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It always seems like in my sleep any and all goals i want to get done in a lucid dream get clouded by sex. Im 15 year old male but i think as my self as a genius and that i am a person of exploration and science, but when im in my dream, i become a full on sex machine. If i am even a HINT of lucid, i get sexy girls showing up and finding my self in intimate situations. Does anyone else relate? Does anyone know how to overcome these dream desires? xD
You are most likely predicting the future
Sorry, there's no way around it. You're a sexy beast.
Hahaha. This was my problem the first few times as well. In fact, I'm pretty sure it happens to everyone. We have complete power, and its our nature to desire sex sex sex, so viola! You just need to get used to the idea of being lucid and gaining self control. Eventually you will get annoyed at lucid sex for waking you up/ destabilizing the dream, and youll learn to ignore it. Time, my friend.
You are 15 and you are horny. It's all ok for your age.
Yes, Dojodoj, you might just have to wait patiently for your body and its hormones to catch up with your mind, and at the very least not be surprised when sex urges attempt to take over during a LD... in other words, you'll grow out of it eventually!
That said, notice I said "attempt" above. So during the long wait for sex urges to subside a bit, one thing you could do is spend some day time considering this condition, and working up a plan for dealing with it. This plan could be little more than building a solid plan in your mind that, when the sex-gods intervene in your dream, you're going to just walk away and do something else. If you build some real expectations that just having sex in dreams is not enough, you will find that your dreaming mind will work with you.
Have fun :rolleyes: But if this becomes bothersome you will have to work on your intent. You don't have to have sex just because you are having a lucid dream. But I suppose this goes without saying. If the urge is too strong you can try and satisfy your needs before falling asleep.
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But hey, sex is probably our strongest natural urge, so it's not so surprising.
You could always invest all your time on sex for a while and experiment around until you have satisfied your greatest urges, and then make up plans on what you want to do except that.
Flying and teleporting tend to be very cool and popular experiments.
I'm 32 and this still happens a lot for me. For me it feels like sex is kind of a default for my lucid dreams. If I don't remember my goals, or don't really have any at the time, the dream becomes sexual really quick.
Like Sageous said, have other fun and interesting goals planned, and when you remember them in a lucid dream you'll have something other than sex to focus on.
Agree with a lot of the above.
Sex becomes the center for MOST people during LDs. Essentially your basic wants and needs tend to surface first. (If you were a homeless beggar, your first LDs would probably be about comfort, food and other essentials.)
Don't worry about it. Enjoy it and even (if you want) plan to have sexual escapades with certain people in your earthly life whom you secretly or openly "want." That will help to 'get through it' and satisfy those needs faster, so that you can move on to more important projects.
While enjoying (and working through) your sex-meets you might consider doing otherworldly things (even during the act!) like; flying, passing through solid objects or breathing underwater, for a few examples. You can even practice mind-reading or telepathic messaging with your sex partner, before, during or after the act. These attempts (even just the intent alone) will tend to propel you onto other things where you'll most likely meet your master.
(Masters tend to wait for you to work through the sex-thing before appearing and/or chasing you around with your fears.)
Best of luck and don't try to "fight" anything. "What you resists, persists" - that also is true on other planes of existence, I've found.
Take care.
Teach me how to have sex in LDs.
It isn't really possible to teach you how to have sex in LDs Freak.
By studying, practicing and attempting LDs (in and of themselves) is what brings about MANY possibilities. One of which is sex with whomever you want.
Read the precepts to LDs (on this forum and/or in the multiple published texts) and begin practicing them. If sex is what you're after, than include that in your waking plans for your upcoming LD adventure.
That's it, really. A magic formula for having sex in your LDs does not exist beyond planning it, just as there isn't a specific format to follow for..."flying." All things are possible inside the LD realm. Achieve the realm and the occurrences you choose to experience there are cake. ;)
Good luck :)
"Waiting" for the urges to subside over time is probably not a good strategy. I'm over 3x older than OP and just about every single LD I've ever had (30+) has ended prematurely (I believe) because of succumbing to temptation to messing around with females. Actually my thing is kissing: I always want to kiss to start things out and I think lucid kissing must be an advanced technique or something because of filling your visual field and the reflex to close eyes. I even remembered to keep eyes open once and it only helped for a few more seconds.
You have to decide ahead of time not to give in. In one good solid aware and memory-enabled LD I explicitly stayed away from female DCs and it helped to prolong the dream a bit.
The pattern is quite familiar to me by now: get into a great LD, stabilize, feel *really* solid, encounter CG, figure "one quick kiss should be fine" and then POOF there goes the dream all of a sudden, losing potentially 5, 10 or more awesome lucid minutes.
So until you build up a good lucid frequency and good stabilization, I'd make the firm decision to avoid the ladies, so that that memory can carry over into the dreams.
I'm sorry...maybe I missed it...but is there some problem mentioned that I missed? :)
There are no "problems" - only wise, interesting and fun solutions. ;)