Lucid dreaming with deceased?

Hello, all. I hope I am doing this right. My name is nicole and I have just turned 23 last week (September). This past year, my younger brother, Robert, had gone away to school. We were fighting a lot, as siblings do... Just five months ago At the end of March this year, still dorming hours from home, he passed away suddenly one night. He was 20 years old.

Now this has not been the first time I have dreamt of Robert. But last night something special happened to me. You see Robert had always been very smart and he was interested in lucid dreaming, he tried teaching me but I thought it was just nonsense. With my birthday being near Labor Day weekend, we would always have a family BBQ at my home with my cousins.

In last nights dream, I was my present-day self. I was just standing there looking around my birthday party, knowing he was missing. But all my cousins were running around playing as we were children, it was all very hazy. But then, there he was. It was so incredibly real. Also as his present-day self, my brother stood in front of me. He was slightly taller than his true height, almost feeling like he was portrayed as being older than he really was. I look him strong in the face, knowing that in reality he could not truly be standing there. I knew immediately I was dreaming. We did not exchange words,but tears were pouring down his face. I thought, could this be??? I grabbed my brothers face and began wiping his tears, and I swear I could feel his face. My hands felt soaking wet. I couldn't believe I was touching my brothers tears in my dream. I had to prove this to myself, I'm dreaming, so I licked my brothers tears from my hands, and they were salty like the ocean. How do you feel, and taste! In a dream? And then I woke up.


I think he is telling me he is sorry for not being there for my birthday?

I'm sorry for your loss, Very touching! I'm glad you experienced this dream and hopefully gave you some closure!

Personally I don't believe in the deceased being able to make contact with the living (but that's just me). For me it would seem as though it's your conscience trying to tell you something, or that you were saddened that your brother wouldn't be there on your birthday, understandably

I'm also sorry for your loss!
Let's look at this again, keeping in mind how dreams 'work'.
You are often dreaming about people or things you care about. In my case, my parents show up in my dreams almost every night.
In your case it's your brother. Seeing him on your birthday party can mean, like ixJake said, that you are saddened that your brother can't be on your birthday party.
It can also mean that you dream about things you expect how they would be. It sounds a bit confusing but what I mean is that, for example, you just moved to another house, you would often dream that you are in your previous house. This is because its inculcated in your mind. It can be the same with your brother. Because he lived for 20 years, and came to your other birthday party's, you'll expect him to be at this one too.

But, because tears were pouring down his face, I think you dreamed of him because of the recent loss.