great too. Enjoy!

Originally Posted by starletdreamer

Yeah, I know what you mean. I talk about lucid dreaming in the house all the time. My hubby is sick of it. lol I just cannot fathom how anyone would NOT be interested in this subject. I was talking to my brother about it just yesterday and he seemed pretty interested. I was very surprised since he is a skeptic about everything but apparently he was interested and was even willing to trying WILDing. As far as every day talk. I found a friend online that I talk about lucid dreaming everyday and they are also a lucid dreamer. You should find a friend you can talk to about this stuff everyday so you don't lose your interest. It will keep you motivated. There are lucid dream groups on facebook. You should look them up. Mine is The Lucid Traveler (For Oneironauts). You can request and join. Another one is just Lucid Dreaming. I found so many friends here and people that talk about lucid dreaming. It's a great place to go because you get notifications all the time and can chat with them on demand. Dreamviews is great too. Enjoy!

I'll definitely join some Facebook group. I think I'm in one already but it's not active. I'll send a request to your group it sounds great. And yeah, right now Dreamviews is my number one motivation

Btw, looks like finally my boyfriend has become interested. He must've done some research these last hours and now he's asking me questions. I like that, now we can have some interesting conversations. Maybe he'll end up so into the subject as me ^^

I actually told my mother about lucid dreaming today, and I showed her this image and explained it.
It felt like a good time to do that, because she has been talking about her dreams three days in a row now, and she has also studied sleep and dreaming, so she seemed open to the subject.

Her reaction when I said that the counting test had been carried out during a dream was something like "Im not sure I understand" followed by a puzzled look, but then I think she understood what I meant and she was like "ah, alright", but she wasn't particularly interested in talking about it.
I also reminded her that she had actually said herself that she once had a dream where she told herself that she was dreaming, and that it was like that.

I guess this whole thing means that she knows that lucid dreaming exists, but doesn't fully realize the potentials they offer.
Maybe she believes that lucid dreams cannot be controlled in a practical way.

Hi everyone,
I read that you have a lot of different opinions here, but I don't talk about lucid dreams with anyone except with my girlfriend, but she hadn't any LD already.
I think that the people can think that I'm a crazy guy. When a dream topic appear, people detect that I know a lot of things about dreams, but they never know how deep is my knowledge.
Do you think that I need to open my secret to the people? I sure that nobody care about this stuff...
See you dreamers!

I keep it a secret from my family, but I try to subtlety bring it up to others. Like "I had the craziest dream last night"

I act like I've never heard of Lucid Dreaming